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​​​​​Cremating any human body is absolutely forbidden in Islam, and the will to be cremated is invalid , because human being is honoured in Quran ( We have honoured the children of Adam, and We have carried them on land and sea, and granted them from good things, and preferred them above many of our creatures a marked preferment.( Sura 17, Verse 70).

It is also not allowed to use the ashes in making memorial jewelleries or any thing else. It must be buried only.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 4 anni fa

His mother can continue nursing him as much as he needs nursing even when he becomes a Baaligh, because it is a medical requirement where there is no other option.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 4 anni fa

Muslim is not allowed to attend or take part in any non Muslim religious ceremony.

The child mentioned in your question is a Muslim because of his Muslim father. Islam says that any child who is born from Muslim father or Muslim mother, is a Muslim.

الولد يتبع أشرف الأبوين 

There is no question of baptism ceremony for a Muslim child.

Wassalam.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 4 anni fa

Bismihi ta'ala

It truly is a blessed opportunity for not only the mother, but the infant as well, to be brought to the holy sanctuaries of Ahlul Bayt (a.s.). Nurturing a child the love of Ahlul Bayt (a.s.) by taking them to holy Shrines, and from such a young age, engraves faith and belief in their hearts. 

Therefore, the mother should seize the opportunity of giving her baby the most exposure to the holy Shrines, and benefiting from that spiritual atmosphere. 

That being said, like everywhere else one travels, certain precautions must be taken. 

Try to select a date where the weather in Iraq is moderate. Not too hot, and not too cold. Spring, or Autumn, for example. Keep in mind that electricity is still a problem there. 

Pack basic essentials for the baby's needs, from clothes to nappies. A compact pram would also be useful. Bring child medicine, like panadol, nappy rash, etc, and also medication for diarrhea. 

Try to choose quiet times when you go for the Ziyarah, and avoid big crowds. Keep an eye on you child, and try not to be conspicuous. For your own protection, and for your baby's protection, pay sadaqah regularly, and keep a hirz on your baby. 

It would be very useful to travel with people who would assist you throughout the trip. Try not to rely on others, but at times you will need help with certain things, and maybe just a little rest.    

Continue to remind yourself that you wish to gain proximate benefit from Ziyarah, and that your intention is purely for Allah ta'ala. Also, remember that your reward is based on the amount of difficulty you go through, so everything you endure will be taken into consideration in the eye of the Almighty.

And please keep us in your duas.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 4 anni fa

Sabeeka سبيكة النوبية was a great pious lady married to Imam Al-Ridha (AS) and mother of Imam Muhammad Al-Jawaad (AS).

She was from the family of Mariyah Al-Qibtiyyah the wife of the Prophet Muhammad (SAWA) who gave birth to his son Ebrahim.

We have many Hadeeths praising her.

She is known as Sabeeka al-Noobiyyah (Sabeeka of Nooba which is Egyptian Africa).

She is also known by other names like Khaizaraan and Rayhana.

The meaning of Sabeeka in Arabic is a piece of Gold.

It is good to keep this name for newborn girl. It is already used as name for thousands of Muslim females.

Wassalam.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 5 anni fa

Bismihi ta'ala, 

At times a husband-wife relationship reaches a stage in problems where reconciliation is difficult, and the only option is divorce. 

In many cases children are also involved, and so the worse thing for all parties involved (husband, wife, and child/children) is, in addition to the difficulty of separation, that tension and further altercations are involved. 

Unfortunately, we can see that in some cases things escalate so bad, that families are dragged to court, and it becomes a battle between two people who once loved each other.

This is fundamentally against what the Quran instructs us when divorce occurs (see: Surah al-Baqarah, verse 229). The couple should part away with benevolence and grace. 

This also means that co-parenting is very important for their sake, and for the child's sake as well. Both parents must try to contribute in the best manner and bear in mind the interests of the child. 

In this case, it is for the father's interest, and the child's interest that he maintains good ties with his ex-wife, and the mother of their child. He should financially assist as much as he can, and the mother's well-being will also add to the emotional stability of their child as well. 

