Zeinab Donati

Zeinab Donati has been studying books about various Islamic subjects for more than 19 years. She is deeply interested in history and politics as well as social issues in particular those pertaining to women.

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Zeinab Donati, Zeinab Donati has been studying books about various Islamic subjects for more than 19 years. She is deeply interested in history and politics as well as social issues in particular those pertaining... Answered 1 year ago

Assalamu aleykum,

Thanks for your question. 

Examining and doing medical procedures while studying to become a registered nurse or a doctor, being a part of the training required to reach that position is absolutely permitted. 

Kindly refer to the following texts online:

- A Code of Practice For Muslims in the West by Ayatullah Sistani, under the chapter “Medical Issues”, especially question 355 and 356:

https://www.al-islam.org/a-code-of-practice-for-muslims-in-the-west-ayat...

- Islamic Rulings: Medical Issues, by Sayyid Khamanei, chapter “Rules Regarding Looking, Touching and Examining”:

https://www.al-islam.org/islamic-rulings-medical-issues-sayyid-ali-khame...

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Zeinab Donati, Zeinab Donati has been studying books about various Islamic subjects for more than 19 years. She is deeply interested in history and politics as well as social issues in particular those pertaining... Answered 1 year ago

Assalamu aleykum,

I cannot reply on the fact of this situation being a sin or not, but I would like you to ponder on several elements.

- Marriage is a very important part of one’s life, it affects your future and your spouse’s,

- intercourse is a basic need of every human being, of both men and women, so being in such a situation where no martial relation with the spouse is not advisable and also detrimental for both parts,

I would like to remind you about the Verse of the Holy Qur’an: …[a woman] must be retained in honour or released in kindness.(2:229)

My recommendations are the following:

- try to find a solution to your problems with your spouse, communication is the key for any kind of relationship

- contact a local scholar and or a respected person for your family, talk about your issues and seek advice and help to resolve your problems and have a blessed marriage

I suggest you to read the following texts that may be of help to change your marriage for the better inshaAllah:

https://www.al-islam.org/marital-life-importance-and-issues

https://www.al-islam.org/islamic-marriage-handbook-syed-athar-husayn-sh-...

https://www.al-islam.org/principles-marriage-family-ethics-ayatullah-ibr...

https://www.al-islam.org/marriage-and-morals-islam-sayyid-muhammad-rizvi 

https://www.al-islam.org/from-marriage-to-parenthood-heavenly-path-abbas...

https://www.al-islam.org/introduction-rights-and-duties-women-islam-ayat...

In this page you will also find some duaas recommended for marriage:

http://www.duas.org/matri1.htm 

Here below also some very interesting videos about marriage:

https://www.al-islam.org/media/ideal-marriage-islam-sayed-mustafa-al-qaz...

https://www.al-islam.org/media/blessings-marriage-islam-sayed-mustafa-al...

https://www.al-islam.org/media/islamic-married-life-part-1-2

https://www.al-islam.org/media/how-make-our-marriages-more-stable-sayed-...

https://www.al-islam.org/media/husband-and-wife-roles-islam-balancing-fa...

https://www.al-islam.org/media/husband-and-wife-roles-society-vs-reality

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Zeinab Donati, Zeinab Donati has been studying books about various Islamic subjects for more than 19 years. She is deeply interested in history and politics as well as social issues in particular those pertaining... Answered 1 year ago

Assalamu aleykum,

Please kindly visit the following webpage, you will find some useful duaas concerning marriage:

http://www.duas.org/matri1.htm

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Zeinab Donati, Zeinab Donati has been studying books about various Islamic subjects for more than 19 years. She is deeply interested in history and politics as well as social issues in particular those pertaining... Answered 1 year ago

Assalamu aleykum,

First of all, I commend you for being willing to follow the traditions and Sunnah of the Holy Prophet (S) and the Ahlul Bayt (as) in regards to marriage.

