Iddah

In Islam, iddah or iddat (Arabic: العدة‎; period of waiting) is the period a woman must observe after the death of her husband or after a divorce, during which she may not marry another man. Its purpose is to ensure that the male parent of any offspring produced after the cessation of a nikah (marriage) would be known. The length of iddah varies according to a number of circumstances.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

From a shar'i perspective, you do not need consent from your father, but I would advice you against engaging in mut'ah, and focus on recovering from the previous relationship, and hopefully finding new marriage. 

As a society, one who engages in such things becomes less wanted for marriage, and our Islamic values require that we stay chaste and modest, aiming at building a family. 

Also, although shar'i wise, you do not need your father's consent, but ethically, morally and socially, involving family in these things is definitely important. 

And Allah knows best

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 3 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

To the wife, and the husband has no say in this.

And Allah knows best

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 4 months ago

You are married.
If your husband touched you during your Iddah period, the Talaq is nul and void immediately and you are married to one another as you were before the divorce.

'Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 6 months ago

Yes. Iddah of Talaq is must even if the sexual relation was with contraception. Your Iddah after Talaq will be three menstrual periods.

'Wassalam.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 9 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

There is no 'iddah for the wife to observe while "filing" for divorce. She must observe 'iddah only after the Islamic divorce is recited. When the talaq is recited, her 'iddah period will be three menstrual cycles. 

And Allah knows best

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 10 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Yes, the 'iddah period must still be observed by the wife, even though a long time has passed from their separation, as long as she is not ya`isah. 

It is three menstrual cycles, and she does not necessarily need to do anything. The only thing she cannot do at all is get remarried during this time. 

Please refer to detailed Ahkam books for further explanations.

And Allah knows best

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 year ago

Yes it is permissible for her to travel but with keeping all the Islamic rules of Iddah.

Wassalam.

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Bismihi ta'ala

The question you are asking is not very clear.

Are you saying 4 months of 'iddah of divorce, after her husband had officially divorced her?

If this was the case, her 'iddah is 3 menstrual cycles.

Or are you saying she was away from her husband, and Islamic divorce was not officially conducted, but due to her absence from him, you considered her to be divorced by default and the 4 months as an 'iddah. 

If this is the case, she is not divorced, and she had no 'iddah, and your mut'ah with her was invalid, and you are not allowed to ever be with her. 

What you should do is avoid any relationship with her until you can verify the information and the circumstances, and then act accordingly, in shaa Allah. 

And Allah knows best. 

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

As long as she is under the age of "ya`s" or shar'i menopause, then she must observe 'iddah, which for her is not three menstrual cycles, but rather three full months. 

In fiqh, a woman who is in the age of menstruating, but does not menstruate, she is referred to as mustarabah.  Of course, it would be a good idea for her to refer  to the specific view of her Marja' taqleed. 

And Allah knows best. 

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 3 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

The 'iddah period for an Islamic divorce is 3 menstrual cycles, or 3 months if a woman is within the age of menstrual cycle but does not menstruate, or delivery of a child if she is pregnant. 

The 'iddah takes effect and commences when the shar'i divorce is conducted. If the court divorce is also an Islamic shar'i court, then it would have that effect as well.

However, if it is a civil/legal divorce, and not a shar'i divorce, she is still Islamically married to her husband and they must initiate procedure of Islamic divorce for her to commence her 'iddah

And Allah knows best.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 3 years ago

Iddah of Talaq (Waiting period after Talaq) is Must on her no matter how long she is separated from her husband as far as the marriage was consummated. Iddah starts immediately from the time of Talaq and it goes on for three periods of menstruation. 

If marriage was never consummated, and Talaq was declared, then there will be no Iddah.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 3 years ago

Intimate acts which do not include sexual intercourse do not mean that the marriage has been consummated. Marriage is consummated when sexual intercourse takes place. If there was no sexual intercourse, there will be no Iddah after divorce. Obviously you will then be entitled of half of the agreed Mahr, while if marriage was consummated, you will be entitled to the full Mahr.

Wassalam.