Practical Methods of Soul-Purification - 27th Ramadan 1439/2018

A'udhu billahi minash-shaytanir-rajim, Bismillahir-rahmanir-rahim, Al-hamdulillahi-rabbil-'alameen was salaatu was salaamu 'ala sayyidina wa nabiyyina wa tabeebi nufooshina wa habibi quloobina Abil Qasim e Muhammad. [Allahumma salli 'ala Muhammad wa aali Muhammad]. Sallallahu 'aleyh wa aalihi wa sallam la siyama baqiyyatullah ruhi wa arwahul 'alameen li maqdamihil fida'.

Respected brothers and sisters in Islam, Assalamu 'alaykum jami'an wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh[wa aleykum assalam]. Like yourselves, I was sitting listening to a beautiful recitation of these supplications, particularly Du'a al-Iftitah, really these are heavenly words, there is no doubt about it.

And I was wondering that only if people of dunya who, forgive me for the example, that they want to be high with drugs, God forbid, alcohol or music, if only they could taste the beauty of these supplications of the Imams of Ahlul Bayt, 'aleyhum as salam, you really find yourself, as they say, beyond the ninth cloud. Al-hamdulil-Lahil-ladhi hadaana li hadha wa ma kunna li nahtadiya law la an hadaanallah. How blessed we are to have access to these words of Ma'sumin, 'aleyhum as salam. And I was sitting there, I made a du'a. I would like to say it loudly, if you wish to say Ameen and join me as well.

Ya Allah, bless me, bless us, that inshaAllah in paradise we attend the Du'a Kumayl, hearing it from the beautiful voice of Imam Ali, 'aleyhis salaam. Ya Allah, bless us in paradise to be able to hear this Du'a Iftitah from the holy lips of Imam e-Zaman. InshaAllah, he will appear and we hear directly. Ya Rabb, somewhere in this world inshaAllah we will be alive, and there will be announced that Imam e-Zaman, 'ajal Allah farajahu al sharif, himself is going to recite this heavenly Du'a al Iftitah, inshaAllah we are hearing his holy voice directly. Ya Allah, inshaAllah bless us in paradise to hear the heavenly voice of Imam Zainul 'Abideen, 'aleyhis salaam, when he is reciting Du'a Abu Hamza.

I had mentioned once, and I want to repeat again, although I am ashamed that due to aging perhaps or laziness, I am not much practicing this. But as far as I remember, the Imams of Ahlul Bayt, 'aleyhimus salam, and that is again another beauty of it, Imam Husayn, 'aleyhis salaam, the narrators they say that on the day of 'Arafah, under the extreme heat in the plain of 'Arafat, Imam Husayn, 'aleyhi asalaam, is standing on his feet and is reading this Du'a 'Arafah, that we find it difficult to read through it quickly seated. Imams of Ahlul Bayt were either standing doing this Du'a or in the position of the sajdah. For Du'a Kumail for example, Kumail who is the narrator, he says Amir al-mu'mineen was in the position of sajdah and reading this Du'a Kumail from beginning to the end of it. You see that we are few minutes in sajdah, we cannot breathe anymore or stand on our feet. We feel like our knees would not help.

That shows that the Imams of Ahlul Bayt, when they were saying these supplications, their body and they were in completely in a different world. Sallu 'ala Muhammad wa aali Muhammad [Allahumma salli 'ala Muhammad wa 'aali Muhammad]

Bismil-Lahir-rahmanir-rahim. InshaAllah the topic tonight is the last of the series that I had to talk about, although not the last lecture, it continues tonight. I am going to share with you some practical tips inshaAllah and may the Almighty God bless us to practice what we preach and what we hear, like to practice anyway what we are discussing it. It is not just for the sake of talking and hearing. The topic for tonight is some practical methods as to find how we can tame our soul and inshallah achieve self purification. Again, quickly I need to recap and mention to your kindness that Allah , Subhanah wa ta'ala, has sent us to this dunya, to this universe, to this physical world. Always remind yourself that I am here for a mission. I am not here for the sake of this dunya. I am a traveller. A traveller does not care about the accommodation, that temporary accommodation when he is living. His intention is where he is going to live eternally.