In many narrations it is reported that marriage is half of religion, and it is also recommended to marry at young age.

However you need to keep in mind that you have duties of obedience towards your parents, and it won’t be possible for you to marry if you don’t have the consent of your wali, guardian, your father. But besides the rules, rest assured that your parents have only your best interest in mind and they worry about you and your future, even if now you may think that they want to forbid you one of your rights or that they are treating you like a child. Believe me, they are only trying to protect you and they don’t want you to rush into such an important decision that will affect all your future life.

So my recommendations are the following:

- try to discuss with your parents, in a very calm manner why you want to marry, what is your point of view;

- show them that you are mature, read and watch videos about marriage in Islam and its rules, responsibilities, that will both show them that you are serious and will inform you about it,

- contact a local scholar and or a respected person for your family, explain why you want to marry and see if this person or people can help you make your parents understand your reasons,

- if you have already a person in mind, talk about this person, have your parents meet him and get to know him.

 Concerning resources about marriage, I suggest you to read the following texts;

https://www.al-islam.org/articles/marriage-gift-youth-sajid-ali 

https://www.al-islam.org/youth-and-spouse-selection-ali-akbar-mazaheri 

https://www.al-islam.org/from-marriage-to-parenthood-heavenly-path-abbas...

https://www.al-islam.org/principles-marriage-family-ethics-ayatullah-ibr...

https://www.al-islam.org/marital-life-importance-and-issues

https://www.al-islam.org/islamic-marriage-handbook-syed-athar-husayn-sh-...

 

In this page you will also find some duaas recommended for marriage:

http://www.duas.org/matri1.htm 

Here below also some very interesting videos about marriage:

https://www.al-islam.org/media/ideal-marriage-islam-sayed-mustafa-al-qaz...

https://www.al-islam.org/media/blessings-marriage-islam-sayed-mustafa-al...

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Zeinab Donati, Zeinab Donati has been studying books about various Islamic subjects for more than 19 years. She is deeply interested in history and politics as well as social issues in particular those pertaining... Answered 1 year ago

Assalamu aleykum,

Looking at people of opposite gender is not a problem per se, although it should be avoided because it can cause lust thoughts, as you have described and experienced.

God commands the believing men and women to lower from their gazes in the Qur’an:

“Say to the believing men to lower their gazes and guard their chastity…”(An-Nur, 24: 30)

 “And tell the believing women to lower their eyes, and guard their modesty, ….”(An-Nur, 24: 31)

So we should always keep in mind that is it as requirement to avoid looking at opposite sex people and to try to lower our gaze as much as possible.

To understand more about the meaning of lower one’s gaze, please refer to 

1. Meaning of Casting Down

1. What “casting down the glances” mean?

It means that a person should not look at the member of the opposite sex except for those parts that may be uncovered.

So, for instance, a man is allowed to look at the face and hands of a non-mahram lady who is not related to him provided it is not done in with a lustful intention. (“Mahram” means person in whose presence hijab is not required. See the list at end of this section.)

https://www.al-islam.org/hijab-muslim-womens-dress-islamic-or-cultural-s...

Also, you may want to refer to the book A Code of Ethics for Muslim Men and Women in particular the rulings related to looking at others:

https://www.al-islam.org/code-ethics-muslim-men-and-women-sayyid-masud-m...

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Zeinab Donati, Zeinab Donati has been studying books about various Islamic subjects for more than 19 years. She is deeply interested in history and politics as well as social issues in particular those pertaining... Answered 1 year ago

ssalamu aleykum,

Contraception is never a sin in Islam. If you feel that you don’t want to have children, it is your right to prevent pregnancy.

Please refer to the book Marriage and Morals in Islam:

According to the Shi 'ah fiqh, family planning as a private measure to space or regulate the family size for health or economic reasons is permissible. Neither is there any Qur'anic verse or hadith against birth control, nor is it wajib to have children in marriage. So basically, birth control would come under the category of ja'iz, lawful acts. 

https://www.al-islam.org/marriage-and-morals-islam-sayyid-muhammad-rizvi...

