Zeinab Donati, Zeinab Donati has been studying books about various Islamic subjects for more than 19 years. She is deeply interested in history and politics as well as social issues in particular those pertaining... Answered 1 year ago

Assalamu aleykum,

I cannot reply on the fact of this situation being a sin or not, but I would like you to ponder on several elements.

- Marriage is a very important part of one’s life, it affects your future and your spouse’s,

- intercourse is a basic need of every human being, of both men and women, so being in such a situation where no martial relation with the spouse is not advisable and also detrimental for both parts,

I would like to remind you about the Verse of the Holy Qur’an: …[a woman] must be retained in honour or released in kindness.(2:229)

My recommendations are the following:

- try to find a solution to your problems with your spouse, communication is the key for any kind of relationship

- contact a local scholar and or a respected person for your family, talk about your issues and seek advice and help to resolve your problems and have a blessed marriage

I suggest you to read the following texts that may be of help to change your marriage for the better inshaAllah:

https://www.al-islam.org/marital-life-importance-and-issues

https://www.al-islam.org/islamic-marriage-handbook-syed-athar-husayn-sh-...

https://www.al-islam.org/principles-marriage-family-ethics-ayatullah-ibr...

https://www.al-islam.org/marriage-and-morals-islam-sayyid-muhammad-rizvi 

https://www.al-islam.org/from-marriage-to-parenthood-heavenly-path-abbas...

https://www.al-islam.org/introduction-rights-and-duties-women-islam-ayat...

In this page you will also find some duaas recommended for marriage:

http://www.duas.org/matri1.htm 

Here below also some very interesting videos about marriage:

https://www.al-islam.org/media/ideal-marriage-islam-sayed-mustafa-al-qaz...

https://www.al-islam.org/media/blessings-marriage-islam-sayed-mustafa-al...

https://www.al-islam.org/media/islamic-married-life-part-1-2

https://www.al-islam.org/media/how-make-our-marriages-more-stable-sayed-...

https://www.al-islam.org/media/husband-and-wife-roles-islam-balancing-fa...

https://www.al-islam.org/media/husband-and-wife-roles-society-vs-reality