I remember in Australia in the group of - in a gathering, and the Minister for Citizenship was also there. And I said and in fact, I was addressing him and of course, everyone else could hear as well. And I said that, you know, that in Australia no one has citizenship, including the minister himself. And he was a bit dumbfounded what this Sheikh is talking about. I said, as a matter of fact, none of you, none of us have PR - permanent residency. We are all on a temporary visa. This is the truth, is it not? And then I said to the minister that if you had permanent residency, if you were the citizen for this position as a minister, you would not be a minister. The previous one would be the minister. The previous before the previous one would have been minister. The fact that each and every one of you come and go, will come and go, that is the best proof. And you do not need to be Einstein to acknowledge this, that we are all on a temporary abode with a temporary visa. And this temporary visa all of a sudden can be taken away from us. As simple as this.

So always remind yourself, hey, my friend, the opportunity that is given to me can be any minute taken away. So be so greedy for your aakhira and make the best of it. So the Almighty God has sent us to this dunya with this notion that this is just a temporary. I am sending you there, get some provision and quickly come back, or you have to come back. Like a stop at a service station, grab what you want from the shelves, you have a journey to make, you have to make your way.

When God send us to this dunya, due to His infinite mercy, He equipped us with certain tools that will help us go back to Him in a safe way. One of the tools that all humans enjoy is the fitra, an instinct, and if you like to call it, a desire for good and for perfection. In some European language, still God is pronounced "good". As a matter of fact, God, that in English we say God, if you look at the Latin, that English, modern English is taken from it, also, God was used to be pronounced "good". Why? Because good was God and God was good. These two are not two separate things.

It was secularism. You may have heard me saying that once upon a time, Sunday was a holy day. Then holy day became holiday, and then holiday became a hollow day. That when you ask them that, why are you working from Monday to Friday, he says so that I can drink during the weekend, ajallakum Allah, with all respect, so that because it is a hollow day, it is a boring day, to make sure that I am not bored, what am I going to do? A holy day has turned into a hollow day.

Likewise God because of secularism, you know how in English, unfortunately, secularism has damaged the language and their culture. They even do not pronounce God at all. What do they say? Gosh. Goodness or gosh. You are not even allowed to use the term God anymore.

But in truth, God was good and the absolute infinite perfection was only God. And because God has made us all desirous towards God, i.e. good, desirous towards perfection, Muslims, non-Muslims, believers, disbelievers, males, females, children, adults, we are all interested in good. We are all interested in perfection, whether take it in business, in politics, in studying science, in any field. Everyone wants to perfect themselves is it not. You want to be, if you are interested in business, you want to be the richest business person on earth. If you are into science and studying, you want to be the best in that. Everyone. Why? Where is this desire coming from? Unconsciously, God has made this desire inside us for a reason.

Unfortunately, we - our example and I mentioned this to you, we have lost the actual beloved one, rahmatullah 'aleyh. Once I remember many, many years ago, in early years of Islamic revolution in Iran, they were broadcasting the speech from Imam Khomeini. And I was a talabeh [student] in my dormitory, I was listening to his speech. He said something, believe me, I felt I am flying. Spiritually, I was so moved, subhanAllah. I quote this short sentence, words of this great Imam Khomeini were not ordinary words.

He said "Ishqe fi'lee bidoone ma'shooqe fi'lee muhaal ast". Let me explain this. A'la Allahu maqaamah. You do not find these words anywhere else. He said the fact that you are actively in love shows there is a real beloved One. This needs a bit of explanation. From the time that we are born as infants, an infant, a child is in love with the milk and the breast of the mother. And therefore the moment that it is a little bit away from mom, it is flapping, it is not comfortable. And the mother is breastfeeding the baby, you see that how the baby is like intoxicated, calm. Baby, if could speak at that stage of his or her life would say, I am in love with my mother and the milk of my mother, give me this. I do not want anything else. You show him millions of dollars, he is not interested.