From Marriage to Parenthood: The Heavenly Path 

https://www.al-islam.org/from-marriage-to-parenthood-heavenly-path-abbas...

Here below you can read more about contraception in general on an Islamic point of view:

https://www.al-islam.org/islamic-edicts-on-family-planning/birth-control

https://www.al-islam.org/islamic-marriage-handbook-syed-athar-husayn-sh-...

And because you just got married, I strongly suggest reading the above books from the beginning to the end to help you out in your married life inshaAllah.

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Zeinab Donati, Zeinab Donati has been studying books about various Islamic subjects for more than 19 years. She is deeply interested in history and politics as well as social issues in particular those pertaining... Answer updated 1 year ago

Assalamu aleykum,

Contraception is never a sin in Islam. If you feel that you don’t want to have more children, it is your right to prevent pregnancy.

Please refer to the book From Marriage to Parenthood: The Heavenly Path especially this passage: 

Consent between husband and wife

According to the legal aspect of Islamic law, the wife has full right to the use of contraceptives, even without the consent and approval of her husband. However, she should not use a method which may come in the way of her husband’s conjugal rights. For example, she cannot force him to use a condom or practice coitus interruptus. This rule is based upon the principle that the extent of the husband’s conjugal rights over his wife is just that she should be sexually available, responsive, and cooperative. This right does not extend to that of bearing children for him. Bearing children or not is a personal decision of the woman, and therefore, she may use contraceptives such as pills, injections or cleansing of the vagina after intercourse as they do not interfere with her husband’s conjugal rights.

https://www.al-islam.org/from-marriage-to-parenthood-heavenly-path-abbas...

Also the book Marriage and Morals in Islam:

According to the Shi 'ah fiqh, family planning as a private measure to space or regulate the family size for health or economic reasons is permissible. Neither is there any Qur'anic verse or hadith against birth control, nor is it wajib to have children in marriage. So basically, birth control would come under the category of ja'iz, lawful acts.

https://www.al-islam.org/marriage-and-morals-islam-sayyid-muhammad-rizvi...

Here below you can read more about contraception in general on an Islamic point of view:

https://www.al-islam.org/islamic-edicts-on-family-planning/birth-control

https://www.al-islam.org/islamic-marriage-handbook-syed-athar-husayn-sh-rizvi/contraceptives-and-abortion

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Zeinab Donati, Zeinab Donati has been studying books about various Islamic subjects for more than 19 years. She is deeply interested in history and politics as well as social issues in particular those pertaining... Answer updated 1 year ago

Assalamu aleykum,

Some precious stones such as rubies, pearls and coral are mentioned in the Qur’an:

“(In beauty) they are like rubies and coral” [al-Rahmaan 55:58]

“Out of them both come out pearl and coral” [al-Rahmaan 55:22]

“Like unto preserved pearls” [al-Waaqi’ah 56:23]

And they have been mentioned in many traditions as well; most of the times the stones are mentioned to be set in rings.

Both Sunni and Shia have verified narrations confirming that the Prophet (s) along with his companions and Ali (as) wore rings. “Sahih Al-Bukhari”, “Sahih Muslim”, “An expository of the features of the Prophet” by Al- Tirmidhi, and “The compilation of the branches of belief” by Al- Bayhaqi all narrate that the Prophet (s) used to wear a ring. 

Furthermore, Al-Jahiz in “Engravings of rings” enumerated 24 prophets who wore rings. However, scholars of the two denominations have split. While only some Sunni clerics uphold the legitimacy and merit of wearing a ring, Shias unanimously promote it. In Shia communities and culture, wearing a ring is part of casual attire for both genders. Yes, it is a very advised to wear silver rings (gold is forbidden for men) with specific gemstones especially in the right hand in Shiaism. It has been narrated in our traditions that it is one of the ‘badges of Shiaism’.

