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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 5 months ago

Yes it is permissible.

‘Wassalam.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 6 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

No, it is not mandatory, and she does not need to do any household responsibilities for them, unless it is out of her own good-will and her kindness. 

Her focus should be on her new life with herself and her husband, and her only duty to her in-laws is respect them like her own parents, honour them, treat them well, but does not need to do anything she does not want to.

Her husband and her in-laws should of course know what Islam says, and should accommodate to this as well.

 And Allah knows best

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 8 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Yes, whether the female is Muslim born or converted to Islam, he will still need to follow the correct shar'i and traditional Islamic custom of process of proposal and everything else. Involving family in the marriage proposal is extremely important, and so is seeking their blessings and happiness. 

And Allah knows best

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 8 months ago

No unless you have concrete evidence that he is committing Haraam which can destroy the life of the girl, then you can give them the evidence and leave them to verify and decide.

Wassalam.

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Rebecca Masterton, Dr Rebecca Masterton graduated with a BA in Japanese Language and Literature; an MA in Comparative East Asian and African Literature and a PhD in Islamic literature of West Africa. She has been... Answered 8 months ago

Family unity is of vital importance. It sounds like there may be other issues here - more than that of halal food - possibly issues of balance of power between your parents. Why would your mother not want to be with your father? Is your father respected in the family? Do you have a close bond with him?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 9 months ago

You should avoid hurting or disrespecting any of your parents. Even you have no way but to chose one option of your parents different options, you must keep their respect and nice to both of them in every possible way.

‘Wassalam.

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Bismihi ta'ala

You and your family should not rely on istikharah for making the decision of marriage. Istikharah should not be the primary tool to be used for marriage selection. 

The age gap that you mentioned is not really a major issue, and could be overlooked, if there is compatibility and commonalities and attraction towards each other.

However, as you said there is no attraction, and you do not have that certainty in this marriage proposal, then I would recommend you not rush into this, and not allow your parents to pressure you. 

You have every right to decline this proposal as well, and if you are doing the right thing, you wont need to regret in the future.

For marriage, the important thing is him being religious, having good morals, good reputation, and there being compatibility between you and him. 

Sit with him, once or twice, or even three times, and ask the right questions, especially about future plans and what your ambitions and goals are, and how his views agree with you or not, and then make your decision. Not based on istikharah, but based on the information you have.

With prayers for your success.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 9 months ago

Milk daughter is not allowed to marry with her milk father nor her milk brother, but she does not have a share in inheritance like a real daughter unless by a will and within the limit of the one third. As she is living with your family due to her mothers passing away, you and all your family members should give her all moral support and look after her in every possible way. 
Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 9 months ago

Praying along with any Muslim from any other sect apart from Ahlul Bayt is not only permissible but also recommended.

Wassalam.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 10 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Yes, if it is crucial information and would affect the success of the marriage, and you are asked for your input, you must be honest. 

This situation is among the cases where gheebah (backbiting) is permissible, or maybe could even be obligatory. 
Of course, you must be careful that it does not somehow backlash onto you as well. 

And Allah knows best

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 11 months ago

You should perform the obligatory Daily Prayers in a place where your non Muslim family should not see you, either in a separate room at home or outside your home.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 11 months ago

Islam does organize the family life and the relationship between husband and wife but there no right for the husband to stop his wife from meeting her family or usual friends who don't harm her faith and behaviour. Working of the wife depends on its nature, so if her work does not prevent her husband from his rights as a husband, then it is allowed for her to work, and vice Versa.

Wassalam.