Okay, he gets a little bit older. And that is the story of all of us. We get a little bit older. Time will come that he is not interested in mother's milk anymore. And now his dream, his desires rest with his toys. Boys or girls have their own toys, fight other kids over the toys. All his life is toys. You give him millions of dollars, not interested, only my toys. Their love is only their toys.

Gets older, time will come that Mom and Dad get stuck with all the toys. What are we going to do? We want to get rid of them because my son, my daughter does not need it anymore. The one who used to dream about having a bicycle is not interested anymore now, because he is grown now.

Reaches a different stage. Teenagers. Time will come that long story [made] short, falls in love with the opposite sex and has desires. "You, you are the air I breathe. I love you to death. I die for you and everything. You are all what I want." Oh, do not go too far. I am going to take you to the real life. We all experience that. Time will come, subhanAllah, that is only the engagement period. Do not worry, it is not going to last unfortunately, they say romantic love is blind, but not for long. It will not last long. Time will come, the same boy and girl who were dying for each other, they do not want to see each other. I hate him and his guts, whatever else.

We continue. Then he falls in love in anything. Now his dream is to drive a Mercedes. I do not know, you find it. His dream is something else. We have different dreams at different stages of life. Different beloved one.

But subhanAllah, once you are given, this the same boy who was dying and fighting for this girl, now that he has this girl at home, he is spending his weekend out with his friends. What happened to you then, is it not this the girl that you are fighting for? No, I just wanted to have her. Now that I know she is at home, it is OK.

It is just like in our areas of experience, some of the talabeh, some of the Sheikhs, some scholars are book freaks. They just want to buy a book. Once he buys them and puts them on the shelf, he never opens, he never reads the book. Why did you buy this book? I do not know. I just wanted to have it.

SubhanAllah, that is, coming back to the word of Imam Khomeini. We do not realize that my friend, you are in love with a real beloved One. "Shon nadidan haqiqat rahe afsan e zidam." Because I have not found my real beloved one yet, one day I think it is a toy. Another think it is a girl, or that guy, or this car, or that money, or this book. None of them are my real beloved one. Dai ariyat bavadrusi sachar madar ma ratu ghiranda kanar.

It is just like your wet nurse, that in the old days they used to give the baby to a wet nurse, maybe because the mother either does not have milk or is not around. Like in the story of the Holy Prophet that his mother did not have milk, later on also became an orphan as well. This baby temporarily feels comfortable with the wet nurse, but soon realizes as he gets older, I want my real mom, I am searching for who is my real mother. I want to know who my real mom, real dad is.

That is the explanation. 'Urafa, they say, "Ma ahabba ahaddun ghayra khaaliqih lakkinnahu ta'ala ihtajabba tahta Zaynaba wa Su'ada wa Hind." No one ever in this world has ever fallen to anyone other than the Almighty God. It is just that we have made a mistake. I thought that this is my God, i.e. Beloved One. That is my love, that. But we try, we try, we know it is not. Because the baby at the end of the day knows and feels and senses that she is not my real mother. She is so kind, but she is not my real mother. I am looking for my real mother.

Anyway, this is the instinct. This is the desire that the Almighty God has put inside us. I mentioned this. Let me bring it to your attention from another angle.

Do you know why in Islamic terminology, Good is called Ma'rouf and Evil is called Munkar? You all, you are familiar with the obligation of enjoining good and forbidding evil. What is the Arabic translation of it? Al amr bil ma'rouf wa nahi 'an il munkar.

Why good deeds are called Ma'rouf? Because Ma'rouf means known. Literally, Ma'rouf means known. Munkar means stranger, alien, unknown. SubhanAllah, good, it means something that you check it with your nafs, with your 'aql, with your qalb, with your common sense. Is lying good or bad? Your 'aql, your instinct tells you that no, lying is alien, stranger.

