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It depends on the intellectual state of your sister. Sometime love disables rational thinking when it becomes a blind love. You should pray to Allah to avoid us and our beloved ones blind love. You should ask your sister whether she is ready to think about the future or not ready. She should think about her future after few years from such marriage when love emotions evaporate as usual. What will be the future of her children if any. Will she take the risk of their possible deviation from the way of Ahlul Bayt (AS)?

Simply tell her to study majority of such love marriages between persons from different faith backgrounds and take the lessons from thousands who suffered and still suffering but can not repair the damage.

When there is a possible harm on your or your future children faith or religion, you should avoid such risk.

If the man is open minded and ready to to read and understand and follow the Prophet and his Ahlul Bayt, then the matter is acceptable. Just promises are not enough, but real practical steps are required before the marriage.



Asalamu Alaykom, 

The following answer may help you: 

May Allah grant you sucrsss

It is allowed and he would probably be happy about the marriage, however, it is understandable if the family wishes to postpone it. Also, some cultures have viewpoints about these things (which are not specifically prescribed by Islamic law but could be taken into consideration although it is not required to adhere to cultural viewpoints). 

1. Many persons who claim to be atheist do so with out real thinking but just for psychological  reasons like to oppose the family or the atmosphere or to look like different or to show that they are modern ,etc.

We should not take their claim as a studied intellectual decision, unless we discuss with them in neutral atmosphere with out any challenge or instigation.

2. If you are sure that a person has become an atheist, you should look at the reasons and try to understand the background of the situation. 
3. We need to see and assess his arguments and the authority which he believes in, e,g. Intellect or reason, or science etc. We must talk to him in the language which he understands. Those who claim believing in logic and reason, should be given evidence based on logic and reason. We as followers of the Real Islam of the Prophet (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS) have the richest treasure of intellectual and logical evidence.

4. Invite them for dialogue and debate based on what they claim to believe in and be patient and tolerant.

5. Never expect them to accept your evidence right away. They might reject it verbally but keep thinking about it for sometime. Give them the time which they require and keep on presenting the evidence now and then in a polite and respectable way.

6. If an atheist invites other to be like him, you can keep logical principles and rational thinking as your weapon to easily refute his claims and proof him wrong. Never insult nor attack him but counter his argument with logical and rational evidence with etiquette and respect.

7. If the person respects noble personalities like the Prophet Muhammad (S) or Imam Ali (A) or Imam Husain (A), you can remind him with life and sayings of these great leaders who had the maximum level of intellect.

8. Always keep the doors open for dialogue and never lose hope. No one knows when the heart and mind will open and becomes able to see the truth.