The Elixir of Patience - 28th Ramadan 1439/2018

Bismillahir-rahmanir-rahim, Al-hamdulillahi rabbil-'alameen wassalaatu wassalamu 'ala sayyidina wa nabiyyina wa tabeebi nufoosina wa habibi quloobina Abil Qasim e Muhammad [Allahumma salli ala Muhammad wa aali Muhammad] sallaa-lahu 'alayhi wa alihi wa sallam la siyyama baqiyyatallah ruhi wa arwaahul'alameen. A'udhu billahi minash-shaytaanir rajim, Bismillahir-rahmanir-rahim, Wal 'asr, Innal insaana lafi khusr, Illal ladhina aamanu wa 'amilus swalihaat wa tawasaw bil haqqi wa tawasaw bil sabr(103:1-3). Sadaqallaahul 'aliyul-adhim. Allahhuma salli 'ala Muhammad wa aali Muhammad.[Allahumma salli ala Muhammad wa aali Muhammad]

Respected brothers and sisters in Islam, Assalamu 'alaykum jami'an wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. And also join me inshaAllah tonight, tomorrow night, in the coming nights until the end of the month, which is only a few more days and nights anyway are left. Join me in the recitation of this short but profound du'a from the Holy Prophet sallal-lahu 'alayhi wa aalihi wa sallam[Allahumma salli ala Muhammad wa aali Muhammad]: Allahhuma la taj'alahu akhiral 'ahdi min siyamina iyyah, fa in ja'altahu faj'alni marhooman wa la taj'alni mahrooma.

That means Oh Allah, do not make this Ramadhan the last Ramadhan of my life. However, if it is meant in Your will that this is the last Ramadhan of my life, which means that until before next Ramadhan I am meant to expire, include me in this month among those who have received Your mercy, and they became marhoom, marhoom meaning that they received the mercy of God, not those who are deprived of the mercy of God. The Holy Prophet says that those who towards the end of Ramadhan keep reciting this du'a consciously, inshaAllah, either they will meet the next Ramadhan and the next Ramadhans coming in the future, or if it is meant to expire in between, inshaAllah Allah subhanah wa ta'ala will grant their du'a and they will be resurrected as marhoomeen inshaAllah, with salawat 'ala Muhammad wa aali Muhammad.[Allahumma salli ala Muhammad wa aali Muhammad]

Some brothers and sisters, even they asked that how do we know if we are forgiven by the end of this month of Ramadhan? With all the du'as, supplications and whatever more or less we have done, where can we find out? Is there any book or anywhere to check whether I am 100 percent forgiven or not? I tell you that actually we are not supposed to know, 100 percent whether or not.

For God, two things about the sins, always remember that they are meant to be like this. There is a wisdom behind it. One is that, a sin that we commit, we have committed, God forbid, sometimes in our life, no matter how sincerely you and I, we sought God's forgiveness and inshaAllah, we are forgiven let's say 200 person. And still the memory is there. And you remember and you say that I wish that ugly story would have been deleted even from the recycling bin of my memory completely that I even could not remember it, because every time I remember, it is upsetting me. Is there any button that I can press that completely goes out of my memory? This is one issue. The second issue that how do I know that I am 100 percent forgiven?

As for the first one, it is meant not to disappear because it is alerting us to make sure, look, do you see how ugly it is? It is neutralized. It is not effective. It has no effect on you, inshaAllah not dunya nor akhirah anymore, but their memory will help you to avoid it so that it does not happen again. So there is a wisdom, there is a mercy that it does not disappear.

The second about whether I am forgiven or not, our duty is to assume that we are forgiven and inshaAllah, if we sincerely ask Allah, subhana wa ta'ala, the Almighty God has promised and He fulfills His promises, that when I promise you that I forgive and I forgave you in the night of Qadr, you are forgiven. Do not doubt the mercy of God. But why we are not 100 percent sure? Because again, the game of dunya still is not over. So far as the game of dunya is not over, yes, potentially I am forgiven. But God says that on the condition that you do not deliberately repeat, otherwise the same, the demerit will come back. So please keep these two in mind once again with salawat 'ala Muhammad wa aale Muhammad.[Allahumma salli ala Muhammad wa aali Muhammad]

Ya Allah. All right. What I had in mind from last night, a couple of nights ago for tonight, for you to share with you is called the Elixir of Patience. I will explain to you what the elixir and what the patience is. Subhan Allah, God meant in this way, that today, throughout the day I had a headache and God was massaging my patience. And as a result of that, the concept is inshaAllah here in my mind, but did not get a chance to cook it properly.

