Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 year ago

Bismihi ta'ala

In Islam, sexual foreplay between husband and wife is highly recommended and encouraged, in whatever form or kind it may be. Both husband and wife must equally be satisfied with by fulfilling their sexual urges, and it is very important to accommodate to the sexual needs of one's spouse.

Sexual climaxing is not only naturally and intimately important, but will also strengthen the relationship as well.

As for when a wife is in her menstrual cycle, vaginal penetration is haram, but any other kind of sexual please is permissible. 

However, foreign instruments must not be used, and also najasah like blood or semen must not be swallowed.

And Allah knows best.