As much as your body, when we eat something that is contaminated. If there is a food that is poisoned or contaminated, what happens? Your body immediately rejects, reject, reject, reject, with all respect, either we vomit it out or diarrhea or anything. The body says that this is not, it is alien, this is not a real food, give me the real food. And that is why the system the Almighty God has put in the body automatically is rejecting it out.

Likewise, healthy souls are like these. Often you hear a concept. Someone is talking about a theory or a doctrine or something. You say, I can feel it is wrong, there is something wrong with it. Have you ever experienced that? I am sure you have. I can see there is a flaw in it. It does not make sense. Although I am not capable of answering it, but something this cannot be true, this cannot be correct. Who has taught us to examine, be able to say whether it is right or wrong? And subhanAllah, the Holy Prophet says to Wahbisa, who came in a similar situation. The Holy Prophet said to him, "Wahbisa, istafti qalbak". Ask your heart. Your heart does not lie to you. When wrong ideas, doctrines are suggested to you, check it with your heart, check it with your common sense. It rejects.

How often have I spoken with Christians who are interested to become Muslim. And I brought up the issue of Trinity. You know, even a priest who converted, believe me, he said to me, "Sheikh Mansoor, even when I was studying in the School of Theology, Christian theology, Trinity never made sense to me. But we are told that you have to have a blind faith in it." Islam says no, on the contrary, what is inside your common sense and the external Prophets, they have to, they are compatible. They have to match each other. In the same way that your body rejects wrong food, your healthy soul also rejects wrong thoughts, wrong ideologies. God blessed us with that.

Still, if there are some areas that my common sense cannot clearly see, the Almighty God, due to His infinite wisdom and mercy, has sent revelation. Prophets. The prophets are just spotlighting issues so that I can see the truth more apparent, more clear, is it not? When you check it with the Shariah, Shariah gives you a clear answer and at the same time compatible with your desire that you have inside yourself.

The third one is the issue of discussion for tonight with salawat 'ala Muhammad wa aale Muhammad. [Allahumma salli 'ala Muhammad wa 'aali Muhammad wa ajja'l farajahu] Sharia, common sense, and all of these are not going to make us better and we will not be able to tame and purify our souls unless the third tool that the Almighty God has potentially given us, we utilize that one, and that is the will-power.

It is for this reason that the Arabic word "Al iraada", that some of the 'urafa, some of the philosophers who are into this practical irfan, such as Ibn Sina in all fairness, at one stage of his life, Ibn Sina was more of a philosopher, a pure philosopher. Later on in his life, and that is why the book "Al-Isharaat" he has compiled it towards the end of his life, and especially the last chapters you see that it is purely Irfan. Very profound book.

When he speaks about practical Irfan, he says the first step of the ladder of perfection, if you want my opinion, is will-power. Unless you have the will-power, unless you have decided ready for a change, nothing will happen. The instinct is there, the Sharia is there, the Qur'an, Hadith, all the teachings of Ahlul Bayt are there. But unless you put it into exercise and practice it and to do it, you need the will-power. All right.

Again, I compare the physical issue with the spiritual one. In the physical body, as I have been talking in the family course and the spiritual side of it, any healthy human Allah , Subhanah wa ta'ala, has given us with the kind of intelligence that psychologists refer to it as IQ, intelligence quotient. And with a simple test today, they can tell you that what is your score, what is your IQ. An average person, like healthy humans, they have enough IQ to run their life. All right.

The question is that is it possible to measure also our willpower or not? Because to be able to use it, it is just like, again I compare it always body and mind, the reason that I mention this over the time I believe that our body is a very diluted physical version of the soul. And the soul is the elevated version of the body. Getting to know the body, taming, controlling the body, you will experience it, tonight I will mention it. How you can get to the control of the mind through the control of the body.