Let me tell you this, for the sake of some of the brothers we have here, we had a teacher that used to teach a book in Usool al Fiqh, the Book of Fara'idh al Usool, a very good advanced book in the principles of jurisprudence. When I was studying under him, Ayatullah Ehtemadi, he said, this is the 30th year that I am teaching this book. Imagine 30 times he is teaching this book, for the last thirty years of his life. So much so he knew about that book that he said if you tear it up and give it to me, I can put them together. I almost know the book off by heart. All right. Yet. And he was so particular, his lessons would take fifty minutes. Very, very mashaAllah punctual person.

Once I remember that few minutes, maybe five minutes before, let us say, 45 minutes. And he finished. We went and said, Hajj Agha, there is still five minutes left. He said, I do not know anything about the next paragraph anymore. After 30 years of teaching that book that almost knows off by heart, he said, I have not studied the next paragraph. I remember I went around the mimbar with some of the brothers. He said to me, I spent at least couple of hours before I come to the class thinking how to present it. I have done all my researches and everything, and every year I do a new research about this topic. But I spend a couple of hours before I come to think, how am I supposed to present this? What is the best way to present the concept and this topic to you. That is why he was always telling us, do not go on the mimbar just relying on your memory or things like that. The reason that I said this to confess to you that tonight, unfortunately, I had a valid excuse. Technically speaking, I was supposed to get a sick leave. I pray to God that from His bounty gives the power of influence so that inshaAllah, what I have in my mind and in my heart, I can deliver it to you.

Elixir, brothers and sisters, is a mysterious, or in the old days at least, they believe there is a mysterious substance in the nature that if you rub it on anything, it turns into gold and platinum. Even in the ancient history we have this that some people, they were in search of that, they thought that if I can only find this all of the sudden overnight, I will become a millionaire.

There is no truth about this, of course, but we use, mystics and 'urafa they borrow this term to use it for certain things, like the elixir of love, related to the love of Ahlul Bayt, 'aleyhimus salam, love of the Almighty God. Elixir of patience, talking about something that is so valuable they refer to it as elixir, and something that really can change a sinful to a saint, can change people that are failing constantly to the most successful people.

Remember in the early nights, first nights, we have been talking about the mystical ethics and I said that in essence, mystical ethics is talking about how we are supposed to develop and gain the divine attributes and characters in ourselves. I quoted a hadith from the Holy Prophet that the Prophet has recommended to us, "Takhallaqu bi akhlaq Allah", Develop the divine mannerism and characters in yourself.

I begin with one story from the time of Prophet Dawood 'ala nabiyina wa aalihis salam, but the narrator is Imam al-Sadiq 'alayhis salam, I had mentioned before, very often the Imams of Ahlul Bayt were telling us about the heritage of the Prophets of the past. Imam al-Sadiq 'alayhis salam, says that at the time of Prophet Dawood, there was a lady. Very patient lady. But all what everyone knew about her was that she was a very patient lady. Supposedly does not look "very religious". If you want to say, like, by the look of it, she does not look very religious, but very patient lady.

Once the Almighty God reveals to Prophet Dawood that Ya Dawood, she is your partner, your associate, whatever the meaning is, in paradise. This supposedly ordinary lady in the community to be in the level of the Prophet of her time. Prophet Dawood decides to go and see who is she. Her name is Khalada, the daughter of Aws. Prophet Dawood goes and finds the lady and he goes to to her that "Do you know that the Almighty God has revealed to me that you are going to be my associate in paradise?" She smiles and she says, "Who, me? Out of all ladies in the town, me, Ya Rasul Allah?" Remember he is the Prophet of her time. "Ya Rasool Allah, Allah's messenger. I will be your associate? I think you got the wrong address. There must be another Khalada in the town."