Here are a few traditions on some ring-wearing manners.

Some Recommended Stones

- Aqeeq (عقيق)

It is the best of all gems for the abundance of traditions in its virtues. Some traditions praise the red variety of it.

قال رسول الله (ص): تختموا بالعقيق فإنه مبارك، ومن تختم بالعقيق يوشك أن يقضى له بالحسنى

The Prophet (s): “Wear aqeeq rings for it is blessed. Whosoever wears aqeeq rings is almost destined to bliss”

شكا رجل إلى النبي (ص) أنه قطع عليه الطريق فقال (ص): هلا تختمت بالعقيق فإنه يحرس من كل سوء

A man complained to the Prophet (s) about road thieves. So the Prophet (s) replied, “you should wear an aqeeq ring, for it protects from all harm”

-Ruby (ياقوت)

ان أبو عبد الله (ع)كان يقول : تختموا باليواقيت فإنها تنفي الفقر

Imam al-Sadiq (as): “Wear rubies as rings for it vanquishes poverty”

-Turquoise (فيروز)

عن علي بن محمد الصيمري الكاتب أنه ذكر لعلي بن محمد بن الرضا (عليه السلام) أنه لا يولد له فتبسم وقال: اتخذ خاتماً فصه فيروزج واكتب عليه (رب لا تذرني فرداً وأنت خير الوارثين) قال ففعلت ذلك فلما أتى عليّ حول حتى رزقت منها ولداً ذكراً

A man lamented at Imam Ali al-Hadi (as) that he has no children. The Imam smiled and said “Obtain a ring with turquoise stone and write on it ‘My lord, do not leave be alone while you are the best of inheritors’ (21:89)”. The man narrates: “I’ve done so. When a year has passed, I was graced with a boy”.

The hand and fingers you should bedeck with rings

عن النبي ( ص) أنه قال: يا علي، لا تختم في السبابة والوسطى فإنه كان يتختم قوم لوط فيهما، ولا تعر الخنصر

The Prophet (s) said to Imam Ali (as): “O’ Ali, do not wear a ring on the index and middle fingers, as the people of Lot use to wear rings on them, and do not let bare your pinky [of a ring]”

Wearing more than one ring is mustahab (highly recommended)

كان لعلي (ع) أربعة خواتيم يتختم بها: ياقوت لنبله، وفيروزج لنصرته، والحديد الصيني لقوته، وعقيق لحرزه

Imam Ali (as) had four rings: a ruby for its nobility, a turquoise for its aid, a hadid sin (translates to Chinese iron but more accurately hematite, presumably brought from China) for its strength, and an aqeeq for its amulet.

Other

عن العسكري (ع): علامات المؤمن خمس: التختم في اليمين

Imam Hassan Al-Askari (as): “The signs of the believer are five: wearing a ring on the right hand, …”

The gemstones that that are advised (mustahab) to be wore as in the head of the rings are agate, Chinese iron and turquoise.

While which one of those is ‘better’ hasn’t been clearly indicated, it can be easily deduced from our traditions that agate is the best one because it is mentioned many more times than the other gems. It comes in many different colours with the most famous one being dark red from Yemen. Indeed, there are many traditions specifically advising red agate from Yemen. Agate/aqeeq also comes in black, lighter shades of red (more orange-like), yellow and white.

About the Chinese iron, despite the name, it is actually the name of a gemstone. To be precise, it’s Hematite; a gemstone with a blackish shade of silver.

The third one is turquoise. It has a lighter shade of blue, like the sky.

As for the position of the ring, it is narrated that it should be on the ring-finger and Shia Muslims usually only wear them in the pinkie and ring fingers. It is narrated that it is hated to wear a ring on the middle finger so people usually avoid that. 

It is also highly advised (mustahab) to wear a silver ring on the ring-finger of the right hand with either an agate/hematite/turquoise ring-head in Shiaism.

It is the Sunnah of the Prophet (s) and he and the Masumin (as) advised us to wear rings. 

