Husband

A husband is a male in a marital relationship. The rights and obligations of a husband regarding his spouse and others, and his status in the community and in law, vary between cultures and have varied over time.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 years ago

Yes definitely. Husband is required to provide all livelihood needs for his wife including home, food, clothing, medication, etc. Even if the wife is rich, still her husband remains responsible in Islam to provide all her livelihood and housing needs for her.

Wassalam.

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 2 years ago

Bismillah,

Asalamu alaykom, 

In regard to your husband, have you noticed that there is any particular reason why he has become non practicing? Is there any way you could possibly influence him or take him to someone that can? 

Divorce should be a last resort and as long as he says that he is still Muslim, your marriage would be valid. Also there is no sin upon you for the sins of your spouse. If however you exhaust all avenues and you find that such a marriage is lowering your faith as well, then you need to reevaluate whether this will be best for you in the long term. 

At the same time remember, one’s faith can go up and down so try to remain patient as this could be a test. Try to help you husband regain his faith and make constant dua for him. 

May Allah grant you success

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

It is not a sin for a couple to stay married and their marriage be loveless. Marriage is one thing, and love is another. However, a loveless marriage and a cold relationship is not ideal at all. It does affect both sides, and the household as well. Both husband and wife my strive to do something about their feelings towards each other and find ways of re-igniting their love towards each other. It is not healthy at all for them to stay loveless, and it will create a lot of toxicity between them. 

In any case, from a fiqhi perspective, if the wife chooses to stay in the relationship under such circumstances, it is not a sin.

And Allah knows best. 

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 2 years ago

Bismillah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

It is not allowed for him to force you to cut relations with those who it is wajib to keep relations with such as parents and siblings. If you cannot solve an issue by speaking to him, then it's advised you get a trustworthy scholar from the community to mediate and advise him that this is haram and a big sin. If you don't fear any harm to yourself, you may also contact your family without his permission
 

May Allah grant you a 

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 years ago

He is not allowed to force her to do something more than the usual sexual intercourse which she does not like to do. 
Sexual intercourse is forbidden during menstrual period.

Oral sex is not obligatory on her.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 years ago

Divorce is the most disliked permissible act أبغض الحلال إلى الله

 Yet, if there is no way at all to reconcile and continue but to divorce, divorce has certain conditions without which it is invalid. One of conditions of divorce is two pious men to witness the declaration of divorce. If your husband is really willing to divorce you according to the Islamic rules, he can request a trusted person who knows Arabic to announce divorce on his behalf in the presence of two pious men. You should not be in your menstrual period nor during purity in which you had sexual inter course with your husband.

Wassalam. 

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Nafaqah is wajib upon the husband, and any financial contribution the wife makes is solely out of her kindness and good will. She has no responsibility or duty added onto her towards the house, even if she is rich or earns more money. 

Yes, there would be a situation where she must contribute, and that is, for example, when she demands to live in a certain area or house that is more expensive, and she pledges to pay the additional amount. 

And Allah knows best. 

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answer updated 2 years ago

1. There is no evidence that your marriage was blocked by black magic and you should never surrender to this claim. Those who think that they are under the effect if black magic, get harmed even if there is nothing done against them, but they themselves harm themselves by thinking that they been under back magic.Even if there is any possibility of bad thing done against you, you can easily remove it away just by reciting Ayatul Kursi, Sura Falaq and Sura Naas after Prayers.

2. Reply on Allah's Mercy and trust that He will never let you alone. Seek His help always and supplicate and seek His support.

3. Recite this verse as many times as you can especially after every Prayer: إنَّ هذا لَرِقُنا ما لَهُ مِن نَفاد INNA HAATHA LARIZQUNA MAALAHO MIN NAFAAD (Sura 38, verse 54). This verse has great benefits in many matters including marriage.

4. Recite this Quranic Du'a : ربِّ لا تَذَرني فَرداً وَأنتَ خَيرُ الوارثين RABBI LA THATHARNI FARDAN  WA ANTA KHAIRUL WARITHEEN. (Sura al-Anbiyaa', verse 89).

5. Repeat Salawaat (ALLAHUMMA SALLI'ALA MUHAMMAD WA AALI MUHAMMAD) and Istighfaar (ASTAGHFIRULLAH RABBI WA ATOOBU ELAYH) and (La Hawla wala Qowwata illa Billah).

Wassalam.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

If your husband lives in a different country, and you have given approval for that, and not objected, then this does not deprive the other wife from her right when you visit him. 

It would be good if the other wife forgoes her time during this period, and you have enough time to spend with your husband, but if she refuses, then she has that right. Unless, of course, such a condition was stipulated in your marriage contract, in which case the husband must abide by it. 

Whatever the situation may be, the main issue is whether or not it is good for you to be away from your husband for long periods of time, and when visiting him how much time you have with him. 

Nothing is more important than fairness and facilitating all the due rights of others.

With prayers for your success. 

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Although reciting a dua and praying for your husband would be a good thing to do, but it on its own will not eliminate the problem of alcoholism, him creating problems with those around him or his immaturity. 

You will need to seek intervention, by requesting his elders and even a therapist to instruct him on how to stop stop drinking and to improve his conduct. Such an individual should not be left to behave in this way, as it will certainly affect your marriage, and also your children as well, if you have children. 

His insecurities might be because he was spoiled from his childhood, or sees others as a threat to him, or whatever reason it may be. You must try to reassure him of his good qualities, and support him in what's challenging him, but you cannot do this all on your own. Speak to elders in the family, a professional counselor, and whoever else that can assist your husband in what he is going through.

With prayers for your success. 

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 years ago

If your husband gives you pocket money to keep for you or spend as you want, then this means that the money is yours. Such money owned by you is your responsibility and any remaining amount of it must be applied for Khums.

If your husband gives you the money to keep it for home expenses to be made on his behalf, then such money is still his money but kept with you. In such case, no Khums on you because your husband is still the owner of that amount.

Wassalam.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

In Islam, masturbating is haram. If the woman is married, it is her husband's duty to satisfy his wife's sexual needs. It is very oppressive and selfish if he does not. We have numerous hadiths that mention this as well. 

If, for whatever reason, the husband is not fulfilling his duty and catering to her rights, it does not give her permission to do haram, and she must address this with her husband, or find other solutions.

And Allah knows best.