Marriage

Marriage, also called matrimony or wedlock, is a socially or ritually recognised union between spouses that establishes rights and obligations between those spouses, as well as between them and any resulting biological or adopted children and affinity (in-laws and other family through marriage). The definition of marriage varies around the world not only between cultures and between religions, but also throughout the history of any given culture and religion, evolving to both expand and constrict in who and what is encompassed, but typically it is principally an institution in which interpersonal relationships, usually sexual, are acknowledged or sanctioned. In some cultures, marriage is recommended or considered to be compulsory before pursuing any sexual activity.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 año ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Your parents cannot force you to marry anyone. Islamically, it will not be a valid nikah marriage as well. 

If they are threatening you with such things like not funding your education, then let it be, but you should not give in to marrying someone you do not wish to marry. 

Speak to an elder in your family, or your local scholar, so they are able to address this with your parents, as long as you are safe. If you feel unsafe, then you must make measures to secure your safety. 

This kind of behaviour from parents is completely unacceptable, oppressive, and anyone around you who knows of it must help you.

With prayers for your success. 

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 año ago

If the rejection of the girl is not based in a valid reason in Islam, and the girl needs the marriage to save herself from falling in to sin, she will be then allowed to get married to a suitable Momin man whom she trusts in his faith and morals.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 año ago

This claim is not true. Great Sadat scholars including Maraaje' of Taqleed, have allowed marriage of their daughters with non Sayyed Momins. The claim mentioned in your question came from certain culture with no concrete evidence in religion.

'Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 año ago

Allah (SWT) Says in Quran: He (Allah) Renders barren whom He Wants).(Sura Al-Shura, Verse 50). It is the Decision and Wisdom of Allah who should be barren and sterile. No blame at all on the person who was created by Allah as barren or sterile. Marriage which aims having children needs a fertile wife, and that is the reason of the narrations. No doubt that Allah (SWT) Makes some of His creatures as sterile for reason in their favor even if they don't know it but it is definitely in their favor. It can be avoiding them a harm which can happen if they had children or any other serious reason.

'Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 año ago

Yes. Muslim should get married whenever he feels the need for marriage and it becomes necessary for him to get married when he feels that he might fall into sinful acts if he does not get married. Financial situation should never prevent or delay marriage as Allah (SWT) Promised to bestow His bounties and grant more sustenances to married persons then unmarried. The Prophetic statement says: He who avoids marrying because of fear of poverty, has under estimated the generosity of Allah. Hadeeth says: Get married , you will get more sustenance as marriage itself brings Barakah (Blessings in income).

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 año ago

Keep on reciting this Quranic verse (إنَّ هذا لَرِزقُنا ما لَهُ مِن نَفاد

INNA HAATHA LA RIZQONA MAA LAHO MIN NAFAAD.(Sura 38, Verse 54.)

You can write this verse and carry it with you.

Wassalam.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 año ago

Bismihi ta'ala

It is very unfortunate that your wife is holding onto a grudge, especially towards her parent-in-laws, which is not good and will affect her relationship with you as well. Whatever happened, and if they were right or wrong, both sides should think greater than that and focus on building good ties with each other. 

Her demanding you to cut ties is also very unethical and haram as well, and you must not accomodate to that as well. 
She must learn to forgive and forget, and respect elders, and forcing someone to cut ties with parents is gravely wrong and a major sin.

And Allah knows best.

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 año ago

It is absolutely forbidden in Islam to cut ties with your parents and this sin is one of the most dangerous major sins which has disastrous results in this life and hereafter. Never listen to any one who tell you to be away from your parents because this is what Shaitan wants you to do in order to be with Shaitan against Allah and against your parents. Whatever your parents did or still do which you don't like, you must be very nice to them even if they were unbelievers.

Wassalam.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 año ago

Bismihi ta'ala

The expression used in this khutbah is:

 وَقَدْ نِلْتَ مَنْ صَهْرِهِ مَا لَمْ يَنَالاَ

and you also hold relationship to him by marriage which they do not hold.

There are different views regarding this, but what can most certainly be said is that the Prophet (s.a.w.) only had one living child, Seyyidah Fatimah al-Zahraa (a.s.). 

As for what this is referring to, the view is that 'Uthman was married to Ruqayah and Um Kulthum, the adopted or step-daughters of the Prophet (s.a.w.). The reason why I say adopted or step-daughters is that there is a strong view that Seyidah Khadijah (a.s.) was not married before the Prophet (s.a.w.), nor did she have any children. It is said they are the daughters of Seyidah Khadijah's sister Halah. 

Anyway, there are different opinions regarding this, and for further reading,  please visit this link [Arabic]:

https://hawzah.net/ar/Question/View/61641/%D8%B5%D8%AD%D8%A9-%D8%B2%D9%8...

And Allah knows best.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 año ago

Bismihi ta'ala

No, a civil divorce does not take the place of a shar'i divorce.

What this husband must do is find out if his violation of law of the land is sinful and haram.

But nonetheless, it will not affect the shar'i legitimacy of the marriage, and they would still be husband and wife from a shar'i perspective. 

And Allah knows best.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 año ago

Bismihi ta'ala

All you need to do is recite the Nikah ceremony, and there is no need to wait for a three month period. 

If you have a temporary contract between you and her, you must nullify that first, by freeing her for the remaining period. Then you do the permanent Islamic marriage contract with her.

And Allah knows best. 

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Qamar dar Aqrab refers to the moon being in the zodiacal sign of Scorpio which happens 2-3 days per month (in that the moon circulates through all the zodiacal signs in one lunar month) and can be determined via astronomical software or eyeballs.

Historically, in a number of cultures, this has been considered an unfavourable time, which is probably why it appears in our heritage. There are some narrations on not marrying or starting a journey at this time, but they are not considered strong.

Some people choose to avoid scheduling marriages at this time, and that is fine. It is also fine not to pay attention to it at all. People vary in their belief in these things.

However, it is good not to get too caught up in these things, e.g. if someone gets married at this time, it doesn't mean that it will be a disaster. Sometimes if we feel that something has a bad "omen", it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy because then we subconsciously do things to make it go badly, and that isn't healthy at all! 

If something happens by accident (for instance, conception), there is no need to worry. Allah knows best what He creates and when, and He has his wisdom for it, especially when it comes to bringing life into this world, which is in His hands.

Of course, it doesn't hurt to give sadaqa a few times if you are concerned, but it isn't necessary. Don't overburden yourself with it by making it a requirement!