An unmarried man is free to spend his time. but once
married, he must alter his program. He cannot stay out for any length of
time that he desires He should inform his wife of his whereabouts, etc.
He must not forget that his wife stays at home all the day, cleans the
house, washes the dishes, and cooks. She waits for him to return home as
soon as his work is finished, to see him, talk to him, and to enjoy his
company. The children look forward to seeing their father too. It is not
fair that a man should leave his family at home and pursue his enjoyment
Marriage is not only providing food and clothes for
one's family. A woman is her husband's partner and not a servant. She is
not there to work all the day and get fed in return, but rather she hopes
to have a permanent friend and partner.
Some men are truly unfair, unjust, and foolish. They
leave their wives and children at home and spend their nights somewhere
else. The money that they should spend at home for the family, they waste
at other places. Such men have not yet understood the meaning of love and
affection and regard their cheap and filthy enjoyments as a way of good
living. They overlook the fact that they would degrade themselves through
such deeds. Others would recognize them as silly and impudent.
These men are the causes of the unhappiness of themselves
and their families. Their acts drive their wives to seek a divorce from
"A man who had divorced his wife, said in the court:
'At the beginning of my marriage, I had certain friends that I used to
go out with, while leaving my wife behind..., and I used to return home
in the early hours of the morning, My wife, who was fed up with this situation,
obtained a divorce. We had ten children, whom I was supposed to meet twice
a month. Some time passed like this. But it is quite some time now that
my children are in hiding and I am desperate to see my children',"
"A woman said: 'I am frustrated with loneliness. My
husband does not care about me at all. Every night for his own enjoyment
he is out until the early hours of the morning '."
Dear sir! you are now married. You should not act like a bachelor. You are responsible for your wife and the children. Do not associate with unworthy friends. Return home as soon as you finish your work. Enjoy a family life and be a good company for your wife and the children. Even if your nightly amusements are not wrong they can be nevertheless harmful to you and your married life.
 Ittela'at, 11th Tir, 1349 Solar Hijri.
"Wa Nami Danand Chara" (..And They Do Not Know, Why?") p, 138.