Politeness and forgiveness
Cultivate forgiveness and politeness. Those with qualities of politeness and forgiveness will go to paradise without accounting for their deeds. These qualities are amongst the attributes of Allah. There are several incidents about the politeness of prophets and ‘awliyas’. Some of the traditions state that a man cannot became pious till he is polite.
(Mustadrak-2, p 304)
Allah loves a believer who is polite. It is one of the qualities of a momin.
(Mustatul Anwar, p. 195)
A man who has power to retaliate, yet he acts with politeness and restrain, Allah will fill his heart with pleasure and Imaan on the day of the judgement, and He will give him the right to select any ‘hoor’ he pleases. He will be given the reward of a martyr.
(Mustadrak-2, p. 88)
To control your anger is praiseworthy in the eye’s of Allah whether you control your anger by patience or by politeness. The more you control your anger, the more Allah will bestow you with honour. When everyone will gather on the day of the judgement, a caller will announce ‘Where are those with good qualities?’ Then, one group will come forward. Angels will ask ‘What are your good qualities?’ They will reply that “We were kind to those who had cut off relations with us. We were giving to those who had denied us, forgiving those who had opposed us,” Then will hear one voice: Whatever you have said is true. Enter without accounting for you deeds.
(Mustadrak-2, p 87)
Forgiveness is “Zakat’ of success.
One who is powerful enough to punish, has the maximum right to forgive.
(Wasaelush Shia-2, p 223)
Son! Forgive those who have done wrong to you so that Allah may forgive your wrong-doings and elevate your status.
Beware, never get angry or excited. It is a sign of weakness of faith (Aqida). Anger destroys faith as vinegar spoils honey.
(Usul-e-kafi-2, p. 302)
There are four pillars of ‘Kufr’:
· anger and
· ‘gazab’ and gazab is the key of all wickedness.
(Usuel-e-Kafi 2, p. 303)
By anger many intelligent man’s heart (mind) are ruined.
(Usul-e-Kafi-2, p. 305)
Shaitan has promised that anger is his net (gallow). With this I lead the best of men astray.
Religious scholars have suggested a few ways to control anger:
(1) Say ` Aozo Billah-e-Menash Shaitanir Rajim`.
(2) Remember Allah. It is stated in ‘tauret’ : Oh son of Adam ! Remember me, when you are angry so that I may remember you at the time of my ‘Gazab’ and save you from ruin. When someone oppresses you, remember my retribution. I will punish him more than you can.
(Wasaelus-Shia –2, p 470)
(3) If you are standing when you get angry, then sit down. If you sitting, then lie down or get up.
(4) Change your place. While talking with Hazrat Moosa (a.s.), Shaitan said ‘whenever you are angry, change your place, otherwise I will put you in trouble’.
(5) Do ‘Wazu’ and wash your hands and face with cold water.
(Jam-us-saadat, p. 296)
(6) If you are angry with any relative, touch your body with his body. This will pacify your anger.
(7) Drink water.
(Mahasin Barki, p. 572)
(8) Eat kismiss (grapes). This will suppress your anger.
(Mustadrak p 115)
(9) Recite this Dua! Allahumma-Azhib Anni Gaiza kalli wa Ajrim min muzillate fetan as-aloka gunnataka wa Auzo beka menas-shirk; Allahumma Sabitni alal huda wassawab wajalni rezeyan marziyya gyro zalin wala mozillan.
It is stated in the traditions that whosoever suppresses his anger, Allah will forgive him on the day of the judgement. He will cover his sins and give him paradise.
(Wasaelush-Shia-2, p. 470)