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as salam alaikum

from a psychological perspective, even the mere presence of a person of the opposite gender have a particular influence that mold behavioral tendencies and attitudes that not necessarily relate to lust. That is also why many Islamic places, and traditional societies in general, always had a specific code to limit promiscuity and social contact between genders. 

There is no problem in dealing with the opposite gender in the prescribed shar'i way and in case of necessity as long as all Islamic etiquettes are observed but one should try as much as possible to move forward what Allah has commanded in all circumstances.

With prayer for your success.


Thank you for your question. Marriage in Islam is not compulsory (except in certain situations when a person fears falling into sins), even if it is highly recommended. So if a person doesn't want to get married for any reason, they are not required to.

May you always be successful 

Marriage is either highly recommended or obligatory depending on the situation of the person. It is highly recommended for people in general to get married as the prophetic orders to Muslims: تناكحوا تناسلوا Get married, Have children. Hadeeth states: Marriage is from Sunnah, so any one who abandons my Sunnah is not from me. النكاح من سنتي فمن رغب عن سنتي فليس مني.

Marriage becomes obligatory when a person is in danger of falling in sinful acts just because of being unmarried.

In the case mentioned in the question we must emphasize that marriage should never cause injustice to your spouse if you do have any interest in other gender. You need to consult medical and psychological experts and get proper treatment then go for marriage. Some times, marriage itself can help in treatment. 
You should never give up or surrender to abnormal situation which is away from the teachings of Allah (SWT).

Leaving marriage might worsen such cases, but with out proper treatment, you might do injustice on an innocent person whom you want to live with when you are still not adequate to be a proper spouse.


Human life is based since its start from time of Adam and Eve and continuing on the marriage between man and woman. With out this clean and instinct relation of marriage between man and woman, no life can continue. 
Losing attraction in opposite gender and feeling attracted to same gender is an abnormal situation which needs to be dealt with by specialist psychiatrists.
Sexual attraction can be deviated and go in wrong direction as we see some abnormal persons feel attracted to a married woman or a close family member or even to an animal. This means that not every attraction is legitimate but it can be wrong and sinful even if some people think it normal.
The person who feels such abnormal attraction needs to deal with himself to understand and treat the reasons and seek help and advice from specialists and trusted scholars.
No doubt, the believer in Allah, the Prophet and Ahlul Bayt should read what the holy texts said about such feelings and acts and why such acts are mentioned in holy texts as major sin which led to destroying Communities which used to do it as we read in Quran about people during the time of Prophet Lut.