Spouse

A spouse is a significant other in a marriage, civil union, or common-law marriage. The term is gender neutral, whereas a male spouse is a husband and a female spouse is a wife.

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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 4 años ago

No one is perfect, and no one is a perfect spouse! We all have flaws. It is not good to idealize someone too much before marriage, because, after marriage, we discover they are only human beings, and it can open the door to disappointment. 

However, there is no harm in considering your spouse perfect *after* you are married. It might avoid many arguments. :)

There are many factors that go into a happy and lasting marriage - for instance, physical attraction, personal compatibility, commitment, treating someone nicely, and the willingness to compromise. None of these relate specifically to hijab. 

It is recommended to marry someone of faith who is conscious of Allah. If hijab reflects a person's faith, that is a good sign. However, hijab is not a guarantee of a happy marriage or even of shared views about Islam. So it is safer not to stereotype and to look at the individual instead.

However, it is good if there is agreement about the matter of hijab. That is, if a young man is looking to marry a girl who wears hijab, and the girl wears hijab, then this is a source of agreement and one less possible source of conflict.

 

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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 4 años ago

Hajj is prescribed for both men and women in Islam and is obligatory one time on anyone who is able to perform it.

If she is not able to perform hajj (because she cannot afford it, because it would cause hardship, because she is physically unable to, because she cannot get a visa, or for other reasons), then it is not obligatory right now. 

Sometimes we are not able to do things in life because of our circumstances, and this is part of life. We are not responsible for the things we cannot do. 

As the Qur'an says, Allah does not intend to burden us!

If she is not able to go, it is good for her to pray for Allah to grant her the opportunity to go in the future and to have the intention to go if it becomes possible. How often are prayers to go to hajj answered!

If her circumstances change so that she becomes able to do it, then it becomes obligatory.  

However the intent behind Islamic law is that everyone who can perform hajj does so regardless of whether they are a homemaker or not. 

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Zeinab Donati, Zeinab Donati has been studying books about various Islamic subjects for more than 19 years. She is deeply interested in history and politics as well as social issues in particular those pertaining... Answered 4 años ago

This question and the whole etiquette of marriage, what is permitted, allowed, and impermissible is nicely explained in the following books: Marriage and Morals in Islam by Sayyid Muhammad Rizvi: https://www.al-islam.org/marriage-and-morals-islam-sayyid-muhammad-rizvi/chapter-three-islamic-sexual-morality-2-its

I also suggest to browse the category if Marriage of Al-Islam.org to find more useful texts and lectures on the subject: https://www.al-islam.org/library/marriage

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 4 años ago

Zawj زوج means spouse and not only wife. The translation which you are referring to is not accurate. It should be (O believers, some of your spouses and children are enemies to you, so beware of them) 64:14.

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