The Result of Negligence in Education & Training
On seeing a few children, The Messenger of Islam (s.a.w.a.) remarked:
The children of the last era are cursed in relation to their parents. The people asked: O Messenger of God (s.a.w.a.)! Is this about the polytheist parent? He (s.a.w.a.) answered: No rather it is regarding the believing parents who do not educate their children about the religion but actually prevent them from it. They become happy over the minor profits of this material world. I dissociate myself from them and they from me. 1
The Holy Prophet (s.a.w.a.) said:
Train your children in swimming and archery. 2
He (s.a.w.a.) also said:
Respect your children. Train them well so that you may be forgiven. 3
O Ali (a.s.)! It is the right of the child upon the father to teach him etiquette and assign for him a proper place. 4
The child should be trained in religion and his heart should be illuminated with the true faith, taught etiquette and manners. He should be given a suitable and appropriate place in the society. He should be trained in such a manner that he becomes the center of the Grace of God and Ahle Bait (a.s.).
The Holy Prophet (s.a.w.a.) instructed:
One who behaves with his son lovingly, Allah will grant him one good deed. 5
He (s.a.w.a.) also informed:
Love your child more. Allah grants one higher stage in Paradise, whose distance is 500 years, for each act of love. 6
This gains importance in the present time where love has lost its meaning in the household. Love and care has departed leading to a society and community devoid of amity.
Abdullah Ibn Masood narrates… Imam Husain (a.s.) came in the holy presence of the Prophet (s.a.w.a.). He (s.a.w.a.) kissed Imam (a.s.). The Holy Prophet (s.a.w.a.) while kissing him announced:
O Allah! I befriend him and You too befriend him and those who are his friends. 7
This esteemed tradition points towards the truth that if you want to be among those included in the prayer of the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.a.) and a recipient of the Love of God, then enrich your children with the love of Imam Husain (a.s.) and prepare the future mourners of Husain (a.s.).
The Holy Prophet (s.a.w.a.) was kissing Imam Hasan and Imam Husain (a.s.). Iqra Ibn Haabis was present there. He said: I have 10 sons and I have never kissed anyone of them. The Prophet (s.a.w.a.) cautioned:
One who does not have mercy then mercy will not be granted unto him.
According to some other narrations, the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.a.) became very angry upon hearing this. The signs of anger were evident on his shining visage. He (s.a.w.a.) said:
If God has snatched love from your heart then who can do anything in that matter!
One who neither has mercy upon the young nor has respect for the elders is not from us (i.e. he is not a Muslim). 8
Respecting children trains them to be dignified. They understand how to stay away from bad deeds. Respect children so that they learn to respect themselves. The Prophet of God (s.a.w.a.) said:
Respect your children, treat them with dignity and teach them the best etiquette so that you may be forgiven. 9
The Hoy Prophet (s.a.w.a.) pointed out:
The first gift that a father gives to the child is a good name. So keep suitable names for your children. 10
He (s.a.w.a.) has also emphasized:
When you name your child Muhammad then respect him and reserve a place in your gatherings. Do not react angrily with him. 11
The Holy Prophet (s.a.w.a.) said:
The table of the house which seats people with the name of Muhammad and Ahmed is hallowed and glorified twice a day. 12
The Messenger of Allah (s.a.w.a.) has emphasized:
The father of a son has upon him three rights of which one is that the son upon maturity should be married. 13
The Noble Prophet (s.a.w.a.) has informed:
May Allah have mercy upon the one who helps him in good deeds!
The people asked: And what kind of help is it?
He (s.a.w.a.) replied:
He should accept what he can and forbear upon what he can’t. 14
The Divine Messenger (s.a.w.a.) has ordered:
Behave equitably with children in the distribution of gifts. 15
The Prophet (s.a.w.a.) saw a person with two sons while he kissed only one of them. He (s.a.w.a.) remarked: Why do you not behave equitably with them? The Prophet (s.a.w.a.) further said: Be just with your children as you want justice to be done with you.16
The revered Messenger (s.a.w.a.) has emphasized:
When a person buys gifts and material for his household, be it for giving charity to the indigent, he should always give preference to the girl child over the boy. The one who makes him daughter happy has the reward of freeing a slave from the progeny of Ismail (a.s.). 17
He (s.a.w.a.) has also said:
Act with justice while distributing gifts but if you wish to give more, then prefer your daughter over your son. 18
It is the responsibility of the people who believe in God, His Prophet (s.a.w.a.) and the Mastership of Ahle Bait (a.s.) and seek to gain the approval of Ahle Bait (a.s.) in this world and the next that they should keep the above mentioned facts in mind and train their children in the best of ways. Thus, they would be among the helpers, aides and sincere slaves of Imam-e-Zamana (a.t.f.s.) when he reappears.
- 1. Jaame’ al-Akhbaar, p. 106
- 2. Al-Kaafi, vol. 6, p. 47
- 3. Makaarim al-Akhlaaq, p. 222
- 4. Al-Faqih, vol. 4, p. 372
- 5. Al-Kaafi, vol. 6, p. 49
- 6. Rauzat al-Waaezeen, p. 269
- 7. Kifaayat al-Athar, p. 81
- 8. Behaar al-Anwaar, vol. 43, p. 282-283
- 9. Makaarim al-Akhlaaq, p. 222
- 10. Al-Nawaado, p. 6
- 11. Uyoon al-Akhbaar al-Reza, vol. 2, p. 29
- 12. Uyoon al-Akhbaar al-Reza, vol. 2, p. 29
- 13. Rauzat al-Waaezeen, p. 369
- 14. Al-Saraaer, vol. 3, p. 595
- 15. Akhlaaq-e-Tusi, vol. 3, p. 564
- 16. Makaarim al-Akhlaaq, p. 220
- 17. Amaali of Shaikh Saduq (a.r.), p. 577
- 18. Akhlaaq-e-Tusi, vol. 3, p. 563