Well-being and Training

A word of Caution

Imam Ja’farSadiq (a.s.) warns:

Beware! Do not have physical relations in the room where your children sleep because it produces physical depravity in them. 1

Protection against Diseases

A right of the child upon the parent is also that he should be kept safe from illness. The Prophet of God (s.a.w.a.) explains:

It is prohibited to establish physical relationship during the period of menstruation. If somebody does so, then the child can be affected by white spots and leprosy. Then blame only yourself. To have physical relations before the ritual bath in ceremonial impurity due to any cause will result in a mentally imbalanced child. Blame yourself for that. 2

In a narration, The Prophet (s.a.w.a.) informs:

O Ali! Keep away from physical relations on the 1st and 15th of the lunar months. Do you not see that the insane faint more on the 1st and 15th nights? 3

Imam Ja’far Sadiq (a.s.) says:

Do not engage in physical relations on the 1st, 15th and the last night of the month. If you do so, then you are responsible for the miscarriage of your child and if not then there is a greater chance of the child being born mentally unstable. 4

However, the 1st night of the month of Ramazan is an exception to this rule. The Holy Prophet (s.a.w.a.) says:

Do not engage in conversation during physical relations for it might lead to the child being born dumb. 5

Cleanliness

The Prophet of Islam (s.a.w.a.) instructs:

Keep your children neat and clean, away from dirt. Shaitaan smells out filth which affects the dreams of the child and angels who are with the child feel discomfort. 6

Circumcision on the Seventh Day

Circumcision is necessary for a child. It is found in the narrations of Ahle Bait (a.s.) that the son should be circumcised on the 7th day so that he may remain pure.7

Spiritual Training

It is narrated about spiritual and religious training that Adhaan should be recited in the right ear of the new born and Iqamah in the left ear. The Holy Prophet (s.a.w.a.) informed Ali Ibn Abi Talib (a.s.):

When a child is born, be it boy or girl, speak the Adhaan in the right ear and Iqamah in the left so that Shaitaan cannot harm the child in any manner. 8

O Ali! Recite this dua at the time of physical relations:

بِسْمِ اللهِ اَللّٰهُمَّ جَنِّبْنَا الشَّيْطَانَ وَ جَنِّبِ الشَّيْطَانَ مَا رَزَقْتَنِي‏.

O Allah! Safeguard us from Shaitaan and safeguard the child which You grant us from Shaitaan.

If Allah grants a child then he will be protected from Shaitaan. 9

Nourishment

The religion of Islam has taken special care in regards to the nourishment of the child especially in the period of weaning. The Noble Quran orders that it is the responsibility of the mother to feed her child for two years. Even if she undergoes a divorce, the responsibility of the mother to wean her child remains. During this period it is the responsibility of the father to arrange for the food, clothing, etc. of the mother.

The Reward of Weaning a Child

The Holy Prophet (s.a.w.a.) remarks:

The pregnant woman is like a worshipper, a keeper of fasts and like the one who strives with her life and wealth in the way of God and when the child is born, she gets the reward which is unfathomable. When she weans her child, then for every weaning a reward of setting free a slave from the progeny of Hazrat Ismail (a.s.) is added to her account. When she completes her weaning and the period ends, an angel besides her announces… Allah has forgiven all your sins. Now start your deeds anew. 10

Teaching and Training

It is important to note a few points in teaching and training the children:

1. Religious knowledge – includes the Quran, beliefs, morals, worship and social laws

2. Education in Social responsibilities

3. Physical education

The Reward of Teaching Quran

The Prophet of Allah (s.a.w.a.) says:

One who teaches Quran to his children, then the parents will be called on the Day of Judgement and gifted two invaluable dresses of light which will illuminate the faces of the people of Paradise. 11

In another tradition, the Messenger of God (s.a.w.a.) also informs:

The Noble Quran will present a person on the Day of Judgement whose face would have turned pale. The Quran would appeal to God – this is the man whom I have kept unsatiated during the day and awake during the night. The hope for Your Mercy has made his heart strong and the expectancy of Your forgiveness is alive in his heart. O Allah! Deal with him in a manner in which I have given him hope. God will reply: Place the kingdom and the servitude in his left. Adorn his parents in such jewelry which will surpass the entire world in its value. On the Day of Judgement, everyone will look at the parents and enumerate their excellences. They too will be in awe of the excellences and will ask God – O Allah! Why do we have these excellences? God will answer them – this is the effect of teaching Quran, the religion of Islam and the love of Muhammad (s.a.w.a.) and Ali (a.s.) to your child. 12

  • 1. Al-Kaafi, vol. 5, p. 499
  • 2. Elal al-Sharaae’, p. 514
  • 3. Tuhaf al-Uqool, p, 12; Wasaael al-Shia, vol. 30, p. 131
  • 4. Wasaael al-Shia, vol. 20, p. 129
  • 5. Al-Khesaal, p. 520
  • 6. Uyoon al-Akhbaar al-Reza, vol. 2, p. 169
  • 7. Al-Kaafi, vol. 6, p. 35
  • 8. Tuhaf al-Uqool, p. 13
  • 9. Tuhaf al-Uqool, p. 12
  • 10. Amaal of Shaikh Saduq (a.r.), p. 411-412
  • 11. Al-Kaafi, vol. 6, p. 49
  • 12. Tafseer of Imam Hasan al-Askari (a.s.), p. 450