Silat al-Rahm

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Is it acceptable in Islam if a girl doesn't want to meet or visit the house of her father's relatives due to some reasons and also because she doesn't feel comfortable there? Will it be considered as cutting the ties of womb?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 3 months ago

It is obligatory on every Muslim to maintain good relationship with all his relatives even those who don't welcome him, or try to harm him. Cutting ties of womb is a major sin which brings the curse of Allah in the person who cuts ties of womb. (Sura 47, verse 22).

There is no reason whatsoever which can justify cutting ties of womb even if they non believers or non Muslims as they remain relatives created by Allah from the same family tree of yours.

Wassalam.

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Pain . Parents . Silat al-Rahm

If I know that keeping relations with certain relatives will cause pain to my parents is it ok to stay away from such relatives for their sake?

No. Don't hurt your parents in any way but don't cut off with any of your relatives, because it is a major sin to cut off with any relative. Try to do it tactfully to perform your duties towards your parents as well as towards your relatives. Obeying your parents can not allow disobeying Allah Who orders having good relation with all your relatives.

Wassalam.

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Husband . Silat al-Rahm

My husband forces me to do Qatae Rehmi and I am under great mental stress because of it. What should I do?

Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 7 months ago

Bismillah,

Asalamu Alaykom,

It is not allowed for him to force you to cut relations with those who it is wajib to keep relations with such as parents and siblings. If you cannot solve an issue by speaking to him, then it's advised you get a trustworthy scholar from the community to mediate and advise him that this is haram and a big sin. If you don't fear any harm to yourself, you may also contact your family without his permission

May Allah grant you a

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Silat al-Rahm

Is it considered keeping kinships and sufficient enough for Silat al-Rahm if i tell my mother to give Salam to relatives on my behalf?

It is good but not enough just to tell your mother to convey your Salaams to your relatives if you do not have any real reason stopping you from getting in touch with them directly e.g. if some is in jail or hospital or far away and can not contact his relatives, then he can send Salaams to them through others.

Silat al-Rahim is a state of live connection with the relatives as much as the common sense understands as good connection with the relatives.

Wassalam.

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Silat al-Rahm

Is Silet ar-Rahm only obligatory towards close relatives or also towards distant relatives?

You need to good terms and nice relationship with every relative who is considered by your society as relative of yours. Basic relatives are your parents, their brothers, their sisters and their children. Relatives of your parents are also included in your relatives.

If your wife is not from your relatives, her relatives are not considered from your relatives, although it is always good to keep very good relationship with your in-laws.

Wassalam.

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Silat al-Rahm

Am I cutting ties with relatives if I don't talk to them very often, but don't actually intend to cut off ties with them and occasionally talk with them?

Stopping talking to any of your relatives should not be more than three days as the Hadeeth states: Muslim is not allowed to boycott his Muslim brother more than three days. They meet, and each of them tries to turn his face from the other, and best of them who starts Salam on the other.

Being in contact with our relatives does need daily talk, but usual ways of contacts e.g. messaging, phoning, emailing, sending Salam or gift etc which is understood by common person as a contact. If the relative is far and you con not contact him every three days, that is not Haraam as far your contact with him is understood by both of you as a normal situation of good ties between you.

Short cutting of the contact is not acceptable as long cutting.

Wassalam.

Silat al-Rahm

Am I cutting ties with relatives if I don't talk to them very often, but don't actually intend to cut off ties with them and occasionally talk with them?

Sayyed Muhammad Husaini Ragheb, Sayyed Muhammad Husaini Ragheb has a BA in Law from Guilan University, Iran and has also undertaken Hawzah studies in Qom. He is a Cultural Affairs director of Ethics Group of Al-Mustafa Open... Answered 9 months ago

Salam
I hope my previous answer helps you :
https://www.al-islam.org/ask/most-of-my-relatives-live-in-iran-while-i-a...

