Do not let Social Media Depression Affect You

When a person spends most of his time on social media, one is exposed to a lot of unfiltered content. One has to assess the pros and cons of what one posts. Over exaggerating of one's lifestyles leads to someone feeling unfulfilled and thus can lead to a feeling of depression, It is time we regulate the usage of social media. Even though social media can have a very positive impact on spreading positivity, over-consumption of social media has its disadvantages. Social media addiction is a norm and companies feed on people getting addicted to social media.

Careful, is what is known as social media depression, please understand this point. Today there are psychologists, scientists, behavioral experts who are discussing this. They say, what is the point of social media? Many would argue one of the reasons social media became a hit is the fact that people wish to present themselves positively before others. Yes, they wish to continuously attain admiration and recognition.

They are seeking and craving and yearning attention. They say the currency for social media sites like Facebook is attention. Yes, many people, what do they want? They want more likes, more shares, more retweets, more hits. It is something that brings them this happiness. So what do they do? They often post positive aspects of their life to the people, don't they? Yes. I have just checked in at the Washington Dulles Airport. I am on my way to, for instance, what? I am on my way to Ziyara, they would say. Or checked in in a very famous restaurant. They want others to see that they have got a very nice lifestyle, or at least some people want to do that. Others may have a sincere intention.

Yet the problem is what? The problem is it leads further and further, as we are told today and studies have shown, to depression, to envy, to the feelings of hatred and harbors animosity sometimes. Yes, this is something that we have to understand, especially when it comes to husband and wife and what they do.

Let me give you a number of examples. We are told that, for example, just imagine you have had a really difficult day at work. You have had to deal with all kinds of problems. Now you are returning back home and there is traffic. You are stuck in traffic. You are tired. You are, you know, nearly falling asleep. Now, you log onto your Facebook, what do you find on Facebook? A friend has put 'Feeling blessed. I have been told that I have attained a pay rise and I am now on my way to the airport to go to vacation in Dubai. And in the middle I would stop in Karbala, Al-Hamdulillah', smiley emoticon.

Yes. Imagine you look at this and you think, 'And why is it not happening to me? Why? What is wrong with me? This man or this woman is cruising in life? Why is it that I am not getting any of this? All the time (I am) getting is what? Is negativity.'

What happens is people begin to compare themselves to others, especially husband and wife, because sometimes people think the grass is greener on the other side. The idea that exists is that people feed on this attention so all they want to do is present a good image of themselves. Have you ever seen a post on Facebook, by the way, where someone posts, 'I have had a normal day. Just wanted to mention it.' Have you had this? Of course not. Nobody would come and say this because they would not necessarily get the likes. Or if they do, people would comment, are you okay?

In other words, what? In other words, there is a danger by spreading this, we are increasing the envy that exists within what? Within the hearts of many. We all have today complaints by husbands and wives about the other, when the wife would come to the husband and say, 'Why are we not going to vacation to Barbados? Because my friend is doing it. Yes, I can show you.' And the husband will say to the wife, 'Why are you not cooking for me a certain type of curry? Why are you not....?' And all of this is because what they can see on their friend's profile, on their posts, what others are doing.

So it increases tension, it increases fragmentation, and the idea becomes that people become slowly and slowly more depressed. Today, studies have shown this. In the University of Missouri, scientists - there asked seven hundred Facebook users, people who are often on Facebook about their experiences. And the results present something which is not surprising. That those who spend more time on Facebook were inclined to have, to go through depressive states more than those who spent less time. Of course, because all you see is what others have and you do not have. And you want to compare yourself with what? With others.

There is a very important direction within the school of Ahlul Bayt. The Prophet and the Ahlul Bayt have come forward and said, keep your life to yourself.

In other words, there is this idea of secrecy, not necessarily disclosing everything for everyone to know. Meaning what? Meaning that there is a need for us to understand the repercussions of what we post. Every time we put something and we tweet something and we said something, we will be asked and held accountable by Allah Subhana Wa Ta'ala. This is a very important realisation.