Subhan Allah. That in itself is a virtue, that you do not see any status for yourself. Unfortunately, how often we believe and we give false status to ourselves. A Prophet has come giving her such a glad tidings. And yet she says, I think you got a wrong address. Prophet Dawood says that, "No, it is not a wrong address, my Lord does not lie to me. Tell me something about you. What is special about you?" She says, "Really wallah, nothing is special in me. I cannot think that, I am just an ordinary woman in the community." But people, they say that she is very patient. And then when Prophet Dawood makes inquiries, all the ladies, they say she has gone through so much in her life, but you never hear her complaining. She never complains about God. She never, she is always very content. Prophet Dawood said "That must be the reason."

And upon that, the Almighty God, I am quoting remember Imam al-Sadiq 'aleyhis salam, the Almighty God reveals to Prophet Dawood, "Ya Dawood, takhallaq bi akhlaqi, fa inni anas Saboor." Dawood, develop My characters in you, one of My characters to start with, I am very patient.

Remember, Saboor, Sabir, Sabbar, these are the names of God. Qur'an does not mention literally Saboor, Sabbar for Allah, subhana wa ta'ala, but Qur'an when it speaks about the patience of God, mentions the highest level of it. That is Al-Hilm. That Wallahu ghafoorun haleem. Haleem: very forbearing person, is the one that enjoys a lot of patience.

What is the meaning of patience in Allah, subhana wa ta'ala? One meaning is, is that Allah, subhana wa ta'ala does not haste in punishing His servants. We commit a sin, but apparently nothing happens. And unfortunately people take advantage of that and are daring God, they have been daring God that, so how come? Let God send me any punishment. How come he does not punish me?

It is because God is very patient. 'Urafa, they say Saboor or Sabbar as one of the divine names is one of the Isma-e- a'dham. You know, the names of God, some of them are greater, some are less. Saboor or Sabbar is one of the greatest names of Allah, subhana wa ta'ala. All those who have access that, and increase that within themselves, that makes them nearer and closer to Allah, Subhana wa Ta'ala following the hadith of "Takhallaqu bi akhlaqillah". SalSallallaahuala Muhammad wa aali Muhammad. [Allahumma salli ala Muhammad wa aali Muhammad]

Question, what is patience? What is Sabr? Sabr in Irfan is defined as following, and I have checked all different definitions for it. Humbly, I have come to the conclusion that, as I always say, the definition that Urafa they have given for patience is the most complete one. They have defined that Sabr: habsul nafs 'an il shakwa ila gheyr Allah. Patience, it means that there is a discomfort inside of you, physically because you are ill, for example, family wise in one way or the other, there is a little bit of challenge, you find in your life, you are going through some challenges somehow. But you are just controlling that, you are not exploding it out, you are not talking to others, you are not complaining about God to anyone. So much so that if anyone, no matter what you are going through in your life, they tell you, how are you? Al-Hamdulillah, never been happier. Everything is OK? MashaAllah, perfect.

No matter what he or she is going in their life, but when he is facing people, nobody knows anything about their miseries. Such a person, and depending on how they act like that in society, such people are called patient people.

Now, remember, the definition says that to other than God, they do not complain. Not that they have no complaint. Proof of that is that you could be the most complaining person to God, but only to God. And yet God gives you the medal of patience. Example is in the story of Prophet Ya'qoob. He missed his son, with all the blood that his sons that made against Prophet Yusuf. Yet he says Innama ashku baththi wa huzni ilallaah(12:86) . Note, in Surat Yusuf, God is quoting Prophet Ya'qoob. Ya'qoob did not say that I do not have any complaint. He says I take my grief and my complaint ilallaah, to God. To other than God, I do not say anything. But to God, I have.

So they say when you go to God, talk to God alone, not again on the microphone, when it is you and God. Even if, God forbid, you want to complain and you want to say anything to God, God does not care. God enjoys the conversation with you. God knows your heart, knows that this sounds blasphemy. But God says that I know that he is just really like venting it out. Vent it out brothers and sisters, but to God, not to other than God.

Similarly, Allah subhana wa ta'ala is describing clearly introducing Prophet Ayub as Inna wajadnahu saabira(38:44). You want more clear than this? Surely we found Ayub, Prophet Ayub a very patient person. Despite the fact that Prophet Ayub, as you know the story, God put him through so many challenges in his life, starting with illness, long illness. At the end, what did he say to God? Nada rabbahu anni massani ad dhurr wa anta arhamur rahimeen(21:83) . He is talking to God only, the verse is "anta", not "he". God, You know distress has touched me. God, You know that I have gone through so much. Even my family abandoned me and left me. Imagine this. "Wa anta arhamur rahimeen", You are the most merciful.

