Dear lady! you are the mistress of your household.
Be wise and understanding. Keep an account of your expenses. Budget your
expenditures in a way that it is not detrimental to your wealth and honour.
Do not compete with others and be envious of them. If you see a nice dress
on a woman, or if you become interested in some furnishings that you have
seen at a friend's or relative's house, do not compel your husband to purchase
them which is beyond his financial means and would force him to borrow.
Isn't it better to wait until your budget is higher or there is some extra
saving to make non-essential purchases?
It is mostly the ignorant and selfish women
who succumb to extravagance and rivalry. These women force their husbands
to be under debt and they become exhausted and disgusted in trying to satisfy
the unsatiable demands of their wives. Sometimes, the only solution to
these problems for the men is to go for a divorce or even commit suicide.
The women who have not perceived the true purpose
and meaning of marriage and instead they regard it in terms of bondage
where the husband is acquired to fulfill their childish desires and material
needs. They want a husband who will serve them like a slave and will not
object to their way of spending. These women sometimes even go further
. They make their husbands spend more than their means which may entail
bankruptcy, murder, and other disastrous consequences.
Such women are a disgrace to other women. If her high
expectations lead to divorce, the woman will be deprived of the love of
her children, and will have to live a life of loneliness. For these women
remarriage will not happen easily. Even if it does happen, it is not certain
that the marriage will work out since most human beings do not like to
be kept in unreasonable bondage and the new husband may not be able to
meet their demands any better than the previous one.
Dear lady! instead of being covetous, try to be reasonable.
Spend more time and effort for the well-being of your family and husband
rather than trying to imitate everyone. If your husband spends lavishly,
then stop him and curb his unnecessary expenses. Instead of buying non-essential
commodities, it is better to save some money for a rainy day.
"In a tradition, the Holy Prophet (SA) stated: 'Any
woman who is not compatible with her husband and persuades him to act beyond
his capacity, then her deeds would not be accepted by Allah. She would
taste the wrath of Allah on the Day of Resurrection'."
In another Tradition, the Holy Prophet (SA) stated:
"Any woman who is not compatible with her husband,
is not content with what Allah has blessed them with, and treats her husband
harshly by demanding him to give more than he is able, then her acts (or
worship) are not acceptable by Allah and He will be angry with her'."
"In other tradition, the Holy Prophet (SA) stated: After having faith in Allah, there is not any greater blessing than to have a compatible spouse'."
 Bihar al-Anwar, vol 71, p 244.
 Ibid, vol 76. p 367.
Mustadrak, vol 3, p 532.