Father

A father is the male parent of a child. Besides the paternal bonds of a father to his children, the father may have a parental, legal, and social relationship with the child that carries with it certain rights and obligations.

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Father . Alcohol . Children

What is the Islamic position when a father, who habitually drinks alcohol, pays for his children's meals and upbringing? Should that be prevented for the children's spiritual well-being or is it more important that they are not separated from their dad?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 weeks ago

Every father must pay for his children's expenses, and children are not responsible about the sinful acts of their father. Children's spiritual well-being will not be harmed because of the sins of their father. We have in human history thousands of examples of bad fathers who had very good children and vice versa. Children should not help or encourage their father in committing sinful acts.

Wassalam.

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Father . Intention . Theft

I took some money from my father's cupboard without him realizing it and used the money to buy a mobile. My intention is to return the money to the cupboard as soon as I am able to. Is this considered theft and is that mobile allowed for me to use?

Yes, it is considered theft because you have taken money which does not belong to you with out permission of the owner. Using this money and any item bought by this money is unlawful. You must return the money immediately to the same place you have taken it from.

Wassalam.

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Father . Obedience

My father wants me to move with my family to Palestine before finishing university and getting a job in the United States. Is it Haram for me to disobey him and stay in the United States to complete my studies and be employed here?

You should always respect your parents and avoid making them feel insulted. No doubt, every man is free to decide where to study and where to work, but never cause insult or pain to your parents. Either you convince your father in a very polite way and get his real satisfaction, or obey his order. It might be difficult sometimes, especially when you think that your benefit is away from the choice of your parents, but be sure that Allah (SW) will grant you more success if you obey your parents.

Remember the promise to the Pious : (And whosoever fears Allah, Allah will get him a way from every difficulty and will grant him from unexpected source) Sura 65, Verse 2 and 3.

ومن يتق الله يجعل له مخرجا ويرزقه من حيث لا يحتسب ومن يتوكل على الله فهو حسبه

Wassalam.

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Soul . Mother . Father

What are the good deeds that I can do regularly to please the soul of my mother and father who have died a long time ago?

Abbas Di Palma, Shaykh Abbas Di Palma holds a BA and an MA degree in Islamic Studies, and certifications from the Language Institute of Damascus University. He has also studied traditional Islamic sciences in... Answer updated 1 month ago

as salam alaikum

It has been reported from the Prophet, peace be upon him and his family, the following words:

"When a son of Adam dies, his deeds ends except for three: sadaqah jariyah, beneficial knowledge and a pious child who prays for him".

This hadith is found in "Sahih Muslim", "Bihar al-Anwar", "Muniyat al-Murid" and other sources.

Therefore one of the best acts a son can do for his deceased parents is to pray and ask forgiveness for them.

With prayers for your success.

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Father . Income . Children

If someone's father is earning Haram income, what is the ruling for their children? Is eating and other expenses incurred by them from that source of income Haram as well?

If the income of the father is mixed between lawful and unlawful, then it will allowed for his children to take what they need for their lawful needs with the intention of utilizing the lawful part of the income.

If the whole income of the father is Haram (Unlawful), then it becomes forbidden for the grown up (Baligh) children to use such unlawful income.

Wassalam.

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Son . Father . Mother . Salah (Prayers)

Why is it only the eldest son and not the other children who are responsible for the missed prayers of their father or mother after they've died?

The wisdom behind rules of Islam is best known to Allah (SWT), His Prophet (SAWA) and The Infallible Imams (AS). We believe that all the rules from Allah (AS) are based on the absolute wisdom which aims to make our life real human life and guides us to the Right Path. We might be able to know some of the reasons but we can never argue for all the reasons.

Eldest son has the responsibly for the missed prayers and fasts of his parents because they served him before other children and he has the right to acquire special personal items (like rings, watch, personal Quran etc) from his deceased parents.

This rule does not mean that other children can not do that on behalf of their parents. In fact any of them can do whatever he or she wants to fulfill on behalf of their parents, but if it was not fulfilled, then the eldest son remains responsible to complete the remaining if any.

Wassalam.

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Sunni . Woman . Father . Mother . Marriage . Shi'a

As a Sunni woman am I allowed to get married to someone born of a Shi'a father and a Sunni mother and who considers himself to be a Sunni?

Yes you are allowed to get married to him because he is a Muslim like you and all Muslims are allowed to marry with Muslims as far as the marriage does not cause harm to religion.

Wassalam.

Sunni . Woman . Father . Mother . Marriage . Shi'a

As a Sunni woman am I allowed to get married to someone born of a Shi'a father and a Sunni mother and who considers himself to be a Sunni?

as salam alaikum

a Sunni woman can marry a Sunni man with a Shia father.

It is worth to note in this regard that three of the four major Sunni schools - the Maliki, Hanbali and Shaf'i schools - require the consent of the wali/father for marrying the woman; the Hanafi school however does not deem it necessary.

With prayers for your success.

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Father . Death . Family . Anger

Is it forbidden to pray for your own father's death in a situation where he is an alcoholic who is angry all the time and physically assaults his immediate family?

It is very wrong to pray for your own father's death even if he is a very bad person. The supplication against parents can have very bad effect on you.

You must treat him nicely and pray for his Hidayah ( guidance). and forgiveness.

Wassalam.

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Mother . Father . Pregnancy . Breastfeeding

For the birth of a child, the mother seems to have a much greater contribution compared to the father such as the months of pregnancy and breast feeding. Why is it then said that the child belongs to the father?

Child does not belong to the father only but belongs to both father and mother. Father is fully responsible for all livelihood expenses of the child and the mother, while mother is not responsible to spend on the child even if she is rich.

The Prophet Muhammad has ordered every one to look after his mother, his mother, his mother, then his father.

In the unfortunate situation of separation between father and mother, mother has the right of custody during the childhood years ( 2 years for boy and 7 years for girl) then custody will be for the father.

Wassalam.

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Father . Hijab

What is the ruling if your father wants you to go visit relatives where the ladies do not observe Hijab and people are not particular about gender interaction rules?

If you are sure that you visiting such relatives will definitely make
you fall in to sinful acts like shaking hands with the opposite gender
or eating or drinking Haraam food, then you should not visit them

If such sinful acts are not there but the female members who are
not wearing Hijab will come in front of you, you can avoid looking at them by lowering your gaze.

Wassalaam.

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Father . Marriage . Sayyid

As there is no caste system in Islam, is there any sin for a Syed or Khoja father who disallows his daughter to marry a young man who is a suitable match in all aspects except that he is not a Syed or Khoja?

It is against the teachings of the Prophet (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS) to create a condition in marriage which was never put by Islam. Caste condition is simply un-Islamic .

Delaying the marriage of a female who needs marriage, for no real Islamic valid reason is a sinful act.

The Infallible Imams were from Bani Hashim yet they got married to pious ladies out of Bani Hashim and even out of their language and culture. There is no question of caste in marriage in the teachings of Ahlul Bayt (AS).

The authetic Prophetic Hadeeth says very clearly : If marriage proposal comes to you from a person whom you accept his faith and manners, you should accept it, otherwise the earth will be corrupted with Dispute and wide spread evil.

إذا جاءكم ٬من ترضون دينه وخلقه فزوجوه ، إن لا تفعلوه تكن فتنة في الأرض وفساد كبير.

Wassalam.