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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 4 years ago

Threesomes are not allowed. (Sorry!) They can live in the same house but there should be some separation particularly during intimate times. 

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 4 years ago

Ghusl of Janabah is obligatory not only because of sexual intercourse
but also if a person ejaculates whether deliberately by masturbating
or unintentionally by wet dream or night discharge. This is for males
and females.

Wassalaam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 4 years ago

If you are sure that your Ghusl of Janabah was invalid e.g. you did not make the water reach to every part of your body, ultimately the Ghusl is invalid ven if you did not know that it was invalid.

In such case you need to re-do all the obligatory worship like Salaah, fasting etc which you performed without a valid Ghusl.

The reward for your previous deeds will
never be wasted by Allah SWT, but you must re-do it as it has been
done without valid Ghusl. You can perform the Qadha gradually or with your daily prayers.

Wassalam.

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Abbas Di Palma, Shaykh Abbas Di Palma holds a BA and an MA degree in Islamic Studies, and certifications from the Language Institute of Damascus University. He has also studied traditional Islamic sciences in... Answered 4 years ago

as salam alaikum

in Islam a man is not allowed to approach his female counterpart as long as she is not physically, legally and mentally mature for that. Hypothetically the same goes for a woman in regard to men.

With prayers for your success.

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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 4 years ago

Insofar as it is possible, it is good to try to adjust your environment to avoid triggers (for instance, avoiding online or television material with indecent content, looking away from certain advertisements or behaviour outside). I know that this can be difficult in some places which have become quite explicit! It is related from the Prophet (S) - and I am sure you have heard this - that if you lower your gaze, you will see wonders.

As for thoughts, to some degree we have control over our thoughts, you can try to change what you are thinking about and focus on something else if you find your thoughts wandering.

If you are a male and really struggling with this, fasting has been recommended too and may be helpful (as long as you do not do it to excess). 

Anyway this is part of being a normal human being, all you can do is your best and be compassionate with yourself while trying to navigate the straight path. 

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 4 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

We can look at this issue from multiple angles. Firstly, we know as Muslims that it is haram for us to look at the private parts of other people. We also know that anything that is sexually arousing, outside a marital relationship is also haram. 

As far as the shar'i side is concerned, we confidently know the many detrimental dangers there are if we defy the commands of God.  We know these harmful sins will affect our soul and our mind, and pollute us spiritually and morally.

On a relationship side, it would be very problematic if a husband, or a wife, would need external sexual arousal from fake unrealistic sources to make their time together enjoyable. It's not a good sign at all.

This shows a deep issue in how the husband sees the wife, or how the wife sees the husband. 

True enjoyment can be fulfilled just by the husband and wife, and they are so sexually captivated by each other, they need abolutely nothing else, or nobody else. 

It is only when one is unsatisfied with what they have, they turn to other means. It is for this reason, that along with what our religion and our moral standards teach us, it would also be very damaging for the husband - wife relationship itself. 

With prayers for your success. 

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 4 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

The answer to this important question is absolutely yes. One will certainly be rewarded for suppressing their lustful desires and not acting upon them in the haram way. We have ahadith that say any time a person comes across a lustful situation, and turns their head to the skies, and asks Allah ta'ala for strength, the Almighty will compensate them with abundant reward. 

Something to always keep in mind when we are doing Jihad al-Nafs is to avoid situations that would tempt us. This also means marriage becomes even more important for such a person.

With prayers for your success. 

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Zeinab Donati, Zeinab Donati has been studying books about various Islamic subjects for more than 19 years. She is deeply interested in history and politics as well as social issues in particular those pertaining... Answered 4 years ago

This question and the whole etiquette of marriage, what is permitted, allowed, and impermissible is nicely explained in the following books: Marriage and Morals in Islam by Sayyid Muhammad Rizvi: https://www.al-islam.org/marriage-and-morals-islam-sayyid-muhammad-rizvi/chapter-three-islamic-sexual-morality-2-its

I also suggest to browse the category if Marriage of Al-Islam.org to find more useful texts and lectures on the subject: https://www.al-islam.org/library/marriage

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 4 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

The answer to this is no, in this case she does not need to perform Ghusl Janabah, and the discharge is also tahir. 

It is only when she has an orgasm, and discharges, making Ghusl wajib, and also the discharge najis. 

For more detail, please refer to our other answers to questions similar to this.

And Allah knows best.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 4 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

In the case where a person did not experience a wet-dream, and does not feel that there was seminal discharge due to a wet-dream, but only 'spots', then there is no need to perform ghusl janabah. 

And Allah knows best.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 4 years ago

Ejaculation by itself by any reason , whether lawful or unlawful, is one of the reasons of Janabah. Sexual intercourse is another reason for Janabah, even if ejaculation does not take place.

We do not ask Allah (SWT) for reasons because we fully trust in His full Knowledge, Wisdom and Full Mercy. Our brain is limited while the Wisdom of Allah (SWT) is unlimited, so we will never be able to contain His Wisdom.

We always believe that what ever He told us is the Absolute Truth which is always in our favor.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 4 years ago

There is no question of " Paid sexual massage" in Islam. It is itself a sinful act.

Sexual act must be under a valid marriage contract whether permanent or temporary which includes Mahr (Dowery) for the female.

Wassalam.