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Amina Inloes,
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Bismihi ta'ala
You and your family should not rely on istikharah for making the decision of marriage. Istikharah should not be the primary tool to be used for marriage selection.
The age gap that you mentioned is not really a major issue, and could be overlooked, if there is compatibility and commonalities and attraction towards each other.
However, as you said there is no attraction, and you do not have that certainty in this marriage proposal, then I would recommend you not rush into this, and not allow your parents to pressure you.
You have every right to decline this proposal as well, and if you are doing the right thing, you wont need to regret in the future.
For marriage, the important thing is him being religious, having good morals, good reputation, and there being compatibility between you and him.
Sit with him, once or twice, or even three times, and ask the right questions, especially about future plans and what your ambitions and goals are, and how his views agree with you or not, and then make your decision. Not based on istikharah, but based on the information you have.
With prayers for your success.