Domestic violence

Domestic violence (also named domestic abuse or family violence) is violence or other abuse in a domestic setting, such as in marriage or cohabitation. Domestic violence may be used as a synonym for intimate partner violence, which is committed by a spouse or partner in an intimate relationship against the other spouse or partner, and can take place in heterosexual or same-sex relationships, or between former spouses or partners. In the broadest sense, domestic violence can also involve violence against children, parents, or the elderly.

81169

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 3 years ago

If a wife is being abused or victimized by he husband, she will have the right to request the Islamic authority (Kaakim al-Shariah) to ask her husband to remove injustice and give her her rights, or if he refuses, then he should divorce her. If the husband refuses both options, then he Islamic authority is authorized to divorce her and remove injustice from her.

Wassalam.

69063

Rebecca Masterton, Dr Rebecca Masterton graduated with a BA in Japanese Language and Literature; an MA in Comparative East Asian and African Literature and a PhD in Islamic literature of West Africa. She has been... Answered 4 years ago

Abuse can run in families, so maybe there are other family members that are also abusive. You need to research personality types, e.g. psychopathic, sociopathic, covert narcissist, overt narcissist in order to better understand how to respond to the abuse. Most experts advise practicing 'grey rock', learning not to rise to goads and provocations, and distancing oneself (as far as going 'no contact', which is permissible if you are being harmed.) Unfortunately it is very hard to get abusers to reform. It is not your job to do that. Youtube now has thousands of videos that advise people on how to deal with abuse. A systematic and detailed study of this from an Islamic perspective still needs to be made.

72622

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 4 years ago

Yes, she has full right to get good treatment from her husband, and she has full right to complain to the Islamic scholar ( Hakim al-Shariah) if he insists on mistreating of her.

Wassalam.

64199

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 4 years ago

This is a test for you as every human being has a test in his life or tests. We have in the statements of the Prophet Muhammad (SAWA) : The Jihad of the woman is tolerating the bad attitude of her husband. 
We can not make judgement before listening to both parties, but there are thousands of cases of bad attitude of husband towards his wife, or the wife towards her husband.

We need to be sure that husband and wife must avoid any act or word which instigates the other. Wife should do her best not to do or say anything which makes her husband unhappy with her. If she fulfills her responsibility in this matter, and still suffers from bad attitude of her husband or his parents or relatives, she will be then getting the degree of Jihad for her tolerance and patience.

Be careful not to fall in any unwanted acts or words as a reaction of bad acts from her husbands or his family.

Remember the great reward of pious ladies like Asiya who suffered a lot from bad husband Firaon.

Patience and seeking support and help from Allah (SWT) is the main gate of relief from such difficult situation.

Repeatin YA GHAFOUR YA WADOUD ,

LA HAWLA WALA QUWWATA ILLA BILLAH 

ASTAGHFIRULLAH RABBI WA ATOUBU ELAYH

ALLAHUMMA SALLI AL MUHAMMAD WA AALI MUHAMMAD is also very helpful.

Wassalam.

69099

1. Islam does not allow any one to him other person. Husband is not allowed to hit his wife. What has been mentioned in Quran (4:34) has been misunderstood by translators. Our leading scholars have explained the meaning of it according to authentic Hadeeths from the Prophet (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS). We have authentic Hadeeths blaming and attacking the person who hits his wife and state that beside the sin that he has committed, he must pay a penalty to her which depends on the effect of the hit on her body.

2. She is free to give charity with out her husband's permission or even knowledge if she gives from her own money or money given to her by him for her, but if she wants to give from his own money, then he should approve that. This rule is general in Islam in all cases of using or dealing or giving the money of any one. The owner of the money must allow or approve that.

Wassalam.