Number one, he does not say that "God, You caused all of this to me." Some people, they blame God and they say that "Why God is doing this to me? Sheikh, why me? Such a good person, mashaAllah, why God is troubling me, why God is doing this to me? I have not harmed anyone." SubhanAllah, so confidently they speak like this. A Prophet says "anni massani ad dhurr", distress has touched me. He does not say that "You have done this to me." That is the etiquette of conversation with God.

And second, does not say "Oh God, remove it from me." He says "Wa anta arhamur rahimeen", You are the most merciful. Because You are the most merciful, You know Your duty better. I do not need to teach You what to do. I need to learn to be a slave. I need to be abd, bebande Khuda, God knows, He knows His lordship. You do not need to tell Him what to do.

So it is okay if you have a complaint. But take your complaint to God, not to other than God, number one. And number two, please make sure that always in the way that you converse with God, it is always best to be polite and follow the etiquette of conversation with Allah, subhana wa ta'ala.

Suffices to mention about the virtue of the patience a couple of things. Qur'an says that for those who want nearness to Me, I have sent down some means. Grab them and seek the help of these means. The very first one in Suratul Baqarah Wasta'eenu bis sabri was salaat (2:153). Seek the help of God with what? Patience.

So the rope that God has sent down, if you want to come up, seek the help with patience. Some narrations say that patience is interpreted as fasting. Patience is not fasting. Fasting is an example of patience. Unless you and I inshaAllah, we had patience, we would not be able to to fast the whole month. And therefore, you speak to people who are not practising Muslims or non-Muslims, "Oh one month you are fasting?" Today I was talking to a brother in North Europe. Twenty two hours MashaAllah. And he said, "Sheikh, some days we have had 35 degrees." Twenty two hours every day. This needs a lot of patience really. And Allah Subhana wa Ta'ala will provide. So if patience is interpreted to fasting, patience and fasting are different. But fasting is an example of patience.

Then in general, before you and I, we need to benefit from our salah, we need to have an inner force inside us. And that is patience. In fact, if the patience is lacking, you cannot even pray. Do you agree or not? You need patience tomorrow morning to get up for morning prayer, otherwise your body says, relax, I want to sleep. You need patience to do your wajibaat, mustahabbat, for salah and everything. So patience is like the engine for all other motivation. Wasta'eenu bis sabri was salaat (2:153).

Qur'an says that for those who wish to enter paradise, there is a boarding pass. Unless if you have that boarding pass the gate, at the gate of Paradise, none of the angels are there to receive you. What is the name of the boarding pass? Patience. Look at this. There are angels at the gates of paradise standing, when you arrive inshaAllah, when we arrive inshaAllah Ya Rabb, they say Salamun aleikum bima sabartum fa ni'ma 'uqbad dar (13:24). They greet you. Salamun aleikum. Inshallah, we enter as group. Salaam. Why they greeting us? "Bima sabartum", because of your patience.

SubhanAllah, think about this. Out of all other characters that humans could enjoy, out of everything they are picking on what? Patience.

Salamun aleikum bima sabartum fa ni'ma 'uqbad dar (13:24). You may now enter, enjoy your time. Now you inshaAllah go to paradise, looking for your accommodation, where is my dwelling Oh Almighty God, how much are You going to give me? Allah Subhana wa Ta'ala says Wa nadha'ul mawazeenal qist li yawmil Qiyamah(21:47). Wait, there are scales, actions will be weighed verses each other. An atom's weight of good or evil, everything has to be weighted and accordingly you will be rewarded, God forbid or punished. Some will get ten fold of what they have done, some 700 folds, as Qur'an says.

Except there is a particular group of people in the mahshar that Allah subhana wa ta'ala says, for them there is no calculation. Throw the calculations aside. Innama yuwaffas sabiroona ajrahum bi gheyri hisab (39:10). Allahu Akbar. Exceptionally the group of patient people, when it comes to the reckoning, "bi gheyri hisab", without count, there is no calculation for them. Isn't this enough?

