This life is a test and not the everlasting life. Our real future is hereafter, where the everlasting happiness for the believers and suitable punishment for the enemies of Allah (SWT).
Depression and stress is common in this life because of many reason related to the nature of this life and our wishes to get all good things , yet we can not get every wish we have, and we can not get rid from our fear from expected or unexpected harms but only by being with Allah ( SWT).
In Hadeeth Qudsi, Allah (SWT) says: My servants are asking me something which I have never created, which is full comfort in this life ( Dunya), and they leave asking me what I have created which is the full comfort Hereafter.
The best way to tackle depression and stress is to :
1. To rely on Allah and leave every thing to His Wisdom and Mercy after performing our duties. The believers know that every thing is in the hands of Allah, that is why they rely on His Mercy and depend on His Wisdom. The believers have no fear nor sadness as Allah says in Quran: (Verily, the sincere servants of Allah have no fear, nor grief) (Younus: 62) .
2. It is also very important to remember Allah repeatedly because of the fact that remembering Allah is the only source of peace in mind. ( Those who believe and get peace of mind ( tranquility in their hearts) in remembering Allah, Verily, hearts gain peace by remembering Allah) ( 13: 28).
3. To remember the bounties of Allah on you which are countless and can never be countered by all your difficulties. Thank Allah for His bounties on us will make the bounties increase and will decrease our difficulties.
4. To look at those who have more hardships than you, you will then appreciate what Allah( SWT) Has granted you. In the Hadeeth : ( Look in you worldly matters to those who have less than you, to appreciate the bounties of Allah you, and never look to those who have more than you as it might make you underestimate His bounties on you.
5. To remember the fact that The Mercy of Allah, is much greater than all our problems, with seeking from Allah (SWT) to erase our problems by His Great Mercy.
6. Remembering your previous difficulties which were removed and solved by Allah ( SWT) who is The Most Merciful, and trusting the He will never leave you alone.
7.There are many Quranic supplications to tackle depression and stress and to gain tranquility and peace of mind e.g. 40: 44, 3:173, 9:59, 39:36, 10:85, 67:29 and many other verses. Repeating these Quranic supplications and supplications from the Prophet (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS) is very useful.
- Pray for your friend to be away from the influence of Shaitan. Shaitan tries to make some weak people lose hope in the Greatest Mercy of Allah.
- Ask you friend : Which is bigger; Your sufferings or The Mercy of Allah? There is no doubt that the Mercy of Allah is bigger. So, why don’t you hope and pray to Allah to cover your sufferings by His Greatest Mercy?
- Remind your friend about the bounties of Allah on him despite his problems. Thanking Allah for His bounties and Grace will bring more bounties and more Mercy. Wassalam.
I just wanted to say that I second what Dr Masterton is saying and completely agree! There is a great wisdom in consulting the pre-modern tradition as human beings have suffered from these things for ages and they are not new.
There is a strong spiritual component to depression (or any serious condition), since the weaker we are, the more dependent we are on Allah - even if, at the same time, we are angry at Allah or Islam.
Doubt, depression, and job loss may or may not be wholly related. It is possible that your current mental state is pushing you to attack your faith. There is no reason to suffer needlessly, and if you prefer not to look into psychological/psychiatric assistance, for mild (non-dangerous) depression, natural remedies often help without having the same side effects of psychiatric medication, and you could consult someone who is a specialist in that, or look into other interventions. However there is no harm in consulting a psychologist or psychiatrist. Sometimes we need help!
The more healthy and balanced you are, mentally and physically, the better able you are to objectively address questions of faith. Just as no one would ask an Olympic runner to compete with a broken leg, there is no reason to expect someone that is experiencing depression (for whatever reason) or is weakened in some other way will be able to have a clear picture of faith. You need to look after yourself first!
Some Muslims also have the idea that if they do everything in Islam correctly, such as praying on time and avoiding haraam things, then everything else will go smoothly in life. As a result, if disaster strikes, they feel like they have been betrayed and let down - they have done everything "right", so why is God punishing them?
Of course, this belief is unfounded, since (a) God promises to try the believers, not to make everything easy for them and as they like it, and (b) often God takes things from us out of His wisdom to force us to take another path in life and thereby develop ourselves rather than remain stagnated. (c) Sometimes God takes away from us the things we love most (especially money, social status, and family), because we have unconsciously set them up as idols before God, and this is God's way of challenging whether or not we worship Him or other things.