So in the same way that when you go to the gym and you want to build muscles, you want to be a six-pack or something, your coach will first of all, he is going - MashaAllah boys are relating - what the coach is doing, gives you a weight to lift. He says let me just see your threshold, how much you can lift. Half a kilo. One kilo. He keeps adding until you reach the stage that is difficult. He says, okay, puts the mark, this is your threshold. Now you need to start an exercise from here to build muscles.

'Urafa, they say, as much as you can build your physical muscles, your soul, my friend, also has muscles. Your will-power has also muscles. You need to exercise it so that you can build your muscles. And the more you build the muscles of your will-power, the stronger your will-power, the better when you go to the class of 'aklhaq and ethics, the easier you can practice what you hear. Otherwise, without will-power going there, it is not going to work.

We think that people, some people are lazy. Maybe this part of the conversation will help parents also as well, maybe myself or my son, haven't you heard that? "Sheikh, my son is a very lazy person" or "My daughter is lazy, does not do anything." I tell you, there is no such thing. No one is lazy. If I sound lazy it is because I do not have motivation for that particular action. That is why the same lazy person that was just enjoying being in bed all the time and is sleepy, if there is something that is interesting, jumps out of the bed. The same young boy or girl who you think that is too lazy to get up for morning prayer, if they have any, like they have to get together early in the morning, go somewhere, or there is a match that they are interested whatever, that they like it. SubhanAllah, you see they put the clock. "Mom please wake me up at four o'clock. I have to be in the club 4:30 am." They do not care what time.

The Almighty God is using this psychology for us as well and it works perfectly. You think that is difficult to be in the Masjid and to stay on your feet the whole night. God says let us see. These ordinary humans are not saints and Imams, Ma'someen or 'Urafa. That is not true. You can also do it. I will show it to you. I introduce one night to you as Laylatul Qadr. And I told you that, hey, that night is worth more than eight years of your life. The laziest person in the community also, you see that they are even crawling, coming, with the hand-stick coming, young, old men, women. How come that all of the sudden people that we would never see, you see them in the night of Qadr?

The same on the day of Ashura. People that throughout the year, I knew always I knew certain individuals, not here, elsewhere, perhaps here also as well. They would come and say, "Sheikh, I only come to the Masjid on Ashura, Ashura to Ashura." Motivation. So it is not that we are lazy. It is not that we cannot do it. Do not believe your nafs if it is telling you that no, you cannot do Namaz-e-Shab. You cannot be better than this. My friend, what you and I need is motivation.

In psychology, there is a branch called logo therapy. Logo therapy, literally, it means therapy and treatment through giving a meaning. The whole idea of this branch of psychology is that if you give a meaning and a reason and a motivation to individuals, they do whatever you want them to do. If they are not doing it because they do not know why. If you know why I am doing this, how to do it becomes very easy.

Typical example I usually give is the pangs of delivery. Ladies, moms who are in labor, it is painful, traditionally, at least, nowadays they are changing it. It is a painful pain, but it is a joyful pain, why? Because she knows the reason behind it. There is a delivery after that, there is a baby after that. The moment she feels the warmth of her baby, she forgets about all the pain. Therefore, I have heard this from some moms. No matter how tough and dangerous her delivery was, a few years down the track, again, she wants to have another baby because the pleasure of being and having her baby around, you know, she forgets about all the pain.

Conclusion and move on. Brothers and sisters, if you want to motivate, if you want to really perform, better bring that motivation and that will-power to the religious equation. Bombard your mind with massive pleasure when it comes to certain good deeds, recommended deeds in Islam and bombard your brain with massive pain when it comes to sinning. Because if my mind is bombarded and left and right, I know that really having this lustful look how much it is going to cost me, I have a strong motivation against it. Likewise, lowering my gaze, how much I gain I am going to, doing it will become very easy. Sallu 'ala Muhammad wa aali Muhammad.[Allahumma salli 'ala Muhammad wa 'aali Muhammad]

Now, some some exercises, I am sitting here talking about it, but we have to take it home and practise it. The first exercise is that exercise your will-power with your body, as I said it. Kind of manipulate and bring your body and body needs under your control. Like how? For example, it is in the practice of the Prophet, the companions say that the Prophet sometimes he used to fast every day, that we thought the Prophet is going to fast for the rest of his life. Then all of the sudden he stops, does not fast anymore. Mustahhab fasting I am talking about.

