Question: In my family, I have a nephew who has been psychologically shocked. Most of the time, he is silent and he likes to be alone. He speaks or reacts little in family meetings. His father says that he was not like that before. Please, tell us how we should deal with him and save him!
The answer: Melancholy, silence, introversion, and absent-mindedness are psychological diseases that begin with real reasons and then grow with illusions and imaginations. They are diseases of the societies that are subject to psychological shocks and material competitions. One who is afflicted may not understand the dangers of such diseases, but others can perceive the dangers in him through signs such as:
1. Feeling continuous fatigue
2. Low productivity if he is a worker or low comprehension if he is a student
4. Pains in the stomach, the back, and muscles
6. Passing judgments based on assumptions, emotions, and anger
7. Feeling guilty
8. Tending to be alone
9. Being confused and hesitant
10. Keeping silent
As a cure, family members should, if they see these signs, do the following:
1. They should be aware of the problem of this afflicted one and what he feels so hat he may declare what he suffers. If he does not declare his suffering, they should try, through indirect means, to identify his mental pain.
2. If he begins to declare his sufferings, they should attend to him by listening to him so that he perceives they are responsive to and care for him.
3. They should suggest some new works for him to do.
4. They should take him, after receiving his permission, to a specialist doctor.
5. They should take him to parks and the like for amusement.
6. They should try to give him hope and self-confidence by respecting him, offering him presents, and being friendly with him.
7. They should engage him in certain things and involve him in some works that he would gradually do willingly.
8. They should make him associate with a religious scholar who has a luminous spirit and bright morals.