This text was not written by me but it sums it up well from the Shia perspective:

- Several sacred traditions have emphasized the significance and benefits of wearing an Aqeeq (agate) ring, preferably on the right hand.

-Imam Ali (peace be upon him) said, "The one who wears an aqeeq ring, Allah seals for him peace and faith." He also said, "Wear aqeeq on your rings, you will be blessed and will be saved from afflictions". (Makarimul Akhlaaq)

-In another tradition, Salman-al-Farsi (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates a conversation in which the Holy Prophet (peace be upon him and his progeny) was informing Imam Ali regarding the wearing of rings.

-The Prophet advised the Imam to wear the ring on his right hand, as by doing so, one would be included among the muqarrabin (those near to Allah). Imam Ali then asked which ring he should wear, and the Prophet advised him to wear a ring with a red aqeeq, as this stone had affirmed the Oneness of Allah, the Prophethood of Muhammad, the vicegerency of Ali, and paradise for the friends and Shias of Ali. (Hilyatul Muttaqin)

Imam Ali (as.) used to have four rings:

-1 with a ruby (gives humans beauty and dignity)

-1 with feroza/turquoise (brings divine help and victory)

-1 with hadid as-seen (brings strength)

-1 with aqeeq/agate (protects from enemies, misfortunes)

Our fifth Imam, Imam Mohamed Al-Baqir (as) has recommended 5 stones:

-Ruby

-Aqeeq

-Firoza

-Hadid as-Seen (hematite)

-Durr-e-Najaf

To deepen further the various traditions for each kind of stone, I suggest reading the following text:

http://www.durrenajaf.com/upload/51311674462c0.pdf

Concerning the belief of healing property of crystals and how they are perceived by Islam, there are few ideas that may be loosely comparable like the lower self (nafs) for example and the heart being a seat of spiritual realities or for example the aqeeq having spiritual qualities, or the firooz or turquoise ring; so certain gemstones have their hadiths supporting the idea that they may have some spiritual benefit.

Lastly, here is a documentary based on some Islamic sources and traditions held regarding certain Gem stones:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x2eHY9IXZ1Y

PS: The text has been reworded and edited

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Zeinab Donati, Zeinab Donati has been studying books about various Islamic subjects for more than 19 years. She is deeply interested in history and politics as well as social issues in particular those pertaining... Answered 1 year ago

Assalamu aleykum,

You may find some guidance on the following webpage:

http://www.duas.org/rizq.htm

Fi aman Allah.

Zeinab Donati

 

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Zeinab Donati, Zeinab Donati has been studying books about various Islamic subjects for more than 19 years. She is deeply interested in history and politics as well as social issues in particular those pertaining... Answered 1 year ago

Assalamu aleykum,

Istikhara is never required. One can decide to perform it, but since it is not an obligation, the answer to your question is no.

Please have a look at an interesting lecture about Istikhara in general:

https://www.islamicinsights.com/religion/clergy-corner/istikhara-to-do-o...

Hope this helps out understanding the matter inshaAllah.

 

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Zeinab Donati, Zeinab Donati has been studying books about various Islamic subjects for more than 19 years. She is deeply interested in history and politics as well as social issues in particular those pertaining... Answered 1 year ago

Assalamu aleykum,

There are a few communities spread in various cities of Italy, quite traditionally a goup of people of the same ethnicity that come together and they created an association. For example, there is a strong presence of Lebanese around Como area, north west of Italy, or a trong presence of Pakistanis the in Brescia area, or Iranian around Milan and so on.

In Rome, a group of people mainly composed by reverts, opened and Islamic Centre called Centro Islamico Imam Mahdi (aj) in 2004, and the centre is still multi-cultural and opened to all enthicities in order to satisfy the needs of all islamic comminities in Italy. For more information about the centre, have a look at their website: http://islamshia.org/

If you would like further information, let me know.

Fi aman Allah