Father

A father is the male parent of a child. Besides the paternal bonds of a father to his children, the father may have a parental, legal, and social relationship with the child that carries with it certain rights and obligations.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 month ago

Bismihi ta'ala

In this situation, there would not be any problem in the surname he chooses, and hopefully he will somehow be able to find information about his family.

And Allah knows best.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 month ago

Bismihi ta'ala

This is an circumstantial case that must be looked at individually. Why is the father refusing? Under what pretense? 

It would all come down to negotiation and finding ways of making sure the parents are content. Yes, she is an adult, and she could even be allowed to marry lawfully without her father's consent, but as Muslims we strive towards keeping our parents happy. 

If after negotiation, and intervention from family and elders to convince the father, he is still adamant about his refusal, and it is unwarranted, that is when it would be advisable to involve your scholar. 

We must always remember if we misuse any authority given to us, we will become oppressors and our punishment will be severe. 

And Allah knows best. 

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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 3 months ago

According to hadith, we will see and recognise our relatives in the barzakh.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 4 months ago

She can seek guidance from any trusted person like her mother, sister, aunt, cousin sisters. If she has no trusted female to guide her, she can ask her father or brother to guide her.

Knowledge should be taken from any trusted source.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 4 months ago

No, it is not sufficient to ask one trustworthy person about which Marja to follow. He must be a high caliber 'Aalim (scholar), yet his witness alone is not sufficient because witness should come from two high caliber 'Aalims. 

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 6 months ago

Yes it is allowed. She is like his cousin, so marriage is permissible between them.

Wassalam.

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You must keep on trying and trying to apologize  from him and get his pardon. Allah (SWT) orders us to be nice to our parents even if they are non believers or wrong doers. You should not join their wrong but you must deal with them in the best way. Seek help of relatives and friends who can talk to him and do everything possible to make him forgive you. It is not an option but an obligation of the top priority.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 7 months ago

If the eldest son is unable for health reasons to keep the Qadha fast of his deceased father, any of his brothers or sisters can do that. If he has no brothers or sisters and has no money to pay for someone to do that, he should recite Estighfaar.

Wassalam.

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Zoheir Ali Esmail, Shaykh Zoheir Ali Esmail has a Bsc in Accounting and Finance from the LSE in London, and an MA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University. He studied Arabic at Damascus University and holds a PhD... Answered 7 months ago

Bismillah

Thank you for your question. Although it is quite difficult to answer this question over the internet and with limited knowledge of your situation, it is quite natural for a lady of your age to be interested in marriage. As such you can try to broach the subject generally with your father in a soft manner and gauge his reactions. If you feel like it would be hard to speak to him, then perhaps speak to some of your other family members to speak to him about the subject, generally at first and then once he is used to the idea then more specifically. Your parents have your best interests at heart and it is important to consult with them as marriage is a major decision for which you need their help and guidance. If they do not approve of your choice and they have good reason not to approve, then you should consider that carefully. At the same time, most parents, in the end, will allow you to make your own choices, even if sometimes they are not completely happy with them.

May you always be successful

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 9 months ago

Bismallah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

The following answer may help you: 

https://www.al-islam.org/ask/is-it-sinful-for-a-girl-to-marry-without-the-permission-of-her-parents 

May Allah grant you success 

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 9 months ago

If her marriage is the first marriage, then she needs the permission
or consent or approval of her father or her paternal grand-father. If
the father or the paternal grand-father refused to approve the
marriage for reasons which are not based on Islamic teachings and she
wants to get married to a suitable believer man who can help her to
preserve her religion and dignity, she will be permitted to get
married to such a suitable believer man to save herself from falling into
sinful act.

Wassalaam.

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 9 months ago

Bismallah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

The following answer may help you: 

https://www.al-islam.org/ask/is-it-sinful-for-a-girl-to-marry-without-the-permission-of-her-parents 

May Allah grant you sucrsss