Wife

A wife is a female partner in a continuing marital relationship.
The term continues to be applied to a woman who has separated from her partner, and ceases to be applied to such a woman only when her marriage has come to an end, following a legally recognized divorce or the death of her spouse. On the death of her partner, a wife is referred to as a widow, but not after she is divorced from her partner.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 año ago

I was hoping that one of sisters will answer this question but as did not see any reply I am answering briefly:

Jealousy of the wife over her husband can be against the rule of Allah Who allowed the man under certain conditions to have another wife. Jealousy against a rule from Allah is direct or indirect objection on Allah's rule, that is why it is bad.
Jealousy of man over his wife is against any relation between his wife and any other man, which is always a sinful act because she is a married woman and never allowed any act or word which can initiate a relation with another man. Husband's jealousy over his wife (without false allegations) is good to protect her and the whole family from a sinful act. You can then compare between a jealousy going against Allah;s rule and a Jealousy to protect the wife and the family from a sinful act.

'Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answer updated 1 año ago

Pious believing couples who will be granted Paradise will be together in Paradise as well. This is according authentic Hadeeths.Allah will grant each of them the best abilities, health, beauty etc to be the most attractive to the other spouse and make them enjoy being together in the best wonderful way. Allah says in Quran: They and their wives will be in pleasant shade. (Ashraf 36, verse 56).

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 año ago

No question of renewing your Nikah. Your Nikah remains valid no matter how long you don't have intercourse with your wife, even if you are separated for years.

'Nothing in Islam suggests that you should refrain from sexual intercourse with your wife during her pregnancy. Even after child birth, you are allowed sexual intercourse immediately after the post natal bleeding which is ten days or less. Unless your wife is not well.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 año ago

If the woman puts a condition on the marriage contract that her husband should not have another wife during he is married to her, and the husband agrees on such condition, then it becomes binding on the husband to fulfill this condition which is part of the marriage contract.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answer updated 1 año ago

Husband must maintain practical justice between his wives. Practical justice is in treating them and spending time with each of them equally like he spends time with his other wives. It also requires spending on each of them equally.
Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 año ago

Visiting your mother and being very nice to her and to your father is your responsibility as a good human being beside your Islamic duty as Muslim. You need also to give your wife her rights and never ignore your responsibility towards her. Keeping the balance is always required between different responsibilities. As far as you don't do injustice to your wife's rights, you must always look after your parents in every possible way and spend with whatever they need from you.

Wassalam.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 año ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Islam encourages healthy sexual relations between husband and wife, and to cater for each other's sexual needs and lusts, as long as they are within the shar'i and moral boundaries. 

It is highly mustahab to address their sexual needs. For example, foreplay is highly recomended, where first it is recommended to engage in mudāʿabah, which means verbal foreplay, then mulāʿabah, physical foreplay, and then mujāmaʿah, which is having sex. 
Oral sex is a part of mulāʿabah, and there is no problem with that as well. In regards to semen, in Shi'i fiqh, it is considered najis, and therefore, should the husband ejaculate in wife's mouth, she must not swallow any of it, and must wash her mouth. 

Also, the wife does not need to perform ghusl in this instance.

Of course, there are certain sexual practices in today's Western society that are inhumane, immoral, degrading and humiliating, but happily accepted by some. As Muslims, we we must not imitate whatever is out there, or  what is in pornography, etc.

As much as our religion encourages intimacy and sex within marriage, we also have a duty to dignify our spouse and never make her feel uncomfortable.

And Allah knows best.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 año ago

Bismihi ta'ala

It is wrong for your wife to pry into your past sins, and if it has nothing to do with your current life or has no involvement with your marriage, it is haram for you to disclose it to others. We are not allowed to expose our previous sins to others, or confess to anyone about the past, especially if we have repented. 

She should refrain from asking you about it, and you do not need to lie. You just refuse to give any information about it. 

With prayers for your success

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 año ago

Bismihi ta'ala

No, being separated for numerous years does not nullify the marriage, so in your case you are still considered husband and wife, until the Islamic divorce is conducted. 

And Allah knows best. 

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 año ago

Wife's parents have no right to ask for divorce of their daughter with out real Islamic reason. You and your wife should co-operate to convince them not to break your family or you can seek help from respected persons known to them to speak to them,

Main thing is to sort things between you and your wife between you and her with out interference from any one else.

Wassalam,

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 año ago

Divorce is the most disliked permissible act in Islam. It should be avoided as much as possible that is why Islam has kept many conditions for a valid Talaq which are not so easy.

Divorce should not be declared by the husband with out a proven fault or confirmed failure from the wife where she is unable or not willing to repair.

Divorce should not be a weapon against innocent wife, otherwise it can be an act of injustice against her.

Wassalam.

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Rebecca Masterton, Dr Rebecca Masterton graduated with a BA in Japanese Language and Literature; an MA in Comparative East Asian and African Literature and a PhD in Islamic literature of West Africa. She has been... Answered 1 año ago

It is unacceptable for a mother-in-law to be verbally abusive to her daughter-in-law. Verbal abuse, jealousy and hatred to that extent can be part of a personality disorder. I can recommend researching in detail the characteristics of the malignant, narcissistic woman and mother. In insulting someone you love, she is also abusing you.  Mothers with a narcissistic personality disorder (as opposed to just being self-centred) are competitive in terms of who their child loves most.

How your children see you behave with your mother and wife will affect their own marriages down the line. Can you ask your mother not to verbally abuse your wife? If you feel you can't, that is revealing something about how your mother has trained you to relate to her, i.e. to remain passive and take the abuse; to not have enough self-worth to even politely ask her not to be verbally abusive.

Your duty is to love and protect your wife. You are the head of your household. You also have to protect the well being of your children. If they see their mother being abused their well being will be affected too. 

According to Ayatollah Dastghayb-Shirazi, you are entitled to minimise or even cut ties with family members whose bad behaviour you can't reform, or whose bad behaviour gets worse by your presence, or whose bad behaviour you indirectly condone by co-operating with them. Being good to your parents does not mean condoning behaviour that could destroy your family.

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