The father should be involved in the child's life, and the mother should not deprive him of that, nor in any way should they allow their misunderstandings or disputes to affect the quality of their co-parenting. 

As for the shar'i side of the rights of custody, the details of these laws should be looked at within this framework of thinking, where the overall interests of all parties are taken into consideration and nobody is wronged. 

It is always advisable to remain patient, wise, and consult with professionals and experienced people in how to deal with circumstances that may arise. 

And Allah knows best. 

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Abbas Di Palma, Shaykh Abbas Di Palma holds a BA and an MA degree in Islamic Studies, and certifications from the Language Institute of Damascus University. He has also studied traditional Islamic sciences in... Answer updated 5 anni fa

The Qur'an says: "The Prophet is closer to the believers than their own selves and his wives are their mothers" (33:6). What has been established by the Qur'an is the prohibition for men to marry the wives of the Prophet. The prohibition for a sayyedah to marry a non-sayyid is a wrong assumption and analogy. We don't find any instruction as such in the sunna of the Prophet and the teachings of the Imams after him. Rather what we find is the emphasis in choosing a religious and pious soulmate for a successful marriage leading to happiness in this world and everlasting bliss in the next one insh'Allah.

With prayers for your success.

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Mohammed Al-Hilli, Sheikh Mohammed Al-Hilli, originally from Iraq, has a Masters in Pharmacy from the University of London. He completed his Hawza degree from the ICAS in London under the supervision of Ayatollah... Answered 5 anni fa

No, since the siblings are the entitled to the inheritance according to Sharia law.

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Nour Tessie Jørgensen, Nour Tessie Jørgensen has an MA in Islamic studies from the University of Copenhagen, Denmark and a degree in Philosophy of Ethics at Al Mustafa International University in Qum, Iran. She works as... Answered 5 anni fa

I am truly sorry to hear of the loss of your mother. Our condolences. 

There is a difference between grief and longing. You will always long for her presence, especially on days of importance, days of sorrow and days of hardship, but grief is temporary. You must accept grief as a part of the healing process, and you must accept the position that you are in. 

Loosing your mother might have pushed you into a dark hole, and instead of struggling to get out, you must let go and let yourself fall into the darkness of it. Only when you reach the bottom you will be able to rest. Holding on to the wall of the hole, you use all your strength to reach the top, but what if you aren’t supposed to reach the top yet? If you let go and find a way to accept your position, meaning your position of sorrow, then you can gain strength to climb out of the hole. Accept that it hurts, and accept that every hardship, every sorrow, and every grief are different. We react differently, and we must give ourselves time to heal. It is your loss and you are the only one entitled to control the grieving process. 

Everything in life is part of a perfect system. After the darkness of winter, the spring blossoms. After the darkness of the night, the sun rises. After every hardship there will be ease. Death is a part of that system, and sorrow too. Do not fight the pain, welcome it and let it hurt because nothing hurts forever. One day you will awake and the sun will shine a bit brighter, the ray of sunshine will be a bit warmer, and the beauty of spring will blossom again. Before that, you must rest at the bottom of the hole in what seems like complete darkness. Only after true darkness we appreciate light, but in reality, nothing is ever completely dark. It takes a lot of darkness to cover the light, but it takes a small part of light to change the dark.   

You will get through it, though it might not seem like it right now. Allow yourself to feel the pain and allow yourself to grieve in whatever way you need to. Imam al-Sadiq (a.s.) said, ‘Verily when someone dies, Allah sends an angel to the most grieved member of his family, who strokes his heart and makes him forget the agony of grief, and if it were not for this, the world would never again thrive.’[al-Kafi, v. 3, p. 227, no. 1] 

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Nour Tessie Jørgensen, Nour Tessie Jørgensen has an MA in Islamic studies from the University of Copenhagen, Denmark and a degree in Philosophy of Ethics at Al Mustafa International University in Qum, Iran. She works as... Answered 5 anni fa

No you can never ignore your child, you must be a role model and an example. If he is disrespectful there might be a reason, nobody grows up to become disrespectful by themselves. You must understand the reasons behind, and see the bigger picture. All of us react differently and even our child may grow up to become totally different than us, but we must continue to love them unconditionally and show them a path of beauty and compassion. 

Imam Zayn al-Abideen as-Sajjad (alayhi salam) taught us that only goodness can erase evil, and it is very beneficial to read his dua makarim al-akhlaq every day, especially when you are going through hardship.

Keep in mind these phares:



“Make me worship You
but do not let my worship be corrupted by conceit.
Let good flow out from my hands for people,
but do not let me erase it by making them feel obliged.
Grant me the highest moral traits,
but protect me from vanity.
O Allah, bless Muhammad and his family,
Raise me not a single degree with people
unless You have lowered me an equal amount,
whithin myself.”

“O Allah, bless Muhammad and the family of Muhammad.
Replace for me;
the enimity of the people of hatred with love,
the jealousy of the rebellious people with affection,
the suspicion of the virtuous people with confidence
the enmity of the close ones with friendship,
the disrespect of relatives to devotion,
the desertion of the close ones with help,
the attachment of flatterers with reformed regard,
the rejection of associates with good behaviour,
and the bitterness of the fear of oppressors
with the sweetness of security.
O Allah, bless Muhammad and his family,
Give me,
a hand (power) over one wrongs me,
a tongue over one who disputes with me,
and a victory over one who stubbornly resists me.
Grant me,
craftiness against one who deceives me,
power over one who oppresses me,
refutation of one who accuses me falsely,
and safety from one who threatens me.
Give me the success to,
obey one who directs me to what is proper
and follow one who guides me to what is right.”

You must find it in yourself to love him, and let your love erase his errors. You must find it in yourself to be an example of compassion and patience. 

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Abbas Jaffer, Sheikh Abbas Jaffer is an optometrist by profession and has a Master’s degree in Islamic Sciences. He is a part time lecturer at the Islamic College in London and is currently writing his doctoral... Answered 5 anni fa

No it is not a sin to say this to the husband.

It is a sin to deny him his conjugal rights, but you may use a method of contraception.

Zeinab Donati, Zeinab Donati has been studying books about various Islamic subjects for more than 19 years. She is deeply interested in history and politics as well as social issues in particular those pertaining... Answer updated 5 anni fa

Assalamu aleykum,

Contraception is never a sin in Islam. If you feel that you don’t want to have more children, it is your right to prevent pregnancy.

Please refer to the book From Marriage to Parenthood: The Heavenly Path especially this passage: 

Consent between husband and wife

According to the legal aspect of Islamic law, the wife has full right to the use of contraceptives, even without the consent and approval of her husband. However, she should not use a method which may come in the way of her husband’s conjugal rights. For example, she cannot force him to use a condom or practice coitus interruptus. This rule is based upon the principle that the extent of the husband’s conjugal rights over his wife is just that she should be sexually available, responsive, and cooperative. This right does not extend to that of bearing children for him. Bearing children or not is a personal decision of the woman, and therefore, she may use contraceptives such as pills, injections or cleansing of the vagina after intercourse as they do not interfere with her husband’s conjugal rights.

https://www.al-islam.org/from-marriage-to-parenthood-heavenly-path-abbas...

Also the book Marriage and Morals in Islam:

According to the Shi 'ah fiqh, family planning as a private measure to space or regulate the family size for health or economic reasons is permissible. Neither is there any Qur'anic verse or hadith against birth control, nor is it wajib to have children in marriage. So basically, birth control would come under the category of ja'iz, lawful acts.

https://www.al-islam.org/marriage-and-morals-islam-sayyid-muhammad-rizvi...

Here below you can read more about contraception in general on an Islamic point of view:

https://www.al-islam.org/islamic-edicts-on-family-planning/birth-control

https://www.al-islam.org/islamic-marriage-handbook-syed-athar-husayn-sh-rizvi/contraceptives-and-abortion