No matter Imam al-Sadiq, 'aleyhis salam says, do not ever complain, even if in all your life, you are going through a hardship. My friend, compare it with eternity. Eternity in the hereafter. The Prophet returned from his mi'raj and he said to people, Brethren, this dunya, the entire dunya, compared with what I saw in akhirah is like you go to the beach and with the tip of your finger you are touching the water. How much water your tip of finger gets? This is dunya. The ocean is akhirah. And still more. What is 60, 70, 50, 200 years? How long do you think the dunya - all I am going through hardship for, let us assume so. Look at the reward of it. Sallallaahu ala Muhammad wa ale Muhammad.[Allahumma salli ala Muhammad wa aali Muhammad]

Before I continue, I say this and inshaAllah conclude with this, please keep reading this du'a and follow me now as well. "Rabanna afrigh 'alayna sabra wathabbit aqdamana wansurna 'alal qawmil kafireen.(2:250)" "Afrigh 'alayna" means that God, you are the most patient. Did not we say God is As-Saboor, As-Sabir? God, pour patience in my soul. Keep pouring patience in me, the more the merrier, and expand my capacity so that I can accommodate more patience in my life.

Now when you read between the lines, Allah Subhana wa Ta'ala due to His infinite wisdom and mercy, He wants to increase the dose of our patience. What He does, He knows, when you look at the, like sometimes I tell to brothers and sisters when they come for counseling, you are not sister the only fish in this ocean. We are all on the same boat as we say. A lady, she wants to get married, she does not find the right person to marry, and she is maybe getting uncomfortable that she is aging, not married. The same for the brother. Another one got married but married to the wrong person. Things didn't work. The third person got married to the right person, does not have a child. The fourth person - and was wishing to have a child - the fourth person got married to the right person and has a child. But that child is giving him a hard time. The fifth person mashaAllah no family test at all. Everything goes so smoothly in his family life. His test is more than and bigger than all the previous ones, do you know that?

Remember, if you are sailing in the, like in the ocean of your life and everything goes so smoothly, rest assured that your test is bigger, and I have a proof for that. When do we remember God more? At the time of a funeral, at the time of the loss of a dear, when we get sick, that we are in need and we go to each other "Give me a dhikr, is there anything?" And we are looking for some spirituality. Or at the time of the wedding, people are more conscious about God? At the happy time, they are more conscious? At the happy time, they are also being tested. Unfortunately, those who failed the test of happiness and comfort by far are more than those who failed the test of hardship.

So do not worry if you are going through hardship. That makes you more connected to God and that is what matters. God is testing us with patience and with gratitude. Unless you are someone like Prophet Sulayman 'ala nabiyyina wa alayhis salam. God gave him all what you can imagine and beyond. Birds, animals, humans, jinn, were all under subjugation of this man, as a Prophet of God. Look at what he said. He never said, "Hey, I have been working so hard. Where have you been when I was studying so hard and now I have become a doctor, I become so and so."

No, he says Hadha min fadhli rabbi(27:40). That was a bounty from my Lord. "Fadhl", Grace means that, I did not deserve it, just gave it, just gave it, just God gave it to me. This is "fadhl", "Hadha min fadhli rabbi." And why me, God - why did He choose me over everyone else?"Liyabloowani" (27:40), to test me. Allahu Akbar. A'ashkur am akfurr (27:40).

God has given you wealth to test you, knowledge to test you, health to test you, children to test you, whether you are grateful or are ungrateful. So if they are all divine test, but the test of God when it comes to hardship, despite the common mistake, is easier to go through. Because through hardship, we become more God conscious. Do you agree with me? If you agree, say salawat then.[Allahumma salli ala Muhammad wa aali Muhammad]

A lady, her name was Rumaitha, one of the female companions of the Prophet. And subhanAllah, unless you are a father and a mother, it is difficult to relate to it. Moms, they can relate to this story much more. Imagine that God has given her a beautiful baby boy, and he is an infant under the age of two, still she was breastfeeding her baby. One day, the baby got sick in the old days and as she was hugging her, trying to calm her down, at the bosom of the mother, the baby dies.

That is a big agony. That is a very big, strong test. But look at the patience of this lady. Well, inna lilah wa inna ileyhi raji'oon. She was in tears a little bit. And then she said to herself, my husband is going to come in the afternoon, in the evening, and I do not want him to be to be upset. Puts the baby aside. And then when her husband comes back home, look at this attitude, she turns around and tells her husband that, the husband's name is Abu Talha. "Abu Talha, if somebody gives us a trust and then comes to collect their trust, do you think we should give the trust back to him or not?" He said, of course. And she says, "And what if we refuse and said, no, it is mine, I do not want to give it?" He said, "That is not good. That is not good at all. What kind of Muslims are we?" And then she says "Abu Talha, God less than two years ago gave us a baby, and God so chose to take him away today. Allahu Akbar."

