Parents

A parent is a caregiver of the offspring in their own species. In humans, a parent is the caretaker of a child (where "child" refers to offspring, not necessarily age). A biological parent is a person whose gamete resulted in a child, a male through the sperm, and a female through the ovum.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 años ago

Parents are responsible to look after their children and protect them from harmful or dangerous websites and bad company. They must do whatever they can to protect their children and never leave them exposed to any harm or danger. That does not mean to insult or degrade their children but just to look after them and protect them. If they come to know about any mistake from any of their children, they must keep his respect and avoid insulting him.

Wassalam.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 años ago

Bismihi ta'ala

As Muslims, we do not believe in caste, and we rather condemn such an attitude. Our criterion for evaluating someone is piety, as the Quran says. It is unfortunate that some parents still carry such a mentality, and hopefully one day we will all be able to implement our religion in the best way possible. 

That being said, you must take into consideration compatibility and overall mindset of who it is you are marrying. There must be a good level of compatibility for you and your future spouse to have a successful marriage. It would be best for an elder or a local scholar to somehow discuss this topic with your parents, if you see this suitor to be appropriate for you to marry. 

Do not allow this to escalate, or turn into major problems, and try to deal with it in a calm and wise way. 

As for "love marriage", this is an unfamiliar term in Islam. For us, it is either marriage, or not. Love is one thing, and legitimacy of a relationship between two non-mahram people is another. 

With prayers for your success. 

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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 2 años ago

In Shi'i fiqh, it is ok for women to travel without a mahram.

In Sunni fiqh, there is some variety of opinion, so if any of you are following the rullings of Sunni schools of thought, you should discuss your plans with an expert or look into the different views.

If you go on your trip, have fun and be careful!

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 2 años ago

Bismillah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

If they are mahram to each other then holding hands is permitted. So if they are 'engaged' meaning that they have either conducted a temporary or permanent aqd which has been read for them, then it's ok. If neither have been read for them yet, then they aren't allowed to physically touch each other regardless of what the parents say. 
 

May Allah grant you success 

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 años ago

Bismihi ta'ala

I am sure you know that in Islam, becoming an "adult" is not defined by turning 18 or 21. We see maturity to be reaching the age of taklif, where we become religiously responsible and accountable. 

As Muslims, we also know that obedience to parents has no age limit, and we show our utmost respect and reverence to our parents, as old as we get. The status of parents is above everything, and that is why you should not see it to be "control" in the negative sense.

Parents have authority over us, and in most, if not all cases, they want the best for us. As we grow, we must increase in our level of obedience to our parents, and cater for them as much as possible. We show this to ourselves, and to our children, so our children will learn from us. When we get old, we wont need to struggle, because we have shown our children the right Islamic way of how to treat elders. 

You must not disobey your parents, and always try your best to comply to their requirements and keep them happy with your behaviour and what you do. Please read about what our religion says about parents and the abundant reward we get in this dunya and akhirah when we show our obedience to them. 

Of course, we are talking about normal situations, but if one's parents are indeed evil, abusive and negatively controlling, then that would need to be dealt with in a wise way. 

With prayers for your success. 

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 años ago

Parents are not allowed to do injustice against their children or any of them. Being abusive with people is not an Islamic way to behave. Yet, if the parents or any parent becomes abusive, the children are never allowed to yell at them under any circumstance. Allah says in Quran about treating your parents: And never tell them Uff (any word of annoying) and never raise your voice at them. (17:23).

There is no question of retaliation we deal with our parents, no matter how bad might be. Even Kafir (disbelieving) parents who insist on their children to become disbelievers, must be treated in nice way. Allah says in Quran (If your parents strive to make you a Mushrik (polytheist), don't obey them, and deal with them nicely and kindly)(Sura 31, verse 15).

Wassalam.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 años ago

Bismihi ta'ala

If your parents are anti-vaccination, or against the Covid vaccine specifically, and they do not wish to take the vaccination due to a medical condition, which you also suffer from, and out of fear of you getting worse, then you must consult with a specialist and see what they recommend. 

If your parents are against Covid for any other reason, and not due to health difficulties you suffer from, then it would not be a sin if you take the vaccine without their knowledge. However, if they have specifically said to you that they will, for example, disown you if you get it, etc, then I would suggest you try to rationalise with them to avoid problems.

With prayers for your success. 

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 años ago

No. Don't hurt your parents in any way but don't cut off with any of your relatives, because it is a major sin to cut off with any relative. Try to do it tactfully to perform your duties towards your parents as well as towards your relatives. Obeying your parents can not allow disobeying Allah Who orders having good relation with all your relatives.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 años ago

Yes it allowed to foster children in any country. Helping and looking after and upbringing any child in need is a noble work which has great reward. Non Muslim children looked after by good Muslims might make them discover the great teachings of Islam and enlighten their life with the light of Islam.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 años ago

You should never hurt the feelings of any of your parents. Permission from one parent does not mean to disrespect or hurt the feeling of the other parent. I advise you to avoid any act which might hurt the feeling of any of your parents.

Virgin girl needs permission of her father or paternal grand father for her marriage. Mother's permission is not an obligatory condition, yet, her respect must be maintained properly.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 años ago

Not every Muslim woman needs her father's permission for her marriage. Only the virgin girl needs her father;s permission or her paternal grand father's. If the marriage is not the first marriage, then she is free to decide although it is always good to keep the respect of her father and mother but there no condition on her marriage.

Even virgin girl can get married if she needs marriage to save herself and her father is objecting on the marriage with out a valid Islamic reason.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 años ago

Money given to you is your money. If any amount of that money remains with you unspent, after one year from owning that amount,then Khums will be obligatory on that remaining amount only.

Wassalam.