Or Imam Ali, 'aleyhis salam. Faloodeh - you do not have Faloodeh here, Faloodeh is similar to ice cream, it is kind of an iced food. They brought Faloodeh to Imam Ali, 'aleyhis salam. He came at the border of Iran, Iraq, at that time, they served him Faloodeh. Imam looks at it, maybe had a taste of it, it is sweet, nice, and he said, "I do not want it." They say "Ya Amir al-mu'mineen, it is nice." He said "I did not say it is not nice. It is actually because it is nice I do not want it. Because I do not want my nafs to be driven by things that just because it is nice, I have it."

The Holy Prophet says, remember this hadith, "Man akala ma yashtahi wa labisa ma yashtahi wa rakiba ma yashtahi lam yandhurrallahu ileyh hatta yanza' wa yatruk." If people, people who are driven to only eat what they like to eat. Anything they like, they go for it. Anything they like to dress, they go by it, just because I can afford it, I want to dress like this. Anything that I can drive because I can afford it, I go for it. People who are driven by their desires, the Prophet says God does not look at these people, because your desire is supposed to be under your control, not that you are under the control of your desire. If I am driven only by my desire, one of the arguments with all respect to the ladies who are watching, hearing, I have with the young guys, I tell them that when the issue of Mut'a comes, and the whole night we have a discussion with them, they are not getting bored, and they say, "Sheikh, is it haram?" I say no, no, it is not haram. But brother, not everything that is halal, it means that you have to do it. Where is the self-control and self-restraint then?

Islam is not just about halal and haram,there is more into it. The problem is that if I unleash my desire that just whatever that I love to do, as long as it is halal, it is not how wrong we are not going to the realm of haram. For argument's sake, yes, this is the domain of halal, but even the domain of halal. Look at the practice of Ahlul Bayt, 'aleyhimus salam. You have to kind of control it, do not unleash it, because the problem is that once we unleash, then instead of you riding your horse, your horse, with all respect, will be riding you. It is going to jump the fence come tomorrow because the person has been addicted by being driven by their desire.

So the first practice exercise is that exercise that certain things, although they are halal but they are not wajib. Permissible. You say that. OK, I want to limit it. They brought some watermelon in the hot days of summer to Imam Khomeini and he said, in Farsi I have to say it, English does not have vocabulary for it. Imam says "Namikhaham", meaning I do not want it. Somebody next to the Imam who is the narrator says, I said to the Imam that "namikhaham" is a little bit, mawlana, rude. Say "mal nadaram", literal translation, I do not have desire for it. Imam Khomeini says "I cannot lie, I have a desire for it. It is not that I do not have a desire for it. I have a desire, but I do not want to have it. Not everything that I have desire, I have to go for it. Sometimes temperately taming the desire is also a good thing."

This is the exercise. People who smoke, tell yourself I know you have a desire for it. I know it is the time for you to smoke after your iftar. Even smoking people, they are breaking their fast but they tell me because I was smoking. One day you tell yourself that OK, tomorrow I do not want you to have this smoke. You can have it but sorry I do not want you to have it. You, I want it to have it when I want you to have, not when you desire for it, you see. Practice this. Coffee, tea, I am just giving you silly examples. Each and every one of us, try to do some mubahhaat, bring it under the control so that we are not addicted to it. That is the problem, because once you become addicted to it, that means then the desire is running us. This is first.

