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Amina Inloes,
Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the Islamic College in London and also the Managing Editor of the Journal of Shi'a Islamic Studies. 590 Answers
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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi,
Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to religious questions. In the past, he has also spent significant time in India guiding the community. 3021 Answers
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Rebecca Masterton,
Dr Rebecca Masterton graduated with a BA in Japanese Language and Literature; an MA in Comparative East Asian and African Literature and a PhD in Islamic literature of West Africa. She has been teaching for seventeen years through different media, and has also worked in media for ten years, producing and presenting programs for several TV channels. 102 Answers
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Zoheir Ali Esmail,
Shaykh Zoheir Ali Esmail has a Bsc in Accounting and Finance from the LSE in London, and an MA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University. He studied Arabic at Damascus University and holds a PhD from the University of Exeter in the philosophical and mystical readings of Mulla Sadra in the context of the schools of Tehran and Qum. 357 Answers
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Seyed Ali Shobayri,
Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the Islamic College of London. He also studied at the Hawza Ilmiyya of England and continues Hawza and Islamic studies with private teachers. 154 Answers
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I'm not sure there is a single "right reason" for conversion since people's reasons are often complex. I don't think it is necessarily wrong to convert for a significant other, as long as there is: (a) belief (on some level), and (b) commitment. The reason why I say this is that no one is going to have a fully formed belief as a Muslim without actually being a Muslim (just as no one is going to have a fully formed belief as a Catholic without actually being a Catholic). However one should at least agree with the general tenets (such as belief in God, belief in the Prophet, belief in the Qur'an as divine revelation, belief in the Hereafter) and have the willingness or desire to make a leap of faith, and to develop that faith.
In this case, assuming that the end goal is marriage, one should also have the desire to have a Muslim family and raise one's children as Muslims (which may or may not be what you want for the rest of your life).
However, there are no guarantees regarding marriage or relationships, and a good rule of thumb here would be to ask yourself, what if the relationship/marriage didn't work out - would you still be committed to being a Muslim? If the answer is "yes" then it is a good sign you are on the right track (even if a primary reason for converting is your partner); if the answer is "no", that warrants more consideration.
However, what concerns me about this question is that you say you are feeling pressured. This suggests that somewhere inside you don't want to do it or aren't ready. If you aren't ready, you aren't ready, and you shouldn't push yourself. Assuming you are in a Muslim-minority country, living as a Muslim and as a minority can be challenging, and if you don't have full commitment, it can be a difficult to manage that challenge.
Anyway, things in life usually happen when they are ready to happen, and not before that. So maybe it is good to give it some time now and do prayer, reflection, and more research about Islam. (Even if you have already researched, there isn't a limit to how much one can research!) I am sure you will come to a decision when you are ready.
Also perhaps it is good to ask your partner to give you some space and not to push you, since this is a decision that affects your life and future and so it is one that you should be certain about.
From my observation, when someone converts to Islam specifically for the sake of a partner, the dynamics can sometimes get a little weird since their partner often becomes their first teacher about or model of Islam. That can set up a very slanted power dynamic and a loss of self (especially if it leads to their partner dictating to them a new identity and a set of instructions on what they can or cannot do in life). That, in turn, doesn't lead to the happiest of marriages. Anyway, I am not saying that is automatically going to happen, but it's another thing that you could keep an eye on if that is a factor here.