Divorce

Divorce, also known as dissolution of marriage, is the process of terminating a marriage or marital union. Divorce usually entails the canceling or reorganizing of the legal duties and responsibilities of marriage, thus dissolving the bonds of matrimony between a married couple under the rule of law of the particular country or state. Divorce laws vary considerably around the world, but in most countries divorce requires the sanction of a court or other authority in a legal process, which may involve issues of distribution of property, child custody, alimony (spousal support), child visitation / access, parenting time, child support, and division of debt.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 days ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Unfortunately, this is among the very negative practices we have in our societies, and it definitely is dhulm to some women. We must strengthen our marriages, especially the culture of correct spouse selection, but also increasing our level of tolerance, to avoid divorce. 

We must also try to educate people that there is nothing wrong with marrying a divorcee. They might have gone through a bad experience, or made wrong choices, or matured from their previous relationship.

In all, a lot needs to be done to improve our state, to adopt Islamic teachings in its best form.

And Allah knows best

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 weeks ago

Wazifa means certain recitations from Quranic verses and words and supplications of the Prophet (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS). It is very good to perform Wazifa narrated through authentic chain of narrators from Ahlul Bayt (AS).

For saving marriage it is good to repeat Salawaat, Estighfaar and La Hawla Wala Qowwata Ella Billah.

'It is also useful to repeat: (YA GHAFOURU YA WADOUD) 100 times after every Salaah.

Also to recite this Quranic supplication: RABBI LA TATHARNI FARDA WA ANTA ARHAMUR RAAHIMEEN.

'Wassalam.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 month ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Conditions for Islamic divorce according to Shi'ah law are:

1. Wife is outside of her menstrual cycle, not having had sex with husband since previous cycle. 

2. Having agreed on type of divorce.

3. There be a minimum of two strictly religious, pious, righteous men. Physically present to witness the reciting of the formula of divorce.

4. The husband reciting the formula of divorce in formal Arabic, with correct pronunciation, or authorising someone else to conduct it on his behalf.

5. If wife is forfeiting, she must also authorise.

For detailed information, read:

https://www.sheikh-alsalami.org.au/2017/10/23/divorce-service-english/

As for when is it permissible, if all avenues have been exhausted, and it has reached to irreconcilable stage, then wife/husband can divorce.

And Allah knows best.

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Rebecca Masterton, Dr Rebecca Masterton graduated with a BA in Japanese Language and Literature; an MA in Comparative East Asian and African Literature and a PhD in Islamic literature of West Africa. She has been... Answered 1 month ago

I am sorry that you are having to go through this at your age. Firstly, you should not have to choose to stay with any parent. Being pressured to stay with one parent or another today constitutes as emotional abuse. If you have a good relationship with your father, then you are not under any obligation to stay with your mother. The fact that she is using religion to threaten you and coerce you into staying with her is disturbing, and implies possibly a history of emotional manipulation. There are now many helpful videos on youtube on how to handle emotional manipulation by parents, such as 'The Cra**y Childhood Fairy' and Jerry Wise. Emotional manipulation can damage a child for life, so you need to learn to make sense of what is happening to you and how you can handle it effectively in a way that maintains your self-protection and healthy mental and emotional growth.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 month ago

Bismihi ta'ala

If she meets the rights requirements of what Islam wants you to look for in a spouse, and there is compatibility between the two of you, and family members are all ok, you should marry her. 

Yes, she went through a divorce, but it should not make her any less desirable for you to marry. She could have gone through a test in her life, and as long as she carries the religious values and akhlaq you should looking for, then that is very good.

And Allah knows best

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 3 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

This will depend on what type of divorce was conducted. If it is raj'i (revocable), and within her 'iddah period, then they are husband and wife again.

And Allah knows best

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 3 months ago

If the man has willingly forfeited the remaining time of the Mut'ah marriage, then it has ended. If you both want to continue together,you need to recite a new Mut'ah marriage contract with fresh time and Mahr.

If he was not willing to end the Mut'ah and said what he said in anger with out meaning it,the Mut'ah remain valid till the end of the time or deliberate termination of the Mut'ah from him.

'Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 4 months ago

You are married.
If your husband touched you during your Iddah period, the Talaq is nul and void immediately and you are married to one another as you were before the divorce.

'Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 6 months ago

Yes. Iddah of Talaq is must even if the sexual relation was with contraception. Your Iddah after Talaq will be three menstrual periods.

'Wassalam.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 9 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

The divorce would not be valid if that was the case, and the best thing to do is for you both to refer to a qualified scholar for marriage counselling, and if no solution can be made and there is no hope for reconciliation, then husband can inform the qualified scholar and conduct the divorce in the correct way, meeting all the valid requirements, and give a document for it as well. 

And Allah knows best

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 9 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

There is no 'iddah for the wife to observe while "filing" for divorce. She must observe 'iddah only after the Islamic divorce is recited. When the talaq is recited, her 'iddah period will be three menstrual cycles. 

And Allah knows best

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 9 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

If she becomes Muslim, her marriage is automatically be nullified, should her husband not convert as well. She will need to observe 'iddah as well.  

Of course, this is a serious decision that she needs to deeply think about, as leaving her husband might not be an easy thing to do.

And Allah knows best