The second exercise, now bring your social relation into the control. It is about the will-power. Remember we are having training ourselves when it comes to the will-power. Now I want to control my social relation. There is a red line in Suratul Nisa' Ayah 140, the Almighty God has mentioned, I want to save the time, I do not go to the haram areas, I suppose that inshaAllah, we are not people who are committing haram. Because Qur'an says the people that are making a mockery of the Ayat of Qur'an or Islamic values, you are not allowed to socialize with them at all. I do not go that far, that is not for us, of course, we are not socializing with them.

Islam says even with people who are non-mahram, do not socialize with them. Let me explain this. Brothers and sisters, say salawat so that it is registered better. [Allahumma salli 'ala Muhammad wa 'aali Muhammad] Non-mahram, nah-mahram has two definitions at least. One is, in fiqh, you ask a jurist he will tell you, you all know and you are familiar with the meaning of na-mahram. The second definition is in irfan. The definition of non-mahram in Irfan is that socialization with people that they deviate you from your direction, from your destination.

Let me explain it from the words of Imam Ali, 'aleyhis salam. Amir al-mu'mineen, salamullah 'aleyh, he says "Man araada islaaha nafsih wa ihraaza deenih fal yajtannib mukhaallatat abnaa'yat dunya." Those who want to purify their souls and themselves and they want to attain their religion, they should avoid people of dunya.

Who are people of dunya? People of dunya are those, he is Muslim, but when you sit with them, you see all what you hear is about the stock market. All what you hear is about different fashions for the ladies, I do not know, they know better. All what you hear is about, I do not know, this movie maker and that movie star or thing. It is all about dunya, there is nothing beyond that. You spend the whole weekend like you talk to them, it is all about this match versus that match, this player versus that player, two or three hours of socialization. Holy nights of my life, let alone the month of Ramadan.

You go home and you think, what did I achieve really? Two, three hours, five hours of spending time with these friends? At best, nothing. I am not talking about gossiping, haram or anything like that, drinking. As I said, that is beyond, we are not concerned about that. No, at best you see that there was nothing, that was just pass-time.

The one who is after self purification, Ayatollah Hassan Zadeh, my teacher, would say that "Agha ba na mehram rafta ma'adna kuneed", do not socialize with non-mahram, whether male or female, that is what he means. It could be for a guy, for men, for brothers, this person is man, but still he could be your na-mahram. What does it mean? Because his mentality is mentality of people of dunya who know nothing beyond this dunya. On the contrary, socialization with people that, why is it that in our riwayat it says that looking at the house of a scholar is worshipping. Looking at the face of a scholar is worshiping. A scholar, but then they define a scholar, a scholar who reminds you of God, reminds you of the hereafter, reminds you of moral values. Socialisation with such people automatically will help.

If I may very friendly and informally tell you that, throughout my studying, I learned from my teachers who were my mentors and my mates and my friends more out of classroom, I learned from them more than inside the classroom, if I may dare saying that. By socializing with them, by like having family relation with them, the way that they live their life, I learned from them more than through the books and, you know, inside the classroom.

So be selective about people. I always mention this to newlyweds as well. If you want to stay on the right path, be selective with people that you socialize. Do not introduce your wife to any Tom, Dick and Harry. Just because he used to be your friend during your bachelorhood does not necessarily mean that he is a decent person with all respect to have socialization. Be selective and especially have a standard. My standard is that socialization with this individual or this family, is it going to make me nearer to God and my children and my family, or further away from God?

See, this is how you can exercise your will-power. For this reason, two siblings God forbid, two first cousins God forbid, could be na-mahram. And an African and European, a Khoja and an American, could be brethren because they share the same views and values. So make your socialization with those that you share the same values and are mahram to you, not na-mahram. Sallu ala Muhammad wa aali Muhammad [Allahumma salli 'ala Muhammad wa 'aali Muhammad]

My time is running short, just one more and insha'Allah I will wind it up. One more area that is also very important is exercise your will-power when it comes to your earnings. SubhanAllah, brothers sisters, wallah this is not a joke. Believe me, when they say that you are what you eat, there is a truth in it. Your earnings, it is amazing me sometimes, people, they read the ingredients when they go shopping. It is very good, but they do not read the ingredients of the income. And when they go to the dubious areas, or when it comes to transactions. Halaal? Haraam?

