Let’s Talk about Self-Conceit

Example 1

Do as would be done by…

Have you ever been with someone who remained busy with eating something without offering some of it to you?

Example 2

Would you give some of it to me?

Have you ever played with someone who did not like to lend you any of his game items?

Example 3

Can I play with one of you games items?


Such persons are self-loving. Self-conceited persons only think about themselves and they never give any importance to what others think or whatever feelings they might have.

Example 4

When you are accompanied by a self loving person
--How do you feel?
--What do you think?
--What do you do?

Example 5

When you play with a self loving person:
--Possibly you may be overcome by the feelings of anger and annoyance.
--Possibly you may think playing with such person is not so very pleasing.
--Possibly you may decide not to play with him anymore.

Example 6

Do you want us to play together?
No….Thank you

It is much important that you treat others the way you wish them to treat you.
For example if you want others to lend you their game items, so, you must also lend your game items to others.
First of all you must finish your own self love.

Example 7

May I too join you in your painting?


Of course, not being self conceited does not mean that you must definitely offer everything you have to others.

Example 8

Oh….how can I offer my Lolly Pop to him?

For instance you are busy eating something which is not sufficient enough to be offered, then only overlook eating that.
Always try not to eat anything in front of someone who does not have anything to eat.

Example 9

Do you want us to play together?


If you intent to divide the food stuff try to do that justly.
This is good rule that the person who distributes should take his share after all the rest of the people

Example 10

I divide the cake and you pick up the piece which you ma like!

Ok! I agree.

If you wish that others must not play with you private game items, it is better that you must not play with those in front of your playmates, but that;
--Your playmate does not give any importance to playing with them
--Your playmate has got other game items to play with.

Example 11

This red coloured car has a particular importance for me.
Do you wish to play with this blue one?

Yes, I agree!

Of course there is no compulsion that you share your game item with others since, it is possible he may lose or put them out of order.
So if you think it is possible that such a thing may happen then better keep your game items at their own place.

Example 12

Last time this baby handled my toys, he broke them all.
Better, I’d repair and put them at their place.

When you lend someone something:
--Help him learn to look after that thing.
--Guide him how he can use that thing in a correct way.
--Remind him where he can or cannot use that thing.

Example 13

You can use my tape recorder but before that let me show you how does it function and additionally you must promise that you would not carry it to the court yard.

If you have just one game item then try to treat your play mates justly and fairly.
For instance, you must fix turns for taking advantage from that sport ware.
And try to make the time of each turn equal.

Example 14

My time is finished up, now it is your turn!

The only way of leading a happy life is to treat others in the same way you wish to be treated by them.
It means that you should not practice self-conceit because you do not wish that your play mates and friends who play along with you be self-conceited.