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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 3 مہینے ago

Bismihi ta'ala

This engagement period, between the nikah and the wedding (or rukhsati) is a limbo time, where you are not single anymore, but should not consummate the marriage. 

It is a time best used for getting to know each other. You will come to understand whether this is right decision, or not, and if any red flags, or something serious can be seen, calling things off before intimacy is by far better than after.

A very important point is the value of the zafaf night. The excitement of the wedding night, or zafaf night, is that the newlyweds become intimate for their first time, after waiting during their engagement, for this special night. 

They observe all the mustahab things to do, on this night, reciting the prayer and the duas, and the husband washing the feet of the bride, and everything else. 

It will be a memorable time for the husband and wife. 

Loyalty to parents is a very serious moral requirement both sides need to have. You do not want to violate this trust by doing that, knowing the parents from both sides expect you both to wait for that special night. Therefore, morally you both have an obligation to be patient and wait for the wedding night, to consummate the marriage. 

The strength of your commitment to each other is showing your high Akhlaqi standards to each other, and to your parents and parents-in-laws. 

Although you might consider it as "societal traditions", but it is a very good thing. Of course, couples should avoid long periods of waiting from nikah to rukhsati. It is not good at all to have long engagements. 

Let it be known that if one was to have sex during this time, it would technically be halal, and not considered as zina, but they have committed something morally wrong, unless their families both allow it, or in their specific culture, there is no zafaf/rukhsati, or such ceremonies.

And Allah knows best

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 4 مہینے ago

You are married.
If your husband touched you during your Iddah period, the Talaq is nul and void immediately and you are married to one another as you were before the divorce.

'Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 5 مہینے ago

Social media has wide variety of material. Useful information as well as false claims are in social media. We take any useful information Ans avoid harmful material. Sinful platforms must be avoided, while useful and informative platforms or material is allowed. It depends on the content.Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 5 مہینے ago

Fasting is very helpful to control carnal desires as the Prophetic Hadeeth advises.

‘It is also very helpful to think about the bad results of following carnal desires and the great reward of obeying Allah in avoiding sinful acts.

‘Thinking about those who followed their carnal desires and ended up with nothing but sins and misery will also help in making the person more able to control carnal desires.

‘Wassalam.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 5 مہینے ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Yes, these things are permissible, or rather even mustahab, as a form of foreplay. Our religion Islam encourages one to fulfil the sexual needs of the spouse, and not only their sexual needs. This is why foreplay is mustahab. 

Of course, as semen is najis, that would be the only concern, to make sure that najasah is not swallowed. 

And Allah knows best. 

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 6 مہینے ago

Yes. Iddah of Talaq is must even if the sexual relation was with contraception. Your Iddah after Talaq will be three menstrual periods.

'Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 6 مہینے ago

Islam does not accept accusations but asks for concrete evidence to stab lush whether the person committed a crime or hot. Muslims must follow Islamic Sharia.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 9 مہینے ago

Married couple are allowed to enjoy themselves together including taking intimate pictures for themselves, provided that such pictures should never be seen by others. They can see their own intimate pictures but not pictures of others.

‘Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 10 مہینے ago

If the husband is totally impotent and unable to penetrate, then his wife has the right to seek divorce through the Haakim Al-Sharee'ah who is the Marji' of Taqleed who gives the husband one year to treat himself. After one year, if husband is still unable to penetrate, then the Marje' of Taqleed issues an order of Faskh which mean nullifying the marriage.

'Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 year ago

If the ejaculation occurred without intending to do that, Qadha is must of that fast. Kaffara is obligatory if it was done intentionally. But how can one masturbate with out intending to do it? Was he sleeping. If he masturbates while he was awake then he has committed it intentionally. If he masturbated but his intention was not to reach to ejaculation, and ejaculation occurred with out his control, that might be possible.

Wassalam.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 year ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Yes, from a shar'i perspective, if no lust or inappropriate comments or gestures are made about someone, you can say "so and so is handsome/beautiful". Is it a good idea, I don't think so. One's physical appearance should not be the point of conversation between people, especially if they are non-mahram and opposite gender. 

It could be used against you, or taken out of context, or understood with other intentions. 

And Allah knows best

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 year ago

If both of them were really exempted from fasting due to illness which prevents fasting or due to traveling, they will then be allowed to engage in intimacy during the day of month of Ramadan.

Wassalam.