Imam al-Sadiq, 'aleyhis salaam, says some transactions are purely haraam, no question asked. Some transactions purely halal, no question asked. There is a dubious area, gray area as well. A believer is the one that even says in the gray area, better safe than sorry. Why? Because this is going to be making my body and my soul. I do not want 15 years down the track, like, go through hell because of my son or my daughter, because of what I fed them fifteen years ago. The food that I bring home matters. And the innocent wife and the innocent children, they are innocent, really. At the end of the day, the bread providers are us. We, men, we have a great responsibility here. Great responsibility.

Number one, make sure that your income is halal, inshaAllah, to the best of your knowledge. And second, do not be too greedy when it comes to income as well. Amir al-mu'mineen, salamullah 'aleyh, defines that in the Ayah that Allah says come, that I introduce you "Hayatan tayyiba", pure life, Imam says "Hayatan tayyiba" means "al qana'a", contentment.

Do not be too greedy simply because if I am too greedy about dunya, I have to sacrifice a bit of my aakhirah. I have to sacrifice a bit of time for my namaz, going to the Masjid. Why is it that those who are so much into business, I know a person at least mashaAllah, a double tycoon, very rich person, businessman, and he has branches and offices, so many different parts of the world. You know, he himself he told me, "First of all Sheikh, my family enjoys my wealth more than me. And I am just like having a metal iron on my neck, I cannot turn left and right. I do not enjoy my life. Because I have to watch my business to make sure that this person, that person, that person does not deceive me or anything."

And the result of that is - that is the one, you do not know obviously who I am talking about inshaAllah, nobody knows. He is the one who says "I can only go to the Masjid once a year, and that is on Ashura day." Still he is a lover of Imam Husayn, 'aleyhis salam. I am not saying that just necessarily by everyday going to the Masjid it is good. But yes, why not, it is good. If I give too much time to my business and if you see youngsters that they say, or he is telling his wife, "Just be patient with me for the time being until my business settles. This is just the beginning. This business is just up, I have just started. Please be patient with me." Day and night, he is around the business. Sacrificing his wife, sacrificing his children.

By the time his business is settled, you have lost your child. And then come tomorrow. "Sheikh, I do not know. My son ran away from home." And he says I never had dad around. My dad, yes, provided. Like a lady, she had applied for divorce, and her husband said to me that "Ask her, I bought her a Mercedes." And she said "I did not marry a Mercedes. I married and wanted a husband, I do not want a Mercedes." So contentment also as well, for the sake of best of dunya and for the sake of the best of the aakhirah. Exercise your will-power, let us exercise our will-power on these areas and slowly things will fall into place. And I do not have breath anymore. Sallu 'ala Muhammad wa aale Muhammad [Allahumma salli 'ala Muhammad wa 'aali Muhammad]

Couple of times I mentioned the holy name of Imam Husayn, 'aleyhis salaam, and Ashura. Remember that Monday belongs to Imam Husayn, 'aleyhis salaam. As you are sitting please turn the compass of your heart towards the holy city of Karbala. And join me to inshaAllah, give our respect and visit Abu Abdullah al-Husayn and visit the shuhada of Karbala.

Allahhuma salli 'ala Muhammadin wa aali Muhammad. Assalamu 'aleyka Ya Aba Abdillah, wa 'alal arwahillati hallat bi fina'ik. 'Aleyka minni salamullaahi abadan ma baqeetu wa baqiyyal leylu wal nahar. Wa la ja'alahullahu aakhiral ahdi minni li ziyaratikum. Assalamu 'alal-Husayn wa 'ala Ali ibn al-Husayn wa 'ala awladil Husayn wa 'ala as-hab al-Husayn wa 'ala Abbas al-Husayn wa 'ala Zainab al-Husayn. Salawat. [Allahhuma salli 'ala Muhammadin wa aali Muhammad]