Zaid Alsalami

Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from ANU, Canberra. He has written and translated several Islamic texts and also prepared educational videos on Islamic rulings and practices.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 10 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

It's always best to focus on long-term goals, especially in settled down and building a family. Temporary marriage contracts could assist you in the physical sense, but in a lot of cases could also damage your reputation and minimise your motive for wanting to get married. 

With high level of patience and strict discipline, you are able to avoid sin, and build your character to hopefully quickly get married. 

My advice is to stay away from it, and concentrate on finding a good Muslimah for marriage, with dua to Allah ta'ala and tawassul to Ahlul Bayt (a.s.), in shaa Allah. 

And Allah knows best

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answer updated 10 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Firstly, we should refrain from using the word dowry, because in English it is a payment given by the bride to her husband. 

Whereas, in Islam, it is from the groom to the bride, and not a payment, but a token and sign of loyalty and truthfulness, which is why in the Quran and Sunnah it is called "Sidāq". 

We also call it Mahr, and in English, we can call it bridal-gift or nuptial-gift. 

Once the marriage contract (nikah / 'aqd shar'i) is done, it becomes the husband's duty to fulfill the contract and what he comitted to. This obligation depends on the agreement the bride and groom had. Was there a clause in the contract, like dividing the mahr into "muqaddam" or immediate, and "mu`akhar", which is the deferred amount. 

Is the husband capable of giving it immediately. Has the wife demanded it? Can the husband give it in installments. These are different scenarios that could occur, so it would depend on the circumstance. 

Some cultures also have it to be given on the day of the nikah as well. 

So, from a shar'i perspective, it becomes wajib upon the husband to give the mahr that he agreed on, whenever it is demanded by the wife, whenever he is able to, and according to whatever agreement they had. 

And Allah knows best

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 11 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Yes, feet are a part of female's hijab, to be covered in front of non-mahram men.

And Allah knows best. 

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 11 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Yes, as long as the private parts are covered. However, it is important to observer utmost respect and reverence when in the presence of Almighty Allah, while praying, and wear appropriate clothing.

And Allah knows best

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Bismhi ta'ala

This is going to be a choice the husband makes. Of course, you must understand how difficult it would be for him to trust you again, or to forget the incident, and it might continue to be brought up, especially if you have an argument. 

He might even accuse the children of not being his, and so on. 

Therefore, if he forgives you, which is possible from a shar'i perspective, you must both navigate correct solutions to deal with the infidelity and how to avoid it in future, from both sides.

And Allah knows best

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 11 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

It is sad to hear what happened to you, and through your Iman and reliance on Allah ta'ala, you will become stronger and stronger, not allowing the evil incident to define who you are. 

If this man cannot accept you for that, and you are upfront and genuine about everything, even if there might be lapses of emotional distraught or something that affects you due to the trauma, but yet he is still hesitant, then he is no good for you at all. 

You should not see yourself of less value, nor should you accept someone who sees you as "broken", or anything negative of that sort. 

Limit your interaction with this person, and focus more on yourself, and your relationship with Almighty God, who will facilitate the best of things for you and your future, in shaa Allah.

With prayers for your success.

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Bismihi ta'ala

As sad as it may be to lose a spouse, remarrying is completely your choice, and it will not undermine your loyalty to your marhum husband. Loneliness is never good, so if the opportunity arises that you can marry a noble, caring, pious and religious man, you should do so. This will certainly not affect who you will be in the afterlife, in Heaven, in shaa Allah. 

Life is challenging, and having a partner of good choice will assist you in everything coming ahead of you, in shaa Allah.

And Allah knows best

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answer updated 11 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Yes, of course you can do that, and it is rather recommended to do charity work and noble deeds on behalf of others, alive or passed. 

You will indeed be rewarded equally, if not more for your consideration of doing good deeds on behalf of others.

And Allah knows best

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 11 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

It is your wajib duty to obey your mother, as long as she is not encouraging or forcing you to commit sin. She wanting you to live near her could mean she is still caring for you and loves you. It is just a matter of accommodating to her, compromising where you can, controlling your emotions, and also creating boundaries. 

With all the sacrifices you make for your mother, Allah ta'ala will certainly compensate in the best of ways.

And Allah knows best. 

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 11 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

After tawbah, if you have access to somehow find them, and won't be harmed, return back items, or their equivalent in money. If not, pay its amount in sadaqah, on their behalf, and pray to Allah for forgiveness. 

And Allah knows best. 

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 12 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

I have a presentation from two Ramadhans ago on this that might be useful for you in answering your question. 

Starts from 1h:38min

https://www.youtube.com/live/f6LNDmA6vBk?feature=share

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 year ago

Bismihi ta'ala

If you are not able to return the amount back, you give it to charity.

And Allah knows best