|
|
Amina Inloes,
Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the Islamic College in London and also the Managing Editor of the Journal of Shi'a Islamic Studies. 651 Answers
|
|
|
|
Mahmood Abu Maryam,
Trying to make sense of it all... 53 Answers
|
Passed |
|
|
Rebecca Masterton,
Dr Rebecca Masterton graduated with a BA in Japanese Language and Literature; an MA in Comparative East Asian and African Literature and a PhD in Islamic literature of West Africa. She has been teaching for seventeen years through different media, and has also worked in media for ten years, producing and presenting programs for several TV channels. 110 Answers
|
Passed |
|
|
Sayyed Muhammad Husaini Ragheb,
Sayyed Muhammad Husaini Ragheb has a BA in Law from Guilan University, Iran and has also undertaken Hawzah studies in Qom. He used to be a Cultural Affairs director of Ethics Group of Al-Mustafa Open University. He obtained his Master's degree in Applied Ethics and now is a PhD candidate in Islamic Ethics besides doing his Bahse Kharej in Qom Hawza. 81 Answers
|
Passed |
It is good to pay attention to your intuition. If something "does not seem right" and feels like a "sacrifice", this could point to a deeper concern about the situation, beyond merely whether or not you will be working outside the home. (Although it could include the dynamics behind why he doesn't want you to work, and his reaction to your situation with your family.)
Anyway, you could give it some thought and see whether or not there is anything else that is bothering you.
You could also imagine yourself 20 years in the future and ask yourself if you would feel disappointed or resentful if you gave up your career for marriage. You could also ask yourself if you would feel disappointed and like you really lost out if you did not marry this person.
Also, practically, in case you do get married and the marriage doesn't work out (it happens!) or, God forbid, something happens to your husband, do you have financial resources or a support structure to fall back on (such as living with family), or would it put you/your family in a vulnerable situation? This is also something you could take into consideration when considering whether or not to give up your career.
Beyond that, it is your choice whether or not to marry him, and we can't advise on that here. It is natural for marriage to have compromises and usually people will have to compromise something in a marriage. The question is whether it is a compromise that people are willing to make, or not. So what compromises you and he are willing to make is up to you and him.
As a general note: Life can change a lot, people might have one idea of how they will live but eventually need to make some changes. For instance, sometimes a person might not have a career before a marriage but get one later in life, or someone might leave a career sometime in life. This isn't really important to your situation right now, but is good for people to keep in mind overall.