Marriage

Marriage, also called matrimony or wedlock, is a socially or ritually recognised union between spouses that establishes rights and obligations between those spouses, as well as between them and any resulting biological or adopted children and affinity (in-laws and other family through marriage). The definition of marriage varies around the world not only between cultures and between religions, but also throughout the history of any given culture and religion, evolving to both expand and constrict in who and what is encompassed, but typically it is principally an institution in which interpersonal relationships, usually sexual, are acknowledged or sanctioned. In some cultures, marriage is recommended or considered to be compulsory before pursuing any sexual activity.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 mesi fa

Bismihi ta'ala

From a shar'i perspective, it would depend on if she meets the requirements for a shar'i legitimate marriage. 

However, this approach such a husband takes is definitely inappropriate and morally wrong, especially among all things breaking a promise. 

If the husband is that uncomfortable in his first marriage, he should not drag her into the humiliation of lies and deception to fulfill his needs, and should be honest and straightforward with her. 

And Allah knows best

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answer updated 2 mesi fa

The correct Hadeeth No. is 4384 in the book "Manla Yahdharuhul Faqeeh", Volume 3, Page 393 does not prohibit marriage between any Sayyeda with any non-Sayyed, as it is very clear in the next Hadeeth No. 4385, which clearly states that marriage between believers is permissible without the condition of being Sayyed or non-Sayyed. The Hadeeth number 4384 should be read completely, it states that the Prophet (peace be upon Him and his holy progeny) looked at the children of Ali and Jaffar and said: Our daughters are for our sons and our sons are for our daughters. It means that this narration was talking about the direct children of Imam Ali and his real brother Jaffar. The Proohet (SAWA) wanted the daughters of Jaffar Ibn AbiTalib (AS) to marry the sons of Imam Ali (AS) as it is narrated from Imam Al-Ridha (AS) in the book Fiqh Al-Richa

Our great Ulama have gone through all the authentic narrations from Ahlul Bayt (AS)  and gave clear verdict that marriage between Mo'min and Mo'mina is permissible without the condition of the caste. Our great Sayyid Ulama have given their daughters for marriage with non-Sayyed believers which is a practical evidence that it is permissible.

Wassalaam

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 mesi fa

Muslim man is allowed to marrying a Muslim woman according to Shariah without the permission of his parents but virgin Muslim girl needs the permission of her father or paternal grandfather for her marriage.

In certain cases when permission is denied or rejected by the father for invalid reasons then she can go ahead with marriage to save herself from sin. 
If the girl with whom you want to marry had not been married before but she is sure that her father would refuse your proposal for invalid reason according to Islamic standards, then she can go ahead with the marriage. Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 3 mesi fa

Husband is always responsible of the livelihood expenses of his wife unless she does not fulfill her duties as a wife.

‘Wassalam.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 3 mesi fa

Bismihi ta'ala

This will depend on what type of divorce was conducted. If it is raj'i (revocable), and within her 'iddah period, then they are husband and wife again.

And Allah knows best

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 3 mesi fa

Bismihi ta'ala

Such a thing holds no significance or value. The second nikah will not nullify the first, and it is just meaningless to do so. These are unforetunately Western practicises of "renewing vows", and things like that, which a Muslim definitely does not need to do.

And Allah knows best

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 3 mesi fa

Bismihi ta'ala

This engagement period, between the nikah and the wedding (or rukhsati) is a limbo time, where you are not single anymore, but should not consummate the marriage. 

It is a time best used for getting to know each other. You will come to understand whether this is right decision, or not, and if any red flags, or something serious can be seen, calling things off before intimacy is by far better than after.

A very important point is the value of the zafaf night. The excitement of the wedding night, or zafaf night, is that the newlyweds become intimate for their first time, after waiting during their engagement, for this special night. 

They observe all the mustahab things to do, on this night, reciting the prayer and the duas, and the husband washing the feet of the bride, and everything else. 

It will be a memorable time for the husband and wife. 

Loyalty to parents is a very serious moral requirement both sides need to have. You do not want to violate this trust by doing that, knowing the parents from both sides expect you both to wait for that special night. Therefore, morally you both have an obligation to be patient and wait for the wedding night, to consummate the marriage. 

The strength of your commitment to each other is showing your high Akhlaqi standards to each other, and to your parents and parents-in-laws. 

Although you might consider it as "societal traditions", but it is a very good thing. Of course, couples should avoid long periods of waiting from nikah to rukhsati. It is not good at all to have long engagements. 

Let it be known that if one was to have sex during this time, it would technically be halal, and not considered as zina, but they have committed something morally wrong, unless their families both allow it, or in their specific culture, there is no zafaf/rukhsati, or such ceremonies.

And Allah knows best

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answer updated 3 mesi fa

Bismihi ta'ala

It does not matter what madhhab or ideology the girl's father may be, her family should absolutely be involved, and her father must give consent for the marriage to be valid. Unless, of course, she meets the requirement of "balighah/rashidah". 

And Allah knows best

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Sayyed Muhammad Husaini Ragheb, Sayyed Muhammad Husaini Ragheb has a BA in Law from Guilan University, Iran and has also undertaken Hawzah studies in Qom. He used to be a Cultural Affairs director of Ethics Group of Al-Mustafa... Answered 3 mesi fa

You have no obligation according to Fiqh standards. The matter of honesty and friendliness and... with your spouse is something else. You have to manage it according to her types of manners and how demanding she would be in future.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 3 mesi fa

Yes if the girl is virgin which means that she was never married.

'Wassalam.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 3 mesi fa

Bismihi ta'ala

No, there is no issue at all with doing nikah contract outdoors, or in morning. 

The only time it is makruh is when the moon being in the zodiacal sign of Scorpio (qamar fi al-'aqrab), and when the moon is absent (end of lunar month/beginning of lunar month), which is called al-mihaq

And Allah knows best

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 3 mesi fa

You need to take them to an authentic scholar who can explain for the the Islamic rules according to Ahlul Bayt (AS) and tell them that following Ahlul Bayt (AS) is much more important than following the culture or society.

‘Wassalam.