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Salamonalaykum

May Allah bless you and your family. 

Yes, we have a ḥadīth in that vein:
 

یَا ابا ذر! کُنْ کَأَنَّکَ فِی الدُّنْیَا غَرِیبٌ أَوْ کَعَابِرِ سَبِیلٍ، وَ عُدَّ نَفْسَکَ مِنْ أَصْحَابِ الْقُبُورِ
 

“Abū Dharr! Be like a stranger in this temporary life or like you are a mere traveler. And consider yourself like one of the people of the graves.”
 

This phrase is part of a longer ḥadīth found in Makārim al-Akhlāq of al-Ḥasan ibn Faḍl al-Ṭabarsī, the son of the author of the tafsīr entitled Majmaʿ al-Bayān. You can read a translation of the ḥadīth here: https://www.al-islam.org/articles/advice-prophet-s-gave-abu-dharr

The phrase “count yourself like one of the people of the graves” means to live as if death is imminent—or, more directly, act as if you are about to die. In other words, live a pious life because you don’t know when you are going to die and return to your Creator and be held accountable for your misconduct. Never take a day or even a moment for granted and expect that if you sin, you will have a moment after the sin to repent. Act as if, at any moment, you may be lowered into your grave and have no second chance to live a pious life.
 

One way to encourage this line of thinking is to visit a Muslim graveyard or the graves of deceased family members and contemplate how close death is and how close the afterlife is—how short our lives are. This should encourage us to, at bare minimum, complete our obligations (wājibāt) and refrain from all that is prohibited (muḥarramāt).

Yes, it is allowed, although I am not aware of any traditions recommending it.

However, I think it is better not to use plastic flowers (which you see in some places instead of real flowers) for environmental reasons.

We do not have any Hadeeth or narration or practice of Ulama to place flowers on the grave. It is a habit from non Muslims. It can be waste of money. The deceased will get no benefit from it. It is good to pay the cost of the flowers to poor and needy on behalf of the deceased.

Wassalam.

Building on the graves of pious people is mentioned in Quran (Those who overcame said we will build on the (graves of People of Cave) a Masjid.) (Sura al-Kahf, Verse 21.

All Muslims believe that building on the graves of the pious is highly recommended, that it why you see the tomb on the grave of the Prophet Muhammad (SAWA) and all the Infallible Imams and famous personalities of all Muslims sects like the tomb on the grave of Abu Hanifa in Baghdad, tomb on the gave of Shaafi'ee in Cairo, tomb on the grave of Ahmad Ibn Hanbal in Baghdad, tomb on the graves of Abdul Qadir Gilani in Baghdad and hundreds of tombs which belong to all Muslim sects except Wahhabism who objected on building on the graves with out any real evidence.

Wassalam.