Forgiveness

Forgiveness is the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense, lets go of negative emotions such as vengefulness, forswears recompense from or punishment of the offender, however legally or morally justified it might be, and with an increased ability to wish the offender well. Forgiveness is different from condoning (failing to see the action as wrong and in need of forgiveness), excusing (not holding the offender as responsible for the action), forgetting (removing awareness of the offense from consciousness), pardoning (granted for an acknowledged offense by a representative of society, such as a judge), and reconciliation (restoration of a relationship).

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 12 hours ago

Repeating the same sin again means that repentance was not real . Real repenting means you decide not to commit the sin again. We need to think on the results of the sinful acts and avoid it once for all. Seeking forgiveness needs a firm decision not to do it again. We need to face ourselves and tackle our sinful desires because we will be in serious danger if we don't leave the sinful acts.

Seel help from Allah (SWT) to enable you to defeat Satan and sinful desires and repeat ASTAGHFIRULLAH RABBI WA ATOOBU ELAYH. But no foreguveness if keep on committing the sins.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 4 weeks ago

It is good to forgive and forget as well as be careful for future dealings not to fall in previous mistakes.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 3 months ago

We need to continuously seek forgiveness and never think that our sins have been omitted. In Quran we read blame on the person who claims that his sins have been omitted just because his hardship has gone away. Sura Hud, verse 10.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Muhammad Husaini Ragheb, Sayyed Muhammad Husaini Ragheb has a BA in Law from Guilan University, Iran and has also undertaken Hawzah studies in Qom. He used to be a Cultural Affairs director of Ethics Group of Al-Mustafa... Answered 3 months ago

At the end of the day it's a type of Dua and request by which you ask Allah swt to forgive him. So it is permissible

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 3 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Of course, Almighty God forgives all sins, when we turn to Him, and repent and seek forgiveness. The door of tawbah is always open, but we need to always be careful that we do not be deceived by shaytan, or turn sin into an ongoing habit, where we casually engage in haram.

Repentance is important, but it is also a blessing from God, as He knows our level of sincerity and remorse, and how we wish to change our ways, improve ourselves and avoid sin.

Strengthening our faith and will-power will make us strong enough not to return to haram as well.

And Allah knows best

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 6 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

If wife no longer wishes to be with husband, for whatever reason, she will not be punished, unless she has wronged him. If she no longer had the tolerance or patience to be with him, then she is not going to be held accountable for that. She probably did her best, and it could have been too overwhelming for her. 

This is more a moral situation, rather than a shar'i situation. 

And Allah knows best

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 6 months ago

No. We must ask and beg to Allah to forgive our sins. Without being humble to seek and beg to Allah for forgiveness, our sins will not be forgiven. Not asking Allah for forgiveness, means that the sinner is still arrogant even if he decides not committing the sin again, but as he has already committed the sin, he must seek and beg to Allah (SWT) for forgiveness.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 7 months ago

1. Deep feeling of sorrow and sadness whenever you remember committing that sin. Such sorrow and sadness can make the sinner weep when he is alone especially at night and beg from Allah to forgiveness.

2. Firm decision not to do it again under any circumstances.

3. Repeating Istighfaar ( ASTAGHFIRULLAH) or it's meaning in your own language as many times as you can, day and night, especially during night and during prostration (Sojood).

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 9 months ago

There are different types of depression. Some of the depression cases can be avoided or treated by remembering Allah and sincerely seeking His Help. Some depression cases are out of control and can not be treated but by medical experts. Such uncontrolled depression is an illness like other uncontrolled illnesses. If the person loses control and goes out of his senses, then he will be considered behaving out of his senses. Allah only Knows the real feelings and status of the senses of people. Allah Judges people and we are not entitled to judge others. We just pray for the well-being of depressed people and for the forgiveness of late believers.

Wassalam.

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Their not taking revenge or not showing anger does not mean that you did not wrong them. We must seek forgiveness from everyone whom we wronged. Without that, we will be accountable in the Day of Judgement which is the hardest day for the sinners.

Wassalam.

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Bismhi ta'ala

This is going to be a choice the husband makes. Of course, you must understand how difficult it would be for him to trust you again, or to forget the incident, and it might continue to be brought up, especially if you have an argument. 

He might even accuse the children of not being his, and so on. 

Therefore, if he forgives you, which is possible from a shar'i perspective, you must both navigate correct solutions to deal with the infidelity and how to avoid it in future, from both sides.

And Allah knows best

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 11 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

After tawbah, if you have access to somehow find them, and won't be harmed, return back items, or their equivalent in money. If not, pay its amount in sadaqah, on their behalf, and pray to Allah for forgiveness. 

And Allah knows best.