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One may have to live away from one's hometown. Your
husband may be working for the private or the public sector and sent on
duty to another city or town also. Some people live in this way either
temporarily or permanently. Men are forced to cope with this situation
but some women prefer to be near their parents and relatives. These women
are accustomed to the streets, walls, and the environment of their place
of birth. After moving away they blame their husbands and complain: "Why
should I live away from my home? How long am I going to be away from my
home and my parents? I have no one in this place. What is this place you
have brought me? I cannot stay here; so think of a way out!"
These women should not upset their husbands in this
way. They are so feeble-minded that they think their birth places are the
best locations to live. They think that they cannot enjoy life anywhere
else. Mankind is not satisfied even with its own planet, so it has stepped
onto other planets. But one looks and finds a woman who is so improvident
that she is not prepared to live a few miles away from her hometown. She
thinks to herself: "Why should I leave all my friends and relatives to
get to a strange place? 'It is as if this lady is not self-confident enough
to be able to find new friends in another place away from her home.
Dear madam! be wise and sacrificing. Do not be selfish.
Now that your husband's job has taken you away from your hometown, do not
cause him any distress. If he is a civil servant, he has orders to travel
on duty and if he has a private business, then surely it is to his advantage
to live in another location. If your husband informs you that he has to
live in another place, then you should agree at once. You should then help
pack up and move to new places where you must try to feel at home. Plan
your life in this new home and adapt yourself to it. Since you are new
in the area and probably not familiar with the characteristics of the inhabitants,
be cautious with them. After a while, with the help and supervision
of your husband, try to make friends from among the chaste and trustworthy
women.
Every place has its own merits. You can relax by sightseeing
and visiting ancient buildings. You must keep the family together and encourage
your husband in his work. After a while you get used to your new home and
you might even like it more than your previous one. You might find that
your new friends are better than your old ones.
If the new place lacks the luxury of your previous
town, then get used to the new life and find its merits. If you are no
longer enjoying such privileges as electricity, then your environment may
have a better climate and you may be able to get fresher and better quality
food. If there are not any proper roads, then you will not be inhaling
toxic exhaust fumes and you will be away from all the noise of people and
cars.
Think a little about your country men and women who
are living happily in mud and brick houses and would not give any heed
to the luxuries of city life and their beautiful castle-like houses. Think
of their needs and deprivations. If you can help them, then do not hesitate
and encourage your husband to be helpful to them. If you are wise and perform
your duty, then you can live comfortably in the new place. You can be helpful
towards your husband's progress. This way you would be known as a respected
and devoted wife. You will be loved by your husband and would earn popularity
amongst the people. Moreover Allah will be satisfied with you.