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When Safiya returned home and informed her brothers
(the Prophet's uncles) of the authenticity of the news, happiness mixed
with amazement and astonishment overtook them.
Khadija who refused to marry the princes and lords
of the Arabs, because she deemed them unworthy to marry, chose to be the
wife of a poor man who owned nothing of the ephemeral things of this world,
of even a foot of land!!
This was the wonder of wonders!!
The Prophet's uncles proceeded towards Khadija's house
and asked for her hand from her father (or uncle) who at first rejected
them but later agreed to the proposal.
Inevitably, an appropriate sum of money had to be
presented to Khadija as her dowry; how could it be obtained? And who would
donate it?
This was a difficult question at hand, until Khadija
once again surprised everyone by giving four thousand dinars as a gift
to the Prophet, and urged him to pay it to her father as her dowry. Although
according to another historical finding, it was Abu Talib who paid the
dowry from his own money.
Even though Khadija was a woman of high standards
who sacrificed material gains to achieve honor, her father, Khuwaylid,
possessed contradicting values. This difference between Khadija and her
father is not rare between parents and their children; in fact, this ideological
difference can also be found between various classes of people, brothers,
spouses, and parents.
Khadija's payment of the dowry was a unique, amazing and unforeseen act; for the Arabs were not acquainted with women giving dowries to their husbands. Thus, it was not unexpected of Abu Jahel to incite an envious commotion and say:
"O people, we have thus seen men paying dowries to women; we are not used to women giving dowry to men" In answer to this, Abu Talib angrily replied:
"What is the matter with you? O you wicked man!
Men like Muhammad are to be given gifts and grants, but your likes give
gifts that people always reject."
or he said:
"If it was a man like my nephew then the greatest
dowries are to be granted to him, but men like you cannot get married save
by paying large sums of money."
The blessed wedding took place in the best possible
way, the Messenger moved in with Lady Khadija who felt that she was going
through the happiest period of her life, because she had reached her best
wishes and sweetest dreams.
Khadija gave birth to several children of whom only
four daughters survived: Zainab, Umme Kulthum, Ruqiya, and Fatima-Zahra
who was the youngest and most exalted of them all.
There is a difference between historians regarding
the first two daughters, for some claim that they were the Prophet's step-daughters;
but the fact is that they were his direct daughters. This fact will be
explained in the coming pages, if Allah wills. [1]
References:
[1]
The story of Khadija's marriage was summarized and carried on from Bihar
al-Anwar: v.6.