The next day, the Prophet sallallahu 'aleyhi wassalam, attends the funeral of this young baby boy, and gives the glad tidings to the parents, especially to Rumaitha. This lady is one of the female companions of the Prophet. And the Prophet tells her, "Ya Rumaitha, this child will benefit you in the hereafter more than having" - look at the word of the Prophet, "more than having 70 sons all fighting in the way of God, all mujahid fi sabeelillah, how much you will benefit from this boy in hereafter will be more because of your patience, because of the way that you dealt with this issue."

Compare this now with those who "Oh God, why did You do that?" They are going crazy. They need psychological treatments and everything. This is the power of faith. If you want to see how patience, how patient you are and where the dose of your patience is, check it against your faith. Because the riwayat says that "As sabru ra'sul iman", the head of the faith is patience. A man without a head does not exist, iman without patience does not exist. So the more faith inshaAllah we have, the more patience we are going to demonstrate in our life.

One, also one more example, inshaAllah and I will conclude this example. I want to bring it to the social family relation, and I am pleading to all of you, at least as a sick person, as a Sheikh, as an old, as a someone who you so kindly, generously have been hosting through this Ramadhan. This is the third Ramadhan I am with you and definitely I do not know, nobody knows whether next Ramadhan we are going to meet, next Ramadhan I am going to be alive or not, Ya Rabb, with the headache that I have and the struggle that I am going through, I want to deliver a message. Wholeheartedly, I want to deliver this message. Internally. I am crying and I am passing this message to you. Please, please, for God's sake, have your attention with me, because of the word of God, with salawat 'ala Muhammad wa aali Muhammad.[Allahumma salli ala Muhammad wa aali Muhammad]

Surat Fussilat Chapter 41, Ayah 34 to 36, that is a reference so that you refer to it later on. This is a master key for all social and family issues. Those who have issues with their daughter in laws, son in laws, mother in laws, father in law, in laws, outlaws I do not know, siblings, family, as long as the other party is a Muslim, even Muslim by name, all right. As long as the other party is not an enemy of Islam, like, I do not know, Trump or all these people, as long as they are not to that extreme, this Ayah applies. What is this Surah? And the only key that you need to solve the problem as a master key, as mentioned in this Ayah inshaAllah as I read it, brothers and sisters, if we have patience. If we do not have patience, then this master key does not work.

Qur'an says, A'oodhu billahi minash- shaytanir rajeem. "Wa la tastawil hasanatu wala sayyi'a." (41:34) My dear sister, my dear brother, son in law, daughter in law, mother in law, you name it, everyone refers to themselves and to your family issue, God forbid, if there is any. Qur'an says, check your common sense. You learned already about the common sense. Good and evil are not equal, are they? Of course not. "Wa la tastawil hasanatu wala sayyi'a." (41:34)If so, "idfa' billati hiyya ahsan". If that is the case, repel the evil with good.

I am concluding tonight. Tomorrow I will have a talk about related to Zakatul Fitr. Tonight is the last night and inshaAllah the last straw. I am going to say this, the last one. I reserved it for this moment. From beginning I mentioned to you, the mystical ethics, the level of it is by far more than ordinary ethics. Here it is. That is a reference for you. Qur'an says, repel evil with good. You think that your daughter in law, your son in law, your brother in law, someone, you name them, that you may have issue with them, that you do not want to see them, they have done, they have been unfair to you, they have wronged you, repel the wrong with good. This is what Qur'an says. "Idfa' billati hiyya ahsan" repel the evil with what is the best.

InshaAllah this Eidul Fitr, buy some gift and go and visit them. And when somebody comes to visit you, astaghfirullah rabbi wa atoobu ileyh, do not have the pride to say "I do not want to see you". Because we have, unfortunately, have such people, inshaAllah not in this community, that they throw the gift away. "I do not want a gift, I do not want to see you." Astaghfirullah, someone has gone out of his way or her way comes with a gift, receive them. "Affallahu amma salaf"(5:95), forget about the past. Have a big heart. Al-Hamdulillah, hug each other and finish it, finish it off, because of Qur'an, because of fasting.