Change can be painful and some people are more naturally resistant to change than others. Finding a way to accept change and move on may help.
Life challenges can also help us to re-evaluate aspects of our faith and let go of shallow, false, or unhealthy aspects of our belief to eventually develop a deeper, truer sort of belief. However this can also be an uncomfortable process. For instance, maybe your view of faith may change from "performing wajibaat" as the primary focus to something else.
This may especially be the case if a person is enjoying a certain amount of social status or identity from their job; that is, if their job is who they are or what make them important to the world, then losing that job is essentially losing their value or identity. It is therefore necessary to look within and find the value that the human being intrinsically has as a creation of Allah.
In any case, I think it is important to be honest when you stand face-to-face before Allah. Allah knows our inside whether or not we are honest with ourselves. And try to find time to personally communicate with Allah and seek guidance. If you doubt Allah, say that to Allah and ask for guidance. Often guidance comes immediately when we seek it!
It is natural to go through times of crisis in life, both personally and spiritually, and I am sure you will emerge from this as a stronger and wiser person. (As, indeed, we gain wisdom throughout our lives!) Just hang in there and do your best to look after yourself, and do not hold back from anything beneficial that may help you.
There is someone called Mr. Bilal Muhammad on facebook who may be able to help you. He writes the following:
Abu Zayd al-Balkhi (d. 934) was a scientist who made a distinction between spiritual depression and biological depression. He based his theories on the Quran and Sunna.
While the medical science of his time focused on physical illnesses, al-Balkhi wrote about spiritual, psychological, and mental disorders. He argued for the interplay between physical and mental health -- that bodily illnesses can lead to cognitive problems, and that spiritual illnesses can lead to physical ones.
al-Balkhi wrote about neurosis (chronic distress but without delusions or hallucinations), endogenous depression (originating from within the body), reactive depression (originating from outside the body), and so much that we credit modern psychologists with.
Islam is a religion of faith and actions. While our traditional cultures overemphasize "pray-it-away" solutions to mental health, modern secularism overemphasizes biochemistry. We don't just pray for poverty to go away, we give to charity and we stress personal responsibility and hard work. By the same token, we can't just throw money at the problem of poverty and expect it to disappear -- it may even get worse.
Clinics and hospitals in 2019 are realizing the importance of having chaplains, who are part-in-parcel of the healing process. While medication may lower symptoms and even save lives, there are no "magic pills" -- one's worldview, perspective, and lifestyle will bring equal or greater results.
As a Muslim who has struggled with clinical depression, I personally found much of pop psychology and social media "self-care" posts to be narcissistic, anti-social, hedonistic; and perhaps worst of all, they don't work, and could make the problems worse. Some hip shaykhs even erroneously use this playbook. There aren't many Islamic works on the topic, but as we can see from the example of al-Balkhi, Islam developed a foundation to this science over a millennia ago.
1. Quran itself is a cure from every illness (Cure and Mercy for the believers)(Al-Israa: 82).
Reciting Quran is a very useful way to healing especially when you try to understand what you recite and keep your heart with its meanings like a person who is listening to Allah (SWT).
Reciting Quran with clear voice when ever you can with out disturbing others, might be more helpful as your heart and ears and eyes and mind join the great taste of listening to the Word f Allah.
You can recite any Chapter or Verse from Quran but there is great benefits mentioned from reciting Ayatul Kursi (Sura Al-Baqara: 255), Sura Al-Hamd, Sura Al-Tawhed, Sura Al-Qadr, Sura Yaseen, Sura Tabaarak, Sura Al- Inshiraah and other Suras.
You can recite the Sura or Verse that your heart feels more effected by it in your specific situation.
2. Remembering Allah ذكر الله is very useful in getting peace of mind as Allah says (Surely, by remembering Allah, hearts get peace and comfort) ألا بذكر الله تطمئن القلوب ((13:28).
Repeating glorifying Allah, Subhaanallah, Thenking Allah, Alhamdulillah, seeking forgiveness, Astaghfirullah and other forms of remembering Allah is very useful.
3. The best recitation iS salutations on the Prophet and his Holy Progeny (ALLAHUMMA SALLI ALA MUHAMMAD WA AALI MUHAMMAD). We have authentic Hadeeths that reciting Salawaat grants the heart peace and tranquility and elevates our spirituality and makes us get the blessings from Allah and the supplications of the angles.