Girl

A girl is a young female, usually human, usually a child or an adolescent. When she becomes an adult, she is described as a woman. The term girl may also be used to mean a young woman, and is sometimes used as a synonym for daughter.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 años ago

Muslim female should go to female psychiatrist and get required therapy from females.

Talking about your previous sins is not good unless it is advised by the doctors as part of the treatment. 
Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 años ago

It is not permissible to take part in inappropriate topics whether participants are males or females or mixed as far as the topic is inappropriate.

Some special topics for men only or for women only, can be appropriate if discussed among same gender only but are inappropriate if discussed in a mixed group of males and females.

 Muslim must avoid any inappropriate discussion looking not only to the topic but also to the participants.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 años ago

Bad friends can harm you more than your enemies. Never indulge in wrong even if your friends do. You must be careful that your friends don't make you lose your pious character nor make you share their bad acts. 
Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answer updated 2 años ago

1. When you know that Allah does not allow any marriage between a Muslim female and a non Muslim man and you write that  "you feel that you went against Allah", you must repent and seek forgiveness and come back to Allah and never insist on doing wrong.

2. If you can convince the man and explain to him how to become a Muslim, then you need to recite a marriage agreement (Nikah) between you and him after becoming a Muslim in his heart.

3. If he refuses to become a Muslim, then there is no way that you can remain with him.

4. You must save yourself and your future from sinful acts.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 años ago

It not allowed to do Mut'ah marriage with a female from People of Book (Ahlul Kitab) with out the permission of your Muslim wife.

Wassalam..

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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 2 años ago

In Shi'i fiqh, it is ok for women to travel without a mahram.

In Sunni fiqh, there is some variety of opinion, so if any of you are following the rullings of Sunni schools of thought, you should discuss your plans with an expert or look into the different views.

If you go on your trip, have fun and be careful!

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Sayyed Muhammad Husaini Ragheb, Sayyed Muhammad Husaini Ragheb has a BA in Law from Guilan University, Iran and has also undertaken Hawzah studies in Qom. He used to be a Cultural Affairs director of Ethics Group of Al-Mustafa... Answer updated 2 años ago

Salaam
Late Sheikh Yusuf Sane'ee and Sheikh Muhammad Is'haaq Fayyaz believe in 13 unless other signs of puberty appear before that, and also Sheikh Ibrahim Jannaati believes in the start of her menses as the sign of her puberty.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 años ago

Bismihi ta'ala

The statement "emotionally unstable" is very broad, and so it could be difficult to say whether it needs to be disclosed prior to a marriage proposal or not. 

If she has a chronic illness that would affect her spousal relationship, and impede in what people would see to be a healthy marriage, then it is best for her to be upfront about everything so she is not left with a broken heart or an early divorce. 

In general, it is always better to be direct and clear about one's mental state of being, and to mention what would be for or against them. 

Everyone is entitled to get married, even if they have certain challenges they are facing, and of course she can get married if she is emotionally unstable, but honesty is always going to work to everyone's advantage. 

Hopefully, with therapy and support of her family and loved ones she can overcome these emotional difficulties, and maybe marriage will secure her mental stability, in shaa Allah.

With prayers for your success. 

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 años ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Loyalty and honouring one's word is the most valuable and most important of qualities a person can have. If your commitment to your word is weak, or you have no consideration to honouring your promise, what else is there? 

Both the female, and the male as well have a commitment to stay loyal and honour their agreement. Betraying this, and violating the promise or contract given is not only a major sin, but could also weaken the very relationship in the case they wish to pursue for marriage. It will always be hovering over them that they betrayed the amanah given to them. 

Yes, they can do what they are comfortable with, but stay within the permitter of the agreement.

If what you mean by "physical contact", as in no sexual intercourse, then they can have physical intimacy, but no penetration. This is a common condition fathers place, so this is left for consummation of marriage on wedding night. 

If what you mean by "physical contact" is no physical contact whatsoever, then I think this was an unfair condition, and they should speak to her father and explain that this is unrealistic. Or, they can decide if marriage is the best option for them, and hasten that. If, of course, they find each other to be compatible and happy with marriage. 

In any case, violating an agreement, especially if it is a condition in the contract is haram and sinful. 

Best thing to do is negotiate for a change. 

With prayers for your success. 

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 años ago

Bismihi ta'ala

If all other shar'i requirements are met, yes, she can marry that man.

The marriage proposal must take its normal procedure, primarily around the parents giving their consent and their blessings. This is the most important part. 

A second important step is to see the character traits of the person, their moral standards, their family, compatibility, etc.

A third step to take is seeking consultation and advice, trying to find out if this prospect marriage is a good idea, and the obstacles they might face. This is necessary for any case of marriage, Muslim born, or convert. 

Both of them should study this from all its angles, for the sake of making the right decision and having a successful marriage. 

With prayers for your success.  

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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 2 años ago

Sorry to hear about your situation.

I just wanted to add that even in this day and age when we think we control everything with technology, life and death are still in the hands of Allah. I have known several men and women who thought they were infertile (or even had surgery to prevent children) who later had children. Similarly, some people who are fertile never have children.

So unless there is an obvious genetic or anatomical reason why it is wholly impossible for you to father children, sometimes the possibility exists.

Of course you know your situation best, and perhaps it is not relevant to your specific situation. I just thought I would put it out there in general - there are no guarantees - although sometimes we can get a good idea of the probability of something happening, and it makes sense for someone who has a strong interest in having children to maximize the probability of it happening.

 

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 años ago

You should be very honest, frank and clear with her about such matter if you are medically proven unable to have children. Honesty is more important than a deal of marriage with out informing the girl about an issue which is usually crucial for every girl who accepts marriage with a hope to be a mother in the future. Keeping her in dark is not acceptable at all. If you tell her the truth and she accepts it, then it is good and she can not complain in the future that you cheated her.

Wassalam.