Muslim woman is not only allowed but also been encouraged to serve the community in every possible field , obviously with observing full Hijab. Pious ladies like Lady Fatimah, Lady Zainab , Lady Khadija hare best examples.
You have a great responsibility on your shoulders, in not only honouring your revert wife in the best way you can, but also showing the highest standards of Islamic Akhlaq to your in-laws. You represent Islam, and they see Islam through you. Even though they might be atheists, or followers of a religion, for you it is of utmost importance to conduct yourself in the best way possible.
Your wife also has an important duty in trying to maintain the relationship between the two families as civil as possible. Along with her studying about religion and deepening her understanding of Islam, she can also engage in polite and productive discussions with them.
When she does this, there will be no concern from your side that she is being negatively influenced. If she is strong enough in her faith, then even if a discussion becomes heated, it will not effect her.
Yes, it might be frustrating from your side, and all you want to do is just socialise with your in-laws, but they bring up topics that might aggravate you.
The extent of the relationship is that you honour them, as your in-laws, and that you avoid arguments or anything that would tension things between you and them.
You should maintain patience, and think of the bigger responsibility you have. Always do dua for them, and pray for their hidayah.
With prayers for your success.
I am sorry to hear about your loss.
It is narrated that the Prophet (S) said: “Keep many domestic animals (al-dawajin) in your houses so that the shayatin (demons) are occupied with them instead of with your children.” (See Tibb al-A'immah)
I think there is some truth to this.
Of course, maybe your cat just died and there was no other reason for it. The lifespan of animals is also in the hands of Allah, and this life is transitory for all of us.
At least you got to enjoy some time together, and one thing I have always admired about animals is that they handle death with grace and acceptance.
With salaams and du'as
Yes, the Ghusl and Kafan of any Muslim is considered as sufficient.
No, it is not allowed to do so. The Hadeeth says: Allah curses any one who enters in a family who is not his, and any one who leaves his family. لعن الله الداخل في النسب ولعن الله الخارج من النسب.
Your family name is not just a personal consideration in your heart but it is a matter which should be known to people who know you or deal with you.
Every one was created by Allah within a family which is like the tree and we are its branches. It is a matter of destiny and decision of Allah. The person who tries to cut the branch away from the tree, will be cursed as Allah cursed in Quran those who cut ties with their relatives. Sura Muhammad, Verses 22 and 23.
Omitting your family name is not an act which Allah The Almighty wants from you. On the contrary, we need to do every thing possible to strengthen the relations with our family members who are been created by Allah as branches of our family tree.
It is very wrong to pray for your own father's death even if he is a very bad person. The supplication against parents can have very bad effect on you.
You must treat him nicely and pray for his Hidayah ( guidance). and forgiveness.
If Taqqyah is really required in your circumstances, then yes. It
means that if you don’t fold your arms during prayer with your Sunni
family members, it can cause you real risk and harm.
So Taqayyah will be applicable to avoid such expected harm. It is good
to inform your Sunni family members that folding arms is not in the
Salaah of the many Sunnis who are followers of the Maaliki sect. So
many millions of Maaliki Sunnis do not fold their arms during Salaah.
This is the practice of the Maaliki Sunnis. But if you want to search
the evidence of folding hands during Salaah ,you will never find an
authentic Hadith that te Holy Prophet (SAWA) folded hands during
Salaah. Folding hands during Salaah was ordered by Umar ibn Khattab
during his government time. None of the leading Sunni scholars could
claim that folding hands during Salaah is obligatory.
Leading Sunni scholar Sheikh Sayyed Sabiq in his book Fiqh al Sunnah
stated that there is not a single authentic Hadith suggesting that the
Holy Prophet (SAWA) folded his hands during even one Salaah
Cremating any human body is absolutely forbidden in Islam, and the will to be cremated is invalid , because human being is honoured in Quran ( We have honoured the children of Adam, and We have carried them on land and sea, and granted them from good things, and preferred them above many of our creatures a marked preferment.( Sura 17, Verse 70).
It is also not allowed to use the ashes in making memorial jewelleries or any thing else. It must be buried only.
It depends upon the reason. It is obligatory for a Muslim to defend their honour. They are not allowed to accept being humiliated. Ayatollah Dastghayb Shirazi mentions situations where it is wajib or permissible to do qat' al-rahm: 'to cut off ties': that is: if you are forced to commit haram by your family and if your family drives you out due to your religion. If you are being seriously emotionally or physically harmed by a family member, then it is technically not permissible for you to tolerate that. Please see this link below for more information: https://www.al-islam.org/greater-sins-volume-1-ayatullah-sayyid-abdul-husayn-dastghaib-shirazi/seventh-greater-sin-qata-ar#what-least-amount-silet-ar-rahm-wajib
Cutting off contact with any of your relatives is a major sin which leads to very dangerous consequences :
1. To be cursed by Allah, according to Quran (Sura Muhammad, verses 22 and 23).
2. Your life span can be cut off, according to many authentic Hadeeths.
3. Your income will be cut off as well.
As Muslims we must always be forebearing and forgiving, even to those who wrong us. The holy Quran clearly tells us that we must not hold grudges against those who believe. This is in verse 10 of Surah al-Hashr:
And do not put in our hearts any rancour towards those who believe.
Regarding someone being family and kin, we know how Islam emphasises on observing the best of conduct regarding one's family. There will always be disputes and disagreements, but a believer must never harbour any resentment towards another believer.
What we can say is we leave what they did for Allah ta'ala to deal with.
With prayers for your success.
We should not cut ties with any relative even if they are bad to us and call us Kafir.
Our behavior should prove to them and other relatives our real identity and whether we are Kafirs or not.
Ahlul Bayt (AS) taught us to mix and treat our relatives and tribes with best manners. People wll then know the real teachings of Ahlul Bayt by seeing the good practice of the Shia.