Masturbation

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 months ago

If he knows that his masturbating can lead him to ejaculation by accident, his act of masturbation is a sinful act and he has to pay Kaffara along with Qadha of the fast if that day.

If ejaculation happens completely unintentionally then no Kaffara.

Wassalam.

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If you did not know that masturbation invalidates the fast and you committed masturbation during the days of the month of Ramadan there is no Kaffara on you but Qadha of the fast of that day. If you did not know that Ghusl of Janabah is compulsory for a valid fasting you need to keep Qadha (Qaza) for every day of fasting which you are sure that you were in the state of janabat. Wassalam.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 4 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Yes, you can do that, as long as she is ok with you being away from her, and try your best to either bring her to where you live, or finish your trip and return back to live together. 

Husband and wife in general should be living together regularly. 

As for seeing each other, etc, that is also permissible, but you correctly said "without masturbation". 

And Allah knows best

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Mateen Charbonneau, Sheikh Mateen Joshua Charbonneau achieved a certificate from Harvard University in Islamic Studies. He undertook Howza classes under esteemed scholars since 2013 and has been teaching at Imam Mahdi... Answered 4 months ago

Be conscious that Allah is watching you 

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 7 months ago

If you remember the fact that every sin can result in hellfire, you will then avoid committing such sins. Whenever your evil desire tells you to watch such videos or to masturbate, go to your kitchen and make your hands near a fire, and see how much you can tolerate that,then ask yourself: Can you tolerate the hellfire? No one can tolerate the hellfire but some people try to forget it before committing sinful acts.

Remembering the definite results of our deeds should make us aware and away from sinful acts

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 year ago

If the ejaculation occurred without intending to do that, Qadha is must of that fast. Kaffara is obligatory if it was done intentionally. But how can one masturbate with out intending to do it? Was he sleeping. If he masturbates while he was awake then he has committed it intentionally. If he masturbated but his intention was not to reach to ejaculation, and ejaculation occurred with out his control, that might be possible.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 years ago

If he was not aware that masturbation invalidates the fast, he must keep Qadha of the fast of that day.

Wassalam.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

In Islam, masturbating is haram. If the woman is married, it is her husband's duty to satisfy his wife's sexual needs. It is very oppressive and selfish if he does not. We have numerous hadiths that mention this as well. 

If, for whatever reason, the husband is not fulfilling his duty and catering to her rights, it does not give her permission to do haram, and she must address this with her husband, or find other solutions.

And Allah knows best. 

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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 2 years ago

Sorry to hear you are going through that challenge.

My suggestion is to look online for some support groups for other people who are in a similar situation and see if you find any benefit from the advice and experiences they share. 

With du'as!

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 3 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

In Islam, self-pleasure is forbidden and there are many mental, emotional, moral and physical harms to such practices. 

The husband has a shar'i and moral obligation of physical intimacy with his wife. If he does not do so, he is committing a sin and it will be grounds for divorce.

It is necessary for the husband to realise that physical intimacy is important for both sides, and will strengthen the bond between them. When he neglects the sexual needs of his wife, not only will she not feel valued, her heart will start drifting away from him. 

It is not just a matter of sexual pleasure between the husband and wife, but also to avoid any damaging effects or practices. Besides the fact that it is haram, her masturbating is no solution at all. 

If husband does not change his ways, they should seek intervention and visit a marriage counsellor. 

With prayers for your success. 

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Zoheir Ali Esmail, Shaykh Zoheir Ali Esmail has a Bsc in Accounting and Finance from the LSE in London, and an MA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University. He studied Arabic at Damascus University and holds a PhD... Answered 3 years ago

Bismillah

Thank you for your question. The cycle of porn and masturbation is a very difficult one to break, but at the same time it is a cycle that breaks masculinity. As such the first step is to really get to grips with why both porn and masturbation are bad for you and why they are such destructive habits that if not changed may rob you of a happy sex life in the future. The momentary guilt is not usually enough to break the cycle as the excitement after that guilt has passed will push you to repeat. As for porn the first step is to cut all access to porn and to put yourself in positions where you cannot really look at it, such as leaving your room door open, or facing your laptop such that family members walking by could see what is on the screen. And any other tactic that you can use to cut it out. For relapses you need consequences and to carry out those consequences. Such as a 10k run straight after. Some take a freezing cold shower every time they are about to consciously masterbate. These methods are hard but effective in really changing your psychology such that masturbation and porn are no longer attractive and you will think twice before doing them. But the key in kicking these habits is your determination. Do it for yourself and know that at the end what waits for you is your success in both worlds, your becoming in control of your destiny, your self respect and the respect of all those who know what its like to give up a destructive habit.

May Allah make you successful 

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Bismillah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

According to the narrations, masturbation is a sin and is compared to doing zina with oneself. 

We have an example of when Imam Ali (as) had to discipline someone for doing so: 

“Once a person was caught masturbating and was brought to Imam 'Ali. The Imam punished him by beating his hands until they turned red; then he made an arrangement for his marriage on government's expenses. 

(Wasa'il, vol. 14, p. 267; vol. 18, pp. 574-5)”

Some non Muslim doctors and teachers may try to encourage such acts and say they are ‘healthy’ but such advice which contradicts the divine teachings is worthless. 

Masturbation is usually associated with haram acts such as pornography and can turn into an unhealthy addiction which affects one both physically and psychologically. 

A Muslim should try their upmost to have self control and dignity. Therefore, seeking marriage whether permanent or temporary is necessary to protect one’s private parts. 

A husband or wife may mutually stimulate each other’s private parts; for example, the wife masturbating the husband and vice-versa. If they are away from each other then they cannot use their own hands for such an action until being together. 

May Allah swt grant you success