"Idfa' billati hiyya ahsan, fa'idhal ladhi baynaka wa baynahu 'idawa" (41:34) Qur'an says, do you want to win hearts? Do you want to improve your relation with your in-laws? Do this. This is the magic that God is giving us, this is elixir, then you will see that between you and the one that there was enmity, "ka'annahu waliyyun hameem"(41:34), as if you are mates now. Become friends again, break the ice. Somebody has to initiate it.

Then Qur'an says of course, this is easier said than done. "Wa ma yulaqqaha ilal ladheena sabaru"(41:35). That is what I said, unless I enjoy patience, this master key does not work. It is a master key, but you need to have patience. What do you mean patience? Because first time, maybe it does not work. Second time, the person mashaAllah, some people are difficult. Qur'an says that there are people that their heart is unfortunately is harder than a rock. A rock, you may penetrate the rock, but mashaAllah this heart is so - never mind, time will come, even this rock will break. Do it again. Do it again. Do not give up. Say that "If you are a stubborn, I am more stubborn."

Someone wanted to go to Hajj and went to his friend seeking forgiveness and the friend says "I do not want to see you." I know that both of them have passed away now. He said, I went to his shop and I was standing behind the counter, he said "I have come seeking forgiveness." He said, "I do not need your forgiveness and I do not want to see you. I do not have time for this." He said, I went inside and I dropped myself on his feet. I said, "Brother, I am serious. I am going to Hajj. It is not a joke. It is not just a formality." And once I dropped on his feet, then it touched him. He said, "No, no, no. What are you doing? Get up. Get up." And Al-Hamdulillah.

If you are serious, try to say that, no matter what, I have to get through to his heart or to her heart. "Wa ma yulaqqaha ilal ladheena sabaru"(41:34). Unless those who are patient, otherwise they are not able to apply this rule. "Wa ma yulaqqaha", Allahu Akbar "wa ma yulaqqaha ilal ladheena sabaru wa ma yulaqqaha illa dhu hadhin adheem"(41:35). Those that the Almighty God has given them a great portion of reward. Remember, what was the great portion of reward? Without count. That is for the patient. If you are after a great portion of rewards in the hereafter, go for it with patience and you will win.

Then Qur'an says, when you want to do this, unfortunately some of us ignorantly "No leave him". She checks with her sister, with her mother, or he checks with somebody else. "I heard from Sheikh, I am going to do this.", "No, no, no, no. They are not deserving. That is not for them. Do not worry. It is not going to work."

Qur'an says "Wa imma yan za ghannaka minash shaytani nazghun"(41:36), if a devil, in the form of your sibling, in the form of your uncle, in the form of somebody else, human, comes and is whispering [to] you, giving you other information, other instruction, other than what we are telling you, what Qur'an is telling you, "Wa imma yan za ghannaka minash-shaytani nazghun fasta'idh billahi minash-shaytanir-rajim"(41:36). Seek refuge with Allah. Say Ya Allah, help me against my brother, help me against my dad, my mum, my siblings, my friends, they are not giving me right advice. In the same way that Prophet Yusuf protected himself by seeking refuge to Allah. In that moment, "I do not know, this is what Qur'an says, what was the reference?" Surah Fussillat Chapter 41, Ayah 34 to 36. Please go to it and memorize it.

And Ya Rabb, bless us, inshaAllah this Ramadhan, for the Eid al-Fitr, we make this Ayah inshaAllah my motto that we want to apply. So that after the Eid, inshaAllah Ya Rabb. Wallah, if I receive one message inshaAllah at least from this beautiful, caring, generous community that the lady says, "Sheikh, thank you very much. Now, my relationship with my mother in law is back to so sweet, Al-Hamdulillah." Even one person, or with somebody else, I am just giving an example. One message like this, inshaAllah if I receive, I am done for the whole year, and really this is the best reward for me.

As I said, let us read this du'a inshaAllah again. Bismillahir-Rahmanir-Rahim Rabanna afrigh 'alayna sabra wathabit aqdamana wansurna 'alal qawmil kafireen (2:250). Sallallaahu ala Muhammad wa aali Muhammad. [Allahumma salli ala Muhammad wa aali Muhammad]