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Brother . Family . Mother . Silat al-Rahm

I have a toxic brother who has disrespected every member of my family multiple times including spitting on our mother. Am I allowed to cut ties with him?

Not at all. No matter how bad is your brother or relative, you should never cut ties with him but you should avoid endorsing his wrong acts.

You must keep a link with him through any suitable way of communication and keep advising and guiding him as and when you have a chance.

Wassalam.

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Mother . Son . Silat al-Rahm

Is it allowed for the mother to completely cut ties and abandon her son and would it be considered Qat’a ar-Rahm? Would it also be Qat’a ar-Rahm for the son if he doesn’t want to talk to her?

Bismillah,

Asalamu Alaykom,

It is not allowed for one to completely cut ties with those who it is wajib to keep ties with. Yes, one may not have a good relationship with a certain family member and may not want to see them face to face, however there are a number of actions to still keep minimum contact which would not be considered cutting them off entirely. This could be through the phone, email or messaging apps which society would consider still keeping a relationship.

With parents one should try as much as possible to keep a good relationship and the son ignoring his mother would be doing qat al rahm.

May Allah swt grant you success

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Introvert . Silat al-Rahm

I am an introvert and gathering with relatives is quite awkward for me. I also know that Silat ar-Rahim is required in Islam. What should I do?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 10 months ago

The minimum requirements for silat al-rahm are not too extensive, and there is no shariah requirement that you attend specific gatherings. So it seems like, perhaps, you are more concerned about not wanting to offend your relatives by not attending gatherings; or, perhaps, they are pressuring you. (Or perhaps you are afraid of God, in which case, God created you, and God understands how you feel.) In any case, it seems that what is necessary is to find a balance between your personal needs and their social expectations.

If these are your blood relatives (not adopted relatives, in-laws, etc), it would not be surprising if some of them feel the same way, since personality traits tend to run in the family. So maybe some of them might understand how you feel and also have some suggestions. For instance, there is no reason why, according to shariah, you can't have smaller visits and keep up with your relatives individually, once in a while, on a one-to-one basis, instead of in a big group; or on the telephone/internet, rather than at large gatherings. This might be more comfortable; although this may not fit their preferences.

Tendencies towards introversion or extroversion appear to be inborn and lifelong. However, one of the tasks of adulthood is to develop our opposite, less dominant traits. So, for an introvert, this is developing more facility with socializing or "people-y" situations.

(I can sympathize as I am also very strongly on the introvert side!)

If you haven't already, you could try reading some of the books available today about socializing for introverts and introvert psychology, since there might be some useful tips about managing busy social situations, recovering your own personal energy after being around too many people, finding your own boundaries, ways to tell people that you need time to yourself, and so forth.

In my view, due to the spread of digital communications, it is more common these days for people to feel awkward in in-person social gatherings, regardless of whether they are introverts or extroverts, so you could also look at things that have been written about social anxiety or awkwardness. (I am NOT saying you are suffering from this, just saying that it seems to be more common, and there might be something useful.)

Similarly, it's good to remember that other people also sometimes feel awkward in social situations and just don't say it.

Inshallah I hope you find some solutions that work for you!

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Parents . Silat al-Rahm . Marriage . Forgiveness

Is it permissible for my parents to cut off ties with my cousin if she ran away and got married against her family's wishes over a decade ago and the rest of her family has since forgiven her and re-established ties with her?

Mateen Charbonneau, Sheikh Mateen Joshua Charbonneau achieved a certificate from Harvard University in Islamic Studies. He undertook Howza classes under esteemed scholars since 2013 and has been teaching at Imam Mahdi... Answered 1 year ago

We should strive to maintain our family relationships and not break them off.

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Wedding . Engagement . Silat al-Rahm

Is it allowed not to attend a wedding or engagement party, such as of a close relative, because it includes aspects that are against our Sharia law?

It is compulsory to abide to Islamic rule in every circumstance. Attending a party of close relatives which included sinful acts is not permissible.

Obeying Allah is above pleasing any one else.

Wassalam.