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Suicide is a major sin because it is a crime of murder and it is a result of another major sin which is loosing hope from the mercy of Allah. Every believer in Allah should believe in his great mercy, which is much more greater than any difficulty or hardship,people who commit suicide,do so after loosing hope and thinking that their problems have no solution,and by committing suicide they try to run away from the problems this feeling of not hoping the mercy of Allah itself is a major sin.

The fact that sinless children who die during their childhood will go to paradise is a part of the mercy of Allah[THE Exalted]. The most merciful,The most compassionate.

wassalam.

Bismihi ta'ala

This is not just an Arab mindset, or limited to any race or nationality. In general, people like to stay within their own culture and background, for many reasons. Shared heritage, preserving culture, easier compatibility, less differences, and so on. 

There are studies that say that inter-racial marriages are less stable. I might not necessarily agree with this, but it is definitely more difficult when marrying someone from a different culture, with many challenges.

What I am saying is if your parents are of the opinion that their children should marry within their culture, it does not mean that it is a bad thing. They have their certain understanding of things, and you as their child must respect and honour that. Indeed pleasing your parents and keeping them happy is by far greater than any choice one can make. 

Of course, these are discussions that should take place way before you fall in love with someone, and before you become emotionally attached to someone, because if it gets to that stage, you will not be interested in what your parents say, and this will create clash. 

Yes, a parent should be flexible, and try to accommodate, and it would be haram and oppressive if the parent refuses to be lenient and cooperate if the son/daughter is completely convinced that this suitor meets all the shar'i, moral and social requirements. 

I would say that there is a lot of effort to address these issues of marriage, but maybe not in the way modern society likes to hear. We have to try and keep our concept of marriage as traditionally Islamic as possible, and within the guidelines and guidance of parents and elders, as long as they are shar'i and sensible. 

With prayers for your success

You have to always keep the respect of your parents but not obey any order which is against the orders of Allah (SWT). The Prophet Muhammad (SAWA) said: No obedience to any creature in the disobedience of The Creator. If you are sure that the order given to you by your parents leads to sinful act, then you must refrain from committing sins.

Wassalam.

Bismihi ta'ala

You will need to seek consent from her father. 

Mut'ah is for certain circumstances that would be of benefit, and therefore plans should always be made towards Nikah marriage. 

And Allah knows best.