Amina Inloes

Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the Islamic College in London and also the Managing Editor of the Journal of Shi'a Islamic Studies.

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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 6 days ago

If you feel justified in invoking divine wrath against someone, prayer number 14 in al-Sahifah al-Sajjadiyah ("His supplication when suffering acts of wrongdoing") may suffice, especially when recited regularly until the situation is resolved, and sometimes these du'as also help as a coping mechanism to gain wisdom from difficulty.

Ziyarat Ashura and Dua Alqamah do not hurt in this regard either.

Allah knows best whether death itself is the best manifestation of His justice, as sometimes justice is better served by keeping someone alive for some time. Frequently, Allah delivers justice in a manner which we could not have expected or asked for.

Of course, sometimes someone may wish to pray for someone to die to be free of their tyranny.

It is generally considered bad form to pray for the death of one's biological parents or children, perhaps due to the intimate link, but of course one could pray for other things such as relocation.

Death is guaranteed for all people anyway. 

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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 6 days ago

In the Qur'an, when used alone, the word "nafs" is not really used as a synonym for soul (in the sense of the soul as a non-corporeal entity distinct from the body). Rather, it is usually used to refer to the complete self; for instance, in phrases like "bring yourselves" or "they deceive themselves".

(Of course, this distinction can be blurry based on how one perceives the nature of the soul and the relationship between the soul and the body.)

This is different from the use of the word "nafs" outside the Qur'an, in that "nafs" in other texts or discussions is often used to mean specifically the immaterial part of the human.

Therefore, when the Qur'an says "kullu nafsin dha'iqat al-mawt", it means that all people will taste death in a holistic sense, not specifically that all souls will.

However, since the soul and body experience things simultaneously, the soul will also taste the experience of death, just as it experiences other things occurring via the body.

If one understands death to mean "transfer from realm to realm", rather than "annihilation", then definitely the soul will experience transfer from realm to realm upon death.

Some say that we will have a different type of body as a vehicle for the soul in the barzakh and in the Hereafter. Therefore, if death is also understood to mean "transfer from one type of body to another", the soul will also taste death in that way.

So it is not incorrect to say that all souls will taste death; the usage of the word in the Qur'an is simply more expansive than that.

Note that compound phrases in the Qur'an such as nafs al-'ammarah (the bestial soul), nafs al-lawwamah (the blaming soul), and nafs al-mutma'innah (the content soul which God calls to Paradise) refer more to immaterial aspects of the human being.

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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 1 week ago

I think it is 110 sahabah and 84 tabi'un, although I could be missing some since it's a big book.

This website has an extensive resource on the hadith of ghadir which may be of interest: https://www.al-islam.org/ghadir/

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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 1 week ago

What comes across as bad luck can be for a variety of reasons. Sometimes it can be a sign that we are not meant to do certain things, for instance, if we try to get a certain type of job repeatedly and are unable to do so. Sometimes it just happens for no apparent reason.

If you are concerned there may be a metaphysical reason for your bad luck (evil eye, cursework, etc), you could contact a reliable and trustworthy scholar with practical experience in these matters who could further advise you on that. If someone is suffering from bad luck for no apparent reason (e.g. they have freak accidents repeatedly although they are careful), it is worth looking into that sort of thing.

Some overall suggestions to bring blessings into your life (you may or may not be doing these things, I am just putting them out there in general):

* Reciting the Qur'an or playing it in the background, especially parts of the Qur'an recommended for things such as attracting sustenance, like Surat al-Waqi'ah
* Prayers for the deceased, including relatives and the mu'mineen
* Maintaining good ties with family (if it is appropriate to your situation)
* Hosting guests
* Holding religious gatherings such as majalis in your home (if it is possible)
* Praying the 5 daily prayers regularly with focus
* Keeping a clean and calm environment around you (as much as possible)
* Avoiding haraam acts or places where haraam acts are committed
* Keeping things like the 99 names of Allah or Qur'anic ayat on the walls (assuming you have a place to stay)
* Some narrations suggest keeping small animals, like birds, around also. 

I hope your long stretch of bad luck ends soon!

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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 1 week ago

It's good to choose friends who we want to be like and who we think are good influence on ourselves. We become like the people who we spend time with. 

If you feel your friends are bad influences on you, you should not spend time with them. It doesn't mean that you have to hate them, you can still wish well for them and pray for their well-being from a distance.

The human being is like a piece of clay being molded, we are affected by those who are around us who subconsciously mold us into what we are, so if we don't like what we are being molded into, it is good to choose other people to spend time around as much as we can!

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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 1 week ago

Don't overthink it - just do it - the whole idea behind it is that Allah is guiding you and you are not controlling the action yourself. Allah is merciful and will not deprive anyone of divine guidance due to details. 

Usually people have in mind which direction they will be counting and then do it, for instance if I am holding it with the main bead to the left, I have the intention I am counting that way before I proceed. 

Maybe someone here can post a video on YouTube or link to one (hint). 

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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 1 week ago

Sorry to hear about your situation.

I just wanted to add that even in this day and age when we think we control everything with technology, life and death are still in the hands of Allah. I have known several men and women who thought they were infertile (or even had surgery to prevent children) who later had children. Similarly, some people who are fertile never have children.

So unless there is an obvious genetic or anatomical reason why it is wholly impossible for you to father children, sometimes the possibility exists.

Of course you know your situation best, and perhaps it is not relevant to your specific situation. I just thought I would put it out there in general - there are no guarantees - although sometimes we can get a good idea of the probability of something happening, and it makes sense for someone who has a strong interest in having children to maximize the probability of it happening.

 

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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 3 weeks ago

The minimum requirements for silat al-rahm are not too extensive, and there is no shariah requirement that you attend specific gatherings. So it seems like, perhaps, you are more concerned about not wanting to offend your relatives by not attending gatherings; or, perhaps, they are pressuring you. (Or perhaps you are afraid of God, in which case, God created you, and God understands how you feel.) In any case, it seems that what is necessary is to find a balance between your personal needs and their social expectations.

If these are your blood relatives (not adopted relatives, in-laws, etc), it would not be surprising if some of them feel the same way, since personality traits tend to run in the family. So maybe some of them might understand how you feel and also have some suggestions. For instance, there is no reason why, according to shariah, you can't have smaller visits and keep up with your relatives individually, once in a while, on a one-to-one basis, instead of in a big group; or on the telephone/internet, rather than at large gatherings. This might be more comfortable; although this may not fit their preferences.

Tendencies towards introversion or extroversion appear to be inborn and lifelong. However, one of the tasks of adulthood is to develop our opposite, less dominant traits. So, for an introvert, this is developing more facility with socializing or "people-y" situations. 

(I can sympathize as I am also very strongly on the introvert side!)

If you haven't already, you could try reading some of the books available today about socializing for introverts and introvert psychology, since there might be some useful tips about managing busy social situations, recovering your own personal energy after being around too many people, finding your own boundaries, ways to tell people that you need time to yourself, and so forth. 

In my view, due to the spread of digital communications, it is more common these days for people to feel awkward in in-person social gatherings, regardless of whether they are introverts or extroverts, so you could also look at things that have been written about social anxiety or awkwardness. (I am NOT saying you are suffering from this, just saying that it seems to be more common, and there might be something useful.)

Similarly, it's good to remember that other people also sometimes feel awkward in social situations and just don't say it.

Inshallah I hope you find some solutions that work for you!

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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 3 weeks ago

It is related al-Ash'ath ibn Qays (al-Amali, al-Saduq, p. 185) went blind for refusing to bear witness to what happened at Ghadeer.

Some also mention Zayd ibn Arqam although this might be in error. 

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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 1 month ago

I don't have anything to add, but I just wanted to say that I am sorry about your and his suffering and I pray that Allah makes it easier. 

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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 1 month ago

In addition to praying for assistance in learning, I would suggest that perhaps you can try different techniques for learning. For instance, some people memorize well if they memorize to a fixed set of sounds (such as copying someone's recitation from a recording and always reciting it the same way until it is fully memorized). Others memorize well if they visualize the contents of the text well. Some people even use hand gestures with meanings to help with memorizing.

Personally, I find that knowing more about the tafsir of ayat helps me to remember them better, since I am able to put them in place better and understand how they relate to each other.

I heard of someone once who memorized the whole Qur'an during advertisements on TV. He used to sit and watch the news and then, every day during the advertisements, memorize an ayah or two. So sometimes having small habits during the day to practice can also be helpful, in addition to longer sessions. 

I also find that if I wish to remember something, repeating it while I am doing something else (walking, cooking, etc) helps me to review it in such a way that it is remembered better, because it needs to come out while I am distracted and not focusing on it. Inshallah this is not disrespectful to the Qur'an, but just suggesting it as a possibility.

I am sure there are also other techniques.

I am sure you will get more suggestions from others, but I just thought I would share those.

Also to repeat what you already know daily or as often as possible helps.

Sometimes the challenge with remembering is just due to age, since children are blessed to remember almost everything they see and hear, alas, this capacity sometimes wanes with age while at the same time we grow more busy and our minds full of many other things. So this is another reason to try new techniques. Inshallah Allah will help.

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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 1 month ago

I understand this is a sensitive subject and one that one should treat carefully.

While I can understand why this could come across as inexcusable in this day and age, to my understanding, in the past in that region, there were not very opportunities for earning an income or survival on your own without a family or tribe, and slaves were particularly vulnerable. So a slave-girl would be integrated into the man's household as part of the household (so in essence, part of the structure) in which he was responsible for her, and that was often strengthened through relations. That is, for men of means, the family household was often larger than just a wife and children. Conversely, it seems that at some point in early Islamic history, it became common for some men to essentially take a slave woman as a wife, rather than marry a free woman, perhaps because it was easier financially in some cases, or because he liked her, or because he preferred to marry a foreigner (and slaves tended to be foreign), or some other reason. So it is a complicated situation.

This is apart from the fact that when people live close together, it is natural to develop an inclination towards each other.

When you look at classical literature from the Muslim world, you do see a lot of mentions of situations where a slave-girl and the man appear to have a had a genuinely close and affectionate relationship, and even many of the mothers of the Imams (A) also came to their households that way. 

So in that regard, it could increase social stability, even though no one likes being a slave.

Of course that is not everyone's situation and I am sure there were unfortunate situations of hatred and compulsion too. Still, it doesn't seem to be the same as it was, for instance, in the US, where Black slaves were regularly treated like animals and raped. Similarly today, in some countries, some people also hire live-in housemaids from other countries and sexually harass them like they are objects, which is both impermissible and also quite different from the above model which seems to have had more long-term stability. 

God knows best.