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This happens sometimes.

It is your decision whether to stay in the marriage, or pursue separation.

Some factors to take into consideration are:
* whether or not you hope to bear children
* how important physical intimacy is to you (it is important to most people, but some people choose to remain in a marriage without physical intimacy)
* whether you fear you might fall into sin in this type of situation
* whether the marriage is working out in other ways (such as emotionally or practically - with emotional considerations such as, do you love each other, are you dedicated to each other, do you feel bonded with each other, do you feel like a family, do you have future plans for yourselves as a family that you are both working towards, etc.)

Often in these cases, where there is an absence of attraction from one side from the beginning, the underlying relationship in the marriage fails to develop and the relationship breaks down (whether that results in actual divorce, or just living like roommates - usually with a fair degree of tension - or just a marriage on paper).

This is unless there was a prior agreement to have a marriage with little or no physical intimacy and they have other reasons why they want to be together and the marraige works for them.

Maybe your husband might also have a sense of what should be done - it is ideal when it is joint decision.

Sorry to hear about your challenging situation and wishing you the best.

Bismihi ta'ala

Islam encourages healthy sexual relations between husband and wife, and to cater for each other's sexual needs and lusts, as long as they are within the shar'i and moral boundaries. 

It is highly mustahab to address their sexual needs. For example, foreplay is highly recomended, where first it is recommended to engage in mudāʿabah, which means verbal foreplay, then mulāʿabah, physical foreplay, and then mujāmaʿah, which is having sex. 
Oral sex is a part of mulāʿabah, and there is no problem with that as well. In regards to semen, in Shi'i fiqh, it is considered najis, and therefore, should the husband ejaculate in wife's mouth, she must not swallow any of it, and must wash her mouth. 

Also, the wife does not need to perform ghusl in this instance.

Of course, there are certain sexual practices in today's Western society that are inhumane, immoral, degrading and humiliating, but happily accepted by some. As Muslims, we we must not imitate whatever is out there, or  what is in pornography, etc.

As much as our religion encourages intimacy and sex within marriage, we also have a duty to dignify our spouse and never make her feel uncomfortable.

And Allah knows best.

As he performs his obligatory Prayers in any case even if you don't remind him, and feels annoyed when you remind him about not to delay it, you should avoid annoying him. You may gently mention to him what the Prophet and Ahlul Bayt (AS) said about the great reward of praying on time, but avoid making him feel insulted.

Wassalam.

Bismillah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

It isn't wajib for one's parents to live with them. Yes, one can live with the in-laws however in many cases it has caused issues in marriages. It is your right upon your husband to have a comfortable home and your own privacy. Yes, he can perhaps get his mother to move closer if he wants to have a good relationship with her but it wouldn't be recommend for her to move in if this would cause you discomfort. This should be voiced to your husband that it isn't obliged for you to accept this if it may cause issues. 
 

May Allah grant you success