Wife

A wife is a female partner in a continuing marital relationship.
The term continues to be applied to a woman who has separated from her partner, and ceases to be applied to such a woman only when her marriage has come to an end, following a legally recognized divorce or the death of her spouse. On the death of her partner, a wife is referred to as a widow, but not after she is divorced from her partner.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 4 years ago

Yes, she has full right to get good treatment from her husband, and she has full right to complain to the Islamic scholar ( Hakim al-Shariah) if he insists on mistreating of her.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 4 years ago

Husband and wife are allowed to enjoy themselves between them but it should not reach to masturbation when they are away from one another. If they were together, even masturbation one another will be allowed for them which means that wife is allowed to use her hands or any part of her body to make her husband enjoy or ejaculate. Same is permissible for the husband to make his wife enjoy or reach to orgasm. But when they are apart from one another, it is not permissible for any of them to masturbate through talking with the spouse on phone or video etc.

Wassalam.

Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 4 years ago

Bismillah,

Asalamu Alaykom,

If by ‘sexting’ you mean explicit messages between a husband and wife, then this wouldn’t be haram provided that it wouldn’t lead to a sin. For example, if a man fears that by speaking to his wife in a sexual manner while being away from her, that it would lead him to engage in masturbation, then he should avoid anything that leads to that and wait until he is physically with his wife. 

May Allah grant you success  

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Sayyed Muhammad Husaini Ragheb, Sayyed Muhammad Husaini Ragheb has a BA in Law from Guilan University, Iran and has also undertaken Hawzah studies in Qom. He used to be a Cultural Affairs director of Ethics Group of Al-Mustafa... Answered 4 years ago

It is an obligation for a woman to live where her husband has decided unless she has mentioned in the conditions of the marriage contract that the place of residence is up to her.
And a woman can not leave the house without her husband's permission.
So if the husband is ok with all this situation then it's ok for her

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 4 years ago

Yes they are allowed to hold hands in public provided that:

1. her hands above the wrists should not be shown to outsider men .

2. Holding hands in public should not encourage sinful acts or sinful habits.

3. Holding hands in public should not create doubt about their characters in the minds of people who see them.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 4 years ago

The aim of Mut’ah marriage is to save people from falling into sinful
sexual acts. Those who don’t have a permanent wife or those who are
away from their wife can take the benefit from this type of Islamic
marriage which is a time fixed marriage to save themselves from
falling into sinful acts. The Holy Prophet (SAWA) and the infallible
Imams (AS) warned against hurting the feelings of anyone
specially your near ones like your wife. If the person who has a wife
with him does anything which causes pain and injury to her feelings,
he should avoid such act. Even if he does need it to save
himself from sexual sins, he must not cause any harm t his wife.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 4 years ago

It is a matter of respect to the female not to be seen bending her body in front of a man, even if he is her father or husband or son or brother. Although we can not say for sure that this is the only reason, as the rules from Allah (SWT) are based on our benefit which best known to Him and we might not be able to understand all of it.

Wassalam.

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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 4 years ago

No

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Mateen Charbonneau, Sheikh Mateen Joshua Charbonneau achieved a certificate from Harvard University in Islamic Studies. He undertook Howza classes under esteemed scholars since 2013 and has been teaching at Imam Mahdi... Answered 4 years ago

Yes it is permissible.

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answer updated 4 years ago

Bismillah

Asalamu Alaykom, 

If a husband has good intentions and wants to  prevent his wife from wearing very bright colours outside which would draw attention, then this is something good. Hijab has many different aspects and clothes which draw attention of non-mahrams, should be avoided. 

If however you are speaking about clothes worn inside the house or in settings where there are only mahrams, then both spouses should try to wear those things which each other would like. Marriage isn’t a dictatorship though so both should speak about things and have a right to wear some things that they like. 

May Allah grant you success

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 4 years ago

Bismillah, 

Asalamu alaykom,

It is the responsibility upon the husband to provide for his wife and his family. Even if a woman works and earns more money than her husband, she would not be obliged to give any of it to him. However, a mutual agreement between the husband and wife is allowed in Islam. So if the wife has chosen to work and share her earnings with her husband while he looks for a job, then this would be allowed. We find that roles may switch in this day and age where a woman may work and the husband may take up house and child duties. 

The husband should know that it isn’t obligatory for his wife to work and if he forced this responsibility upon her, then he has neglected his martial duties and violated her rights. A woman may choose to work as long as  the Islamic conditions are fulfilled. 

May Allah grant you success.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 4 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

You have a great responsibility on your shoulders, in not only honouring your revert wife in the best way you can, but also showing the highest standards of Islamic Akhlaq to your in-laws. You represent Islam, and they see Islam through you. Even though they might be atheists, or followers of a religion, for you it is of utmost importance to conduct yourself in the best way possible. 

Your wife also has an important duty in trying to maintain the relationship between the two families as civil as possible. Along with her studying about religion and deepening her understanding of Islam, she can also engage in polite and productive discussions with them. 

When she does this, there will be no concern from your side that she is being negatively influenced. If she is strong enough in her faith, then even if a discussion becomes heated, it will not effect her. 

Yes, it might be frustrating from your side, and all you want to do is just socialise with your in-laws, but they bring up topics that might aggravate you. 

The extent of the relationship is that you honour them, as your in-laws, and that you avoid arguments or anything that would tension things between you and them.

You should maintain patience, and think of the bigger responsibility you have. Always do dua for them, and pray for their hidayah.

With prayers for your success.