Marriage

Marriage, also called matrimony or wedlock, is a socially or ritually recognised union between spouses that establishes rights and obligations between those spouses, as well as between them and any resulting biological or adopted children and affinity (in-laws and other family through marriage). The definition of marriage varies around the world not only between cultures and between religions, but also throughout the history of any given culture and religion, evolving to both expand and constrict in who and what is encompassed, but typically it is principally an institution in which interpersonal relationships, usually sexual, are acknowledged or sanctioned. In some cultures, marriage is recommended or considered to be compulsory before pursuing any sexual activity.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 3 months ago

You need to take them to an authentic scholar who can explain for the the Islamic rules according to Ahlul Bayt (AS) and tell them that following Ahlul Bayt (AS) is much more important than following the culture or society.

‘Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 4 months ago

Istekhara is not obligatory in every situation. Istekhara is seeking guidance when you are unable to decide. If the matter was clear for you, then there is no need for Istekhara. Unnecessary Istekhara is not binding.

'Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answer updated 4 months ago

Lady Asma Bint Umays was the wife of Jafar Ibn Abi Talib (Jafar Al-Tayyar), the real brother of Ameerul Mo'mineen (AS) and she migrated with him to Abyssinia and remained with him till his return back to Madina in year 8 after Hijra then till was martyred in the battle of Mo'tah. She was the mother of Abdullah Ibn Jafar (husband of Lady Zainab Al-Khubra) and other children of Jafar Al-Tayyar. Abu Bakr proposed and married her.. After the death of Abu Bakr, Imam Ali (AS) proposed to her to look after the orphans of his brother Jafar Al-Tayyar. She had then a child from Abu Bakr called Muhammad ibn Abi Bakr who grew up in the house of Imam Ali (AS) and became one of the best believers and followers of Ameerul Mo'mineen (AS).

Wassalam.

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Mateen Charbonneau, Sheikh Mateen Joshua Charbonneau achieved a certificate from Harvard University in Islamic Studies. He undertook Howza classes under esteemed scholars since 2013 and has been teaching at Imam Mahdi... Answered 4 months ago

Both men and women should marry at a young age if possible 

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 4 months ago

If your father and your paternal grandfather have passed away, the person who decides your marriage is yourself if you are an understanding and mature person. It is good to consult your mother and your family’s elders but it is not obligatory though causing harm or disrespect to your mother is not allowed.

‘Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 5 months ago

Shia man is allowed to marry a Muslim woman from any Muslim sect as far as such marriage will not harm his faith and religious practice. If your mother is disagreeing, then you need to do everything you can to convince her and make agree without forcing her. You should never cause anything which hurts the respect or the feeling of your parents.

'Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 5 months ago

Yes it is permissible.

‘Wassalam.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 5 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

There would have been no harm in you congratulating her for her wedding, even though you are in the sacred mourning month of Safar. It is not haram to have done so, as long as you are not intentionally violating the sanctity of the month by engaging in celebrating behaviour, and meeting and congratulating her would not have been such.  

And Allah knows best

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 5 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

In general our esteemed Maraji' permit a female who meets the shar'i requirement of being a balighah rashidah, to marry without a need of a guardian's consent, as long as the condition of her being so is correctly defined and understood. 

It is not just a matter of maturity, but that she has absolute independence in her affairs, not just financial, but social as well. And that she is completely consciously aware of what is good and what is bad for her, and is competent in her decision making. 

And Allah knows best

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answer updated 5 months ago

1 Fulfilling and performing all the obligatory duties on time. Like prayers fasting khums Zakat Hajj etc.

2 Compensating the missed obligatories of the past.

3 Returning back the rights of others and seeking forgiveness from everyone who has been wronged or harmed by us wether intentionally or unintentionally.

4 Performing the night prayer Salat Al Layl ( Namaz e Shab) as it has got a great benefit in purifying the heart and omitting the sins.

5 Repeating " ASTAGHFIRULLAH'' or ASTAGHFIRULLAH Rabbi wa ATOOBU Ilayih. Especially at night and more especially in the state of sajdah.

6 Seeking the supplication of your parents for your forgiveness, even if they are dead, by visiting their graves and praying there.

7 Reciting Ziyarat Ashura every day.

8 Repeating Salawaat as many times as possible.

9 Praying for the forgiveness for you and all the believers who are dead or alive, including believers who have harmed you.

10 Reciting Sura Al Qadr while performing Wudu, as the Hadeeth states that it is a great way to get our sins forgiven.

11 Arranging, helping and attending Majaalis of Ahlulbayt AS and weeping for their tragedies that they suffered.

12 Paying charity for the sake of Allah on behalf of Ahlulbayt AS.

13 Reciting the Munajaat of Al Sahifa Al Sajjadiya, Munajaat al Mustagfireen.

14 Reciting Sura Tawheed after every Salah.

These are few acts to gain forgiveness and there are many more.

Wassalam

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 6 months ago

Bismillah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

If you are a Muslim female, it isn't permitted to marry a non-Muslim man. Such a marriage wouldn't be valid. You should find a way to not listen to your mother if she is the one trying to force you to marry a non-Muslim. 
 

May Allah grant you success 

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answer updated 6 months ago

Bismillah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

If her father prevented her from marrying a suitable believing man for no valid reason, his authority drops and she may marry without his permission. The father rejecting the boy for not 'being a sayed' isn't a valid reason. This practice is usually found in the indo-pak region and is due to Hindu caste system influence. All scholars permit marriage between sayed and non Sayeds. 
 

May Allah grant you success