Akhlaq

Akhlaq (أخلاق‎) is the practice of virtue, morality and manners in Islamic theology and falsafah (philosophy).

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answer updated 4 years ago

1. Controlling our bad behaviour needs reasonable will power based on the facts of the harm and damage of such behaviour, and the benefits of good behaviour.

2. We need to see how harsh behaviour makes the person unliked even by his own family members, while good behaviour makes the person liked by almost all people who know him.

3. It is good to recite Quranic Du'a for making our chest pleasant and not narrow. ( RABBI ESHRAH LI SADRI WA YASSIR LI AMRI) رب اشرح لي صدري ويسر لي أمري

4. It is mentioned in books of Akhlaq that when a person becomes angry, he should look at a mirror to see himself while being angry. He will see how ugly he looks when he is angry and this can cool him down and make him avoid being angry.

5. It is also mentioned in many Hadeeths to deal with people in the same way which you want them to deal with you. Bad behaviour from you with others can never be accepted by you if it comes from others to you.

6. Repeating Estighfaar and Salawaat and LA HAWLA WALA QOWWATA ILLA BILLAH is very useful to make our Akhlaq better if we recite it with understanding specially during the night and more specifically during Sojood.

7. It is also good to remember the Hadeeth: Deal with people in a way that if you are away from them, they will long to meet you, or if you die, they will weep on you.

8. The Prophet Muhammad (SAWA) said: Best of you are the best to their family, and I am the best to my family.

Wassalam.

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Abbas Di Palma, Shaykh Abbas Di Palma holds a BA and an MA degree in Islamic Studies, and certifications from the Language Institute of Damascus University. He has also studied traditional Islamic sciences in... Answered 4 years ago

as salam alaikum

different situations call for different answers and reactions. However in general terms the aim should be make truth prevails, defend his and his family's honor and dignity, and to fulfill the duty of "amr bil-ma'ruf wa nahy 'anil-munkar".

With prayers for your success.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 4 years ago

It is obligatory to make the person who said the Salam hear your reply.

Wassalam.

Abbas Di Palma, Shaykh Abbas Di Palma holds a BA and an MA degree in Islamic Studies, and certifications from the Language Institute of Damascus University. He has also studied traditional Islamic sciences in... Answered 4 years ago

as salam alaikum

The Qur'an says: "Whenever you are greeted with salutation, greet with better salutation or return the same. Verily Allah takes account of everything" (4:86).

A believer should answer the greeting of another believer in a way that the salutation is heard, otherwise cannot be defined as "salutation". There is no sin if the other person do not say or  hear it unintentionally. However the greeting of peace "as salam alaikum", and returning the greeting, is one of the beautiful aspect of Islam, it is considered a du'a and strengthens brotherhood among the believers; it is better therefore to make sure that it always reaches its destination.

With prayers for your success.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 4 years ago

Patience and tolerance. This is the way.

This unfortunate situation is existing in thousands of cases and it causes lot of sufferings but we should never loose the hope.

There are many wise ways to handle it including:

1. Avoiding any behavior  or words which can instigate or trigger his anger.

2. Being cool when he is angry to gradually cool him down. 

3. Never be angry reacting to his anger. Your anger will make his anger more.

4. Try to politely explain to him the situation as much is he can understand.

5. Do not involve others unless it becomes out of control, then only those who have effect on him.

​​​​​​​Wassalam.

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Masuma Jaffer, Dr Masuma Jaffer is a qualified dentist, with a Masters in Islamic Studies and has also attended Hawza in Qum. She obtained a PGCE - teaching qualification – and has taught Hawza studies at the... Answered 4 years ago

The mission statement of the Holy Prophet (S) was that he had come to perfect the distinction of our Akhlaq. So all that he taught (Aqaid and Fiqh) would lead to good, no perfect Akhlaq. 

Akhlaq is the fruit of the tree of Islam whilst the Aqaid are the roots and the Fiqh  the branches. Without fruit the tree hasn't fulfilled is purpose. And in the same way without good Akhlaq we haven't really followed the Holy Prophet (S).