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Your responsibility is to look after your parents and serve them as a humble servant and try your best to please them and obey their orders in lawful matters. Your responsibility as their only son is more than the responsibility of your sister. Doing your best and serving your parents does not mean that you ignore the rights of your wife. Her rights on you remain preserved, although there should not be any contradiction between complete service to your parents and fulfilling the rights of your wife, but never do anything which can harm the feelings of your parents. They are your gate to paradise and eternal success

. Wassalam 

It sounds like there are a lot of factors to take into consideration (including what country you want to raise your children in and their educational opportunities in each place).

I can understand not wanting yourself or your children to be around negativity towards your religion, especially if they are living in a country where Muslims are the minority, and it is already difficult to be a practising Muslim/raise children as practising Muslims. From that angle, since you would not be receiving religious support from your family, it is good to consider whether there is a supportive, healthy, and welcoming Muslim community there to offer support for yourself and your children, especially in teaching children about Islam in a positive and appealing manner.

Probably there are pros and cons to staying where you are, or moving. There may be some hidden blessings to moving there but also some challenges. So it is good to consider all aspects (financial, religious, educational, social, emotional, etc) and make the best decision.

Possibly this may be situational, for instance, if your mother is at an old age and if you are concerned that she will pass away while you are not present and you would regret that, that might be a factor.

There is probably no rush to make a decision and sometimes when we give something time, Allah decides for us by changing the circumstances of our life to go one direction or the other. When unsure, it is good to pray for guidance, as it often comes clearly.

In any case, silat al-rahm can be done regardless of where you live and does not require living nearby especially these days when travel and communications are much easier.

Bismihi ta'ala

It is your wajib duty to obey your mother, as long as she is not encouraging or forcing you to commit sin. She wanting you to live near her could mean she is still caring for you and loves you. It is just a matter of accommodating to her, compromising where you can, controlling your emotions, and also creating boundaries. 

With all the sacrifices you make for your mother, Allah ta'ala will certainly compensate in the best of ways.

And Allah knows best. 

It depends on the situation of your family. If your family members are flexible and open minded and appreciate evidence and believe in freedom of faith, then you can inform them that the authentic evidence guided to to follow Ahlul Bayt (AS). You can also give them some important points which guided you to Ahlul Bayt (As) which can help them not only to appreciate your research for the Truth for your life here and hereafter, but also open their minds to think properly about the Reality of Real Islam of the Prophet and his Holy Progeny.

'If your family members are rigid and closed minded and do not respect evidence nor freedom of faith and want to remain blindly following their fore fathers, then it might be harmful to inform them because it might create enmity and hatred against you.

'Keeping your faith secret is the option of thousands of believers who live in a negative surroundings which can harm them if they disclose. This is called Taqiyya which is mentioned in Quran in many verses. Allah Did Praise in Quran (Sura Ghaafir; verse 28) a believer from Firaon family who was hiding his faith.

Wassalam.