Silat al-Rahm

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What is the appropriate way and applicable boundaries to maintain Silat ar-Rahm with non-Mahram relatives?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 3 weeks ago

Hijab rules must be fully observed while meeting or talking to non-Mahram relatives. Islamic rules for non-Mahram are the same whether relative or not despite culture in some societies which do not follow Islam. Muslim should keep Silat Al-Rahim with all his/ her relatives with observing Islamic rules of Hijab.

Wassalam.

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Family . Women . Makeup . Silat al-Rahm . Hijab

Is it allowed to go a family gathering where women have worn makeup and dressed improperly? And although men and women may be sitting at different tables, there is no barrier. Would it be permissible if not going there would mean severing ties of kinship?

It is very important to have good relationship with your relatives but that should never make you disobey Allah in sitting with females who improperly dressed or wearing makeup. We must avoid such gatherings until the participants make proper sitting arrangement for men and women with out mixing.
Wassalam.

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Family . Stress . Silat al-Rahm

My family has always been a major stress on my life. The drama never ends and they treat my wife badly. They also have borrowed money from me numerous times and don't bother to pay me back. Am I obligated to continue speaking to them?

Yes you are obliged to always be keep good relation with them because they are your family from which Allah (SWT) Has created you. Stopping speaking with them will never help you but will increase your problems as well as make you a sinner. Those who cut ties or have bad dealings with their relatives are cursed by Allah in Quran.

Wassalam.

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Inheritance . Silat al-Rahm . Theft

Is it permissible to cut ties with my auntie and her husband and kids for stealing from our inheritance?

No. It is not permissible to cut ties with any relative, no matter what wrong they did to you. Cutting ties with any relative is a major sin which can never be justified.

If they did wrong to you, you should leave them to Allah Who is The Absolute Just, but you should never commit the major sin of cutting ties with any of your relatives.

Wassalam.

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Family . Silat al-Rahm

What is the ruling for such relatives who are toxic towards you and your family and pass ill comments? Should we be kind towards them all the time or should we take a step back and avoid them?

We should tolerate such relative who is bad to us and be always kind to him as much as we can. We should not behave badly with relatives who misbehave with us. The Hadeeth from the Prophet (SAWA) orders us to do good to all our relatives including and most importantly to those who are bad to us.

Wassalam.

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Silat al-Rahm

Is it acceptable in Islam if a girl doesn't want to meet or visit the house of her father's relatives due to some reasons and also because she doesn't feel comfortable there? Will it be considered as cutting the ties of womb?

It is obligatory on every Muslim to maintain good relationship with all his relatives even those who don't welcome him, or try to harm him. Cutting ties of womb is a major sin which brings the curse of Allah in the person who cuts ties of womb. (Sura 47, verse 22).

There is no reason whatsoever which can justify cutting ties of womb even if they non believers or non Muslims as they remain relatives created by Allah from the same family tree of yours.

Wassalam.

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Pain . Parents . Silat al-Rahm

If I know that keeping relations with certain relatives will cause pain to my parents is it ok to stay away from such relatives for their sake?

No. Don't hurt your parents in any way but don't cut off with any of your relatives, because it is a major sin to cut off with any relative. Try to do it tactfully to perform your duties towards your parents as well as towards your relatives. Obeying your parents can not allow disobeying Allah Who orders having good relation with all your relatives.

Wassalam.

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Husband . Silat al-Rahm

My husband forces me to do Qatae Rehmi and I am under great mental stress because of it. What should I do?

Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 1 year ago

Bismillah,

Asalamu Alaykom,

It is not allowed for him to force you to cut relations with those who it is wajib to keep relations with such as parents and siblings. If you cannot solve an issue by speaking to him, then it's advised you get a trustworthy scholar from the community to mediate and advise him that this is haram and a big sin. If you don't fear any harm to yourself, you may also contact your family without his permission

May Allah grant you a

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Silat al-Rahm

Is it considered keeping kinships and sufficient enough for Silat al-Rahm if i tell my mother to give Salam to relatives on my behalf?

It is good but not enough just to tell your mother to convey your Salaams to your relatives if you do not have any real reason stopping you from getting in touch with them directly e.g. if some is in jail or hospital or far away and can not contact his relatives, then he can send Salaams to them through others.

Silat al-Rahim is a state of live connection with the relatives as much as the common sense understands as good connection with the relatives.

Wassalam.

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Silat al-Rahm

Is Silet ar-Rahm only obligatory towards close relatives or also towards distant relatives?

You need to good terms and nice relationship with every relative who is considered by your society as relative of yours. Basic relatives are your parents, their brothers, their sisters and their children. Relatives of your parents are also included in your relatives.

If your wife is not from your relatives, her relatives are not considered from your relatives, although it is always good to keep very good relationship with your in-laws.

Wassalam.

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Silat al-Rahm

Am I cutting ties with relatives if I don't talk to them very often, but don't actually intend to cut off ties with them and occasionally talk with them?

Stopping talking to any of your relatives should not be more than three days as the Hadeeth states: Muslim is not allowed to boycott his Muslim brother more than three days. They meet, and each of them tries to turn his face from the other, and best of them who starts Salam on the other.

Being in contact with our relatives does need daily talk, but usual ways of contacts e.g. messaging, phoning, emailing, sending Salam or gift etc which is understood by common person as a contact. If the relative is far and you con not contact him every three days, that is not Haraam as far your contact with him is understood by both of you as a normal situation of good ties between you.

Short cutting of the contact is not acceptable as long cutting.

Wassalam.

Silat al-Rahm

Am I cutting ties with relatives if I don't talk to them very often, but don't actually intend to cut off ties with them and occasionally talk with them?

Sayyed Muhammad Husaini Ragheb, Sayyed Muhammad Husaini Ragheb has a BA in Law from Guilan University, Iran and has also undertaken Hawzah studies in Qom. He is a Cultural Affairs director of Ethics Group of Al-Mustafa Open... Answered 1 year ago

Salam
I hope my previous answer helps you :
https://www.al-islam.org/ask/most-of-my-relatives-live-in-iran-while-i-a...