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Bismihi ta'ala

Unfortunately, this is among the very negative practices we have in our societies, and it definitely is dhulm to some women. We must strengthen our marriages, especially the culture of correct spouse selection, but also increasing our level of tolerance, to avoid divorce. 

We must also try to educate people that there is nothing wrong with marrying a divorcee. They might have gone through a bad experience, or made wrong choices, or matured from their previous relationship.

In all, a lot needs to be done to improve our state, to adopt Islamic teachings in its best form.

And Allah knows best

Bismihi ta'ala

This engagement period, between the nikah and the wedding (or rukhsati) is a limbo time, where you are not single anymore, but should not consummate the marriage. 

It is a time best used for getting to know each other. You will come to understand whether this is right decision, or not, and if any red flags, or something serious can be seen, calling things off before intimacy is by far better than after.

A very important point is the value of the zafaf night. The excitement of the wedding night, or zafaf night, is that the newlyweds become intimate for their first time, after waiting during their engagement, for this special night. 

They observe all the mustahab things to do, on this night, reciting the prayer and the duas, and the husband washing the feet of the bride, and everything else. 

It will be a memorable time for the husband and wife. 

Loyalty to parents is a very serious moral requirement both sides need to have. You do not want to violate this trust by doing that, knowing the parents from both sides expect you both to wait for that special night. Therefore, morally you both have an obligation to be patient and wait for the wedding night, to consummate the marriage. 

The strength of your commitment to each other is showing your high Akhlaqi standards to each other, and to your parents and parents-in-laws. 

Although you might consider it as "societal traditions", but it is a very good thing. Of course, couples should avoid long periods of waiting from nikah to rukhsati. It is not good at all to have long engagements. 

Let it be known that if one was to have sex during this time, it would technically be halal, and not considered as zina, but they have committed something morally wrong, unless their families both allow it, or in their specific culture, there is no zafaf/rukhsati, or such ceremonies.

And Allah knows best

If you feel that Mut'ah marriage is the only way to protect you from sinning, then you should go for it and do your best to save yourself from any sinful act. Virgin girl needs her father's permission for any type of marriage.

'Wassalam.

Many people promise before marriage to embrace Islam or Shia Islam after marriage, just to get married with whom they want to marry, but they fail to fulfill the promise after marriage especially after passing years after marriage or after matrimonial misunderstands which are usual between couples. You must be sure the non Shia girl who wants to be married to you is really ready to follow Ahlul Bayt (AS) not for the sake of marriage but for the sake of Allah to a follower of Islam of the Prophet (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS).

Your parents might have this concern and don't wish to see you in trouble in the future.

'If this girl is ready to follow Ahlul Bayt (AS) for sake of the Truth, she should start following Ahlul Bayt (AS) now and not wait. That should indicate her intentions and might help your parents to believe that she is a sincere